Hello! all of you who feel lonely, do not fit into society and do not find love. I often think about what loneliness is. Is it to love and not respond to your feelings. Or in having someone by your side and being lonelier than all the unloved ones. Or being so different that you can't find your place among others. From time to time I am tormented by this disease, so common today, unfortunately. And the medicine I found for myself is - OPTIMISM. Every morning when I wake up, instead of the usual dose of coffee, I take a good mood pill. It is invisible, but tangible :) Then I put drops of LOVE in my eyes. I draw a smile on my face (not hypocritical of course;) and go outside. From the many thoughts in the moments when loneliness tormented me, I came to the conclusion that one makes the choice oneself, whether to live under one roof with loneliness. Or to enjoy life. There is a saying "Every train has passengers". Years ago, it sounded pretty funny and naive to me. Today, however, I am sure that what is said in it is absolutely true. Really when you search - you find. If you have chosen to be lonely and closed in on yourself, you will be self-pitying and suffering. But if you choose the difficult path of swallowing pride and true love for others, you will always find a cure for your loneliness. When you love people and they love you, but only if your love is sincere. The first time you smile at them they will be your enemies, the second too. The third time you turn to them with love in your heart, even if they are not your friends, they will no longer be your enemies. Today, perhaps, it is harder than ever to make real friends. We have become fraternal leeches, who do not seek the love of the other and the other. And they seek only their own benefit and well-being. Hey about that, I think I have so much loneliness. Because of the selfishness that has permeated our entire lives. Another remedy for loneliness is joy. You will not be lonely if you learn to enjoy the sun's rays early in the morning, the few flowers left on the street, the wind in the leaves of the trees. I do not deny that life is cruel and often takes away what we love the most. However, there is a danger that when we accept suffering in our hearts, we will sink into its infinite depths. To become lone wolves, lonely and unloved. When the snail hides in its shell, no one can see its sad eyes. When a person shuts himself in, no one can see the tears in his eyes. Therefore, let us not shut ourselves in. Let's look boldly to the future, drawn by the morning rays of the sun, smile and hope! To overcome loneliness with the only weapon we have - LOVE! I apologize to everyone who got bored of my long outpouring! I just wanted to show the ray of light I saw while looking for my cure for loneliness :)
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Very poetic! How old are you?
I fully support you because I think so too. :}
1. On enough 3. :)
I was very moved by what you wrote, I agree with you. I think time heals every wound, it really remains a scar that you can't stop seeing all your life, but still ... It's the same with loneliness. Maybe sometimes a person needs to shake off all these impudence that surrounds them all day, to fold in his shell and be alone with his thoughts. Sometimes it's even better to be alone. But not forever, of course. Man, after all, was not created to live alone. When you really feel alone and you don't have to, then you really feel like you're in the abyss. And there is no way out of it unless someone is found to lend you a hand. So it happened to me, and I thank God for sending me this wonderful man, who saved me from something terrible that was ahead of me. But sometimes this happens in life, the wheel does not stop spinning.
And I want to get rid of the loneliness that has enveloped me, but when a person has too many troubles and troubles, he loses faith in everything, in God, in himself and prefers to be alone. It is really unfortunate and sad to see a lonely person closed in on himself, but he himself knows what is wrong with him. Sometimes it is better to be alone, to gather your thoughts and strength, because the world is cruel and you have to be strong and confident. to survive. You are right that we should think optimistically, but it does not always help. It depends a lot on your character. Most lonely people have reached this stage because they are insecure, shrunken and too shy.
It is true that thinking constantly optimistically is not possible. Optimism is not a distant idyll to keep us above things. It is simply a medicine that we should use when we need it. Indeed, life is harsh and cruel and hard. But we must not forget that he is as we made him. As for faith, it also has its healing power. As long as it's real. And when trust is added to faith, the recipe is complete. Good luck to all who fight the monster of the 21st century - LONELINESS!
It took me a long time to realize a very important truth of life. I don't even think I realized it yet. A saying goes, "You don't know what tomorrow will bring." It can bring you disappointments, but it can also bring you joy. So many unexpected things can happen to you. You just have to think positively and not give up. Either you will conquer life - or he will conquer you. Anyway, one day each of us will lie in the grave. It is better to fulfill our short stay on Earth with meaning, not with torment!
; (What I read is very touching of all. And I think after reading that I will break the shell I have been carrying since I was born. Thank you all very much for making me realize that not everything in this life is loneliness :) Thank you.
Темата е много актуална за времето, в което живеем. Ако човек е чувствителен, в изолация и без социални контакти, ако са го сполетели неща, които сам не може да преодолее, но няма с кого да сподели дори проблемите си защото никой не иска и да чуе как на някой си му било трудно - тогава вариантите са два: 1. Да се предаде на депресията, на отчаянието, на безсилието. Да се затвори в черупката си и да престане да се интересува от СВЕТА, защото и СВЕТА не се интересува от него 2. Да се опита да заобича този несъвършен свят, да дава любовта си без да мисли колко любов му се възвръща. Ще настъпи момент, в който силите ще дойдат и живота ще се промени. Според мен причина за всичко е нашата СВРЪХЧУВСТВИТЕЛНОСТ. Тя ни кара да възприемаме болезнено нещата. А винаги има решение, но не винаги успяваме да видим решението.
I was just speechless ... It's really a cure for the pain of loneliness. The most basic is so well sensed. Thanks to this strong man he survived and found siblings in his pain. And most importantly - there is a lesson from every pain that makes us stronger and stronger to move forward. Thanks and lots of smiles!
Very well written!
This is salvation!
Alas, I don't think I will be able to join the general idyll ... Number 10, I'm type 1. I'm tired of watching people not notice me, and when they do ... it usually gets worse. Nobody appreciates my dignity as a person, and I am proud and do not want to pray to anyone. So now I am waiting for the moment when people will stop looking in every appearance of a mannequin or money and will find someone to pay attention to the soul , of what lies within us.Congratulations to all who write on this site!
Loneliness is treatable;)
Nonsense if you love and they love you .. it's not true not everyone responds to you the way you want me to love me because they don't love me?!?! I had a lot of friends and they left me every day in the summer I went out with them and one day they just left me I don't know why! and yesterday I told one of these friends that I miss her and she told me: hmm, just if I missed her, she would tell me the same thing ..
useful reading - I liked it! / like my sun rope .... /; here it is: / If you fall into a hole - I will give you a strong sun rope! If you are sad - I will send you a smiling rainbow after rain! Your pain, I will give to the dog - just and only, you to shine for me! / ...
I want to congratulate the girl who wrote this topic, I rarely liked something I read so much. In the morning, when I got up to enjoy the sun's rays, to draw a smile on my face, but not ironic! I also think that we are not talking about optimism, but about methodical positive thinking and attitude towards the set, which is really one of the small saves from loneliness. for the comments I want to answer: 6: you are right that the fate for some is harder, for example I am 22 and I find a lot of white hair already, I have too many problems for my age, but for most of them you are to blame. I think that for those of you who have listed insecure, shrunken and too shy, these are people who have left their problems to overcome them and have chosen this way of thinking themselves. 8 comment is very nice :) 14 is an insecure person, which no one notices it because he did it himself. I can only tell him that the problem is not in the whole world that he does not notice it, but inside himself! There are people all over the world in front of us, don't shut yourself in, as someone above said for every train, there are passengers as long as you look for it and really want it.
I am a disabled 2nd group and I have no friends and I feel lonely. Otherwise, I do not lack anything material. only loneliness torments me. I don't have a job and even more so.
My advice to all who suffer from loneliness is to read the books of Exarch Tole.
I really liked this article. Well done!
Hello. The topic of loneliness excites me because I myself suffer from it. I think that methods that include words like "It's your own fault" and "You did it yourself" never help. The only case in which someone is guilty of loneliness is when he is unfriendly and even cruel to others. Not everyone is to blame. Sometimes circumstances just bother you. I can tell you that by trying to instill in suffering people that they are to blame, you are not helping them, you are only hurting them even more. If you can't think of anything other than "It's your fault," it's better not to say anything. On the issue of optimism. Optimism really helps. He and inner self-confidence are the strongest drugs against mental pain. And I want to express my opinion on this issue. From personal experience I have found that there are two types of uncertainty. 1. Inner, which consists in the lack of love for yourself and, accordingly, for others. There is no cure for it. The feeling of self-importance you either have or not. It cannot be acquired. 2. Emotional. (Or planted, as I call it). It refers to people who are intrinsically confident and able to love themselves and others, but because of someone's cruel treatment have developed a sense of strong guilt and depression. That's why I call it emotional. The injured person, no matter how confident he is inside, emotions speak for themselves. Everyone is subject to them. I guess it has happened to everyone internally to feel things in one way, and on a purely emotional level - in a completely different way. For this type of loneliness, the cure is to communicate with the people we love and accordingly they love us. But because it is often caused precisely by the lack of such people in our lives, it cannot always help. My advice in such cases is to direct your negative emotions to something, instead of accumulating them. It should be related to some activity. You can scream, paint, sing. If you are a creative type, it will help you a lot :). Or read. The most important thing is not to shut yourself in for fear of being hurt. You will be surprised after a while when you see how someone's rude words have much less impact on you than before. But to achieve this, you need training. So communicate. Try it. Even if you are not sure that you will find someone, it is likely to happen. And if there is something that makes you feel good, even if it doesn't solve the problem in general, do it. It may sound funny, but remember the saying: "Drop by drop makes a pool." A little of this, a little of that, and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :)
Hello. The topic of loneliness excites me because I myself suffer from it. I think that methods that include words like "It's your own fault" and "You did it yourself" never help. The only case in which someone is guilty of loneliness is when he is unfriendly and even cruel to others. Not everyone is to blame. Sometimes circumstances just bother you. I can tell you that by trying to instill in suffering people that they are to blame, you are not helping them, you are only hurting them even more. If you can't think of anything other than "It's your fault," it's better not to say anything. On the issue of optimism. Optimism really helps. He and inner self-confidence are the strongest drugs against mental pain. And I want to express my opinion on this issue. From personal experience I have found that there are two types of uncertainty. 1. Inner, which consists in the lack of love for yourself and, accordingly, for others. There is no cure for it. The feeling of self-importance you either have or not. It cannot be acquired. 2. Emotional. (Or planted, as I call it). It refers to people who are intrinsically confident and able to love themselves and others, but because of someone's cruel treatment have developed a sense of strong guilt and depression. That's why I call it emotional. The injured person, no matter how confident he is inside, emotions speak for themselves. Everyone is subject to them. I guess it has happened to everyone internally to feel things in one way, and on a purely emotional level - in a completely different way. For this type of loneliness, the cure is to communicate with the people we love and accordingly they love us. But because it is often caused precisely by the lack of such people in our lives, it cannot always help. My advice in such cases is to direct your negative emotions to something, instead of accumulating them. It should be related to some activity. You can scream, paint, sing. If you are a creative type, it will help you a lot :). Or read. The most important thing is not to shut yourself in for fear of being hurt. You will be surprised after a while when you see how someone's rude words have much less impact on you than before. But to achieve this, you need training. So communicate. Try it. Even if you are not sure that you will find someone, it is likely to happen. And if there is something that makes you feel good, even if it doesn't solve the problem in general, do it. It may sound funny, but remember the saying: "Drop by drop makes a pool." A little of this, a little of that, and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) a little of that and in the end you may find yourself in a completely different position than you ever imagined, and much better than the previous one. Under no circumstances should you give up your life, even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) even if it hurts and bad things happen to you. "When there is no fish, cancer is a fish." Better a poor horse than no horse at all. If you give up, it gets worse. Finally, let me repeat that "there are passengers for every train". Try to catch these passengers. You may succeed :). Even the biggest failure is better than a lifetime with the thought "What if". You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :) You should not just wonder. Take action! :) And since I've flooded you enough with folk wisdom and sayings, I stop here. :)
Thanks !!
Hello :-) When I feel lonely I read a book, watch a comedy, listen to my favorite music, do gymnastics. The important thing is to make the volume we love, to have fun. :-) If you get bored, sign up for a travel company - there you will meet people and you will be interested. You will not be alone. Or sign up for chess. Or something else of course. And if you can't afford it - keep in touch with your neighbors, cousins or classmates.
Number 26: And if you are in a place unknown to you, without family and acquaintances? If you are tired of unsuccessful such attempts? If he hasn't said a nice word to you in months?
I was left speechless !!! WELL DONE!!! I really liked it :) I also feel lonely very often, which makes me weak. Sometimes I close for days and don't go out just because someone has hurt me a lot. I think I'm to blame, but maybe it's because everyone is selfish. There are very few people who are not. I would like to write more things but I will not swell you with my problems
Author, how are you now? How are you all? :)
I'm still alone. My peers already have 2 children. It's hard to be optimistic when your life is full of disappointments. To give happiness, you must be happy yourself.
Loneliness is the feeling that you are deprived of all attention, understanding and tenderness ... !! Everyone needs someone to tell them I'M WITH YOU .. !! Every being needs to hear the words I LOVE YOU .. !! Under every hard shell, hides a man who wants to be loved .. !!!
Hi, I'm an 11 year old girl. I have a communication problem. I don't know why, but I don't like being around people. When I'm among,, friends,, I feel alone. Even if we are 30 people, I still feel alone. Loneliness! Loneliness! All loneliness ... How long will it last? !! At school, everyone thinks I'm weird. They stay away from me. When someone talks to me, I don't know how to answer. If I say anything at all, it is very stupid and out of place. I prefer to stay in my room for days. I prefer not to go out. I love solitude, drawing, writing and most often playing on the computer. People, am I crazy? !! I have loved loneliness since I was a child, but every year it gets bigger and bigger. As I stand, sadness presses on me and I start crying inconsolably. Sometimes I even think about ending my life. I myself do not know why. I get mad at myself. I think they are all my enemies. I don't trust us to even hang out for years. I feel alone, used and discarded. Is it a disease and if it is a disease is it treatable? !!
Obviously loneliness has countless faces and variations. Everyone experiences it differently. If for some the above methods work, for others it is the opposite. Everyone has to find their own way to "fight" it. Good luck to all!
It just helped me, I owe it! :)