Hello ... I have written twice so far about my relationship with a girl with whom we were very close for several months. We shared, you could say we flirted and in general we were very, very "important" to each other. My question was what to do because I fell in love with her and she has a boyfriend ... The answers were divided into giving her up or empty her. After a long time I confessed everything to the last drop ... and a rebuke began why I didn't and I said earlier I don't know why ... I was somewhat happy because I thought she would say that she was also interested. But alas, she told me firmly and coldly that she wanted nothing from me except our friendship, which was extremely important for her ... I quote "The only way to make me happy is to stay in my life" in which I was broken ... I still am. She mentioned several times that she didn't like me that way ... and I love her. In fact, this is the first girl I can say I love. And that's exactly why my heart dropped in my stomach .. I started to lose weight, I didn't do well at work ... I barely spent the working day. But she wants us to be as close friends as before ... which I told her was impossible. It just hurts to be with her and I know nothing can happen. But still I told her that I don't want to lose her as a friend ... I don't know why but I can't let her go. I still have some hope .... fool..what more can I say. But my heart won't let me go. She also said that her current friend is not who knows what was good with her ... but in general there are no feelings. But what to do ? I want her more than anything, and she doesn't want me ... Should I end our friendship and soothe the pain with a few whiskeys and find another person to appreciate me, or should I maintain my friendship with her and hope for a miracle? Both options generally do not suit me because in both I am the one who is broken ... If there is someone who has gone through the same situation, please give advice. I've been cut and torn before ... but I've never been so sick. It's hard to get attached to people. She is the first person in my life who I never wanted to leave. We have been together regularly for almost a year now. But after our conversation today, I don't think we will be the same as before. Thank you very much for reading my stupid story ..
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There's no way out of the friends area, dude. It's very cool for her to just have a friend to fill in the gaps from her relationship (I mean only emotional gaps, just forget about physical intimacy with her) and to be a trash can. I was in your situation, I was like you very much in love with her for years, but gradually I realized that she would not leave her boyfriend despite the big problems in their relationship (the boy was a womanizer and had no serious intentions towards her) I just gave up and I found another girl. Well, she broke up with him after another year, but even before that I didn't want to annoy my new girlfriend and I gradually ended my relationship with her. There was a lot of drama, there was no man's shoulder to cry on, but I was tired of being her soulmate. You're fooling yourself with this friendship, it only sustains the pain and prevents you from moving forward. It was the worst thing for me when I held her in my arms all night after another drama with my friend, and at the same time I realized that she would not be mine. The sooner you end this so-called friendship, the better for you, and there is a minimal chance that she will think and eventually ask for something more from you.
Look now dude, the babe gave you a signal that she was interested. She wants you to run after her and "fight" for her. Such are the women. He won't let go of the branch until he tortures you.
Oh yes, I have experience with similar situations, but even more - I know the right answer to how to act in this case! Listen very carefully now! You have to tell her that you like her very much and want to be together, but if she doesn't perceive you that way, you can't keep in touch, but if she thinks about it, she can look for you. Then no, absolutely no reason to look for her and not communicate with her. At some point she will realize what she has lost, her feelings will change and she will realize that she wants you to be together and will look for you. If not just keep your life clean.
If you find it difficult to. you only maintain a friendship with her, go for the whiskey option and find another person.
My opinion is you drink one for her health and you continue for several reasons: First of all, you are already quite late, she has already taken you from a potential man as a potential friend because you like women, they like brave and determined men. When you want to be with her and show it at the moment, if it doesn't happen, you continue. Secondly, as a man I don't like whore numbers from the male class, you dude can't know that she has a friend and you keep pushing, an absolute manifestation of low self-esteem and lack of respect for her and her choice, for the person next to her who he can love her to himself. Be a man, you have no right to spoil people's relationships. You do not know what they have been through and what they are going through. Now that you've admitted it to her, it's time to back off. If you like her so much, you'll wait for her to decide who she wants to be with. If she's ever seen anything in you, believe me, she'll see it again. You will hardly be pleased to know that someone is explaining himself in love with your girlfriend. The genitals don't make us men, stay at the level of a dude, stop exposing yourself. Respect to be respected.
Stop it! I've been in the same situation and I just can't think of the girl sometimes, but time heals. We broke up our friendship quite badly, we were very attached to each other for about a year every day together and I kept thinking and she would fall in love and finally she left with some moron and it was over. Already feeling where things were going I took there is no way to exist friendship between a boy and a girl always someone falls in love ..
From the author To number 5, dude, isn't it stupid to explain to you how you are the best thing in life and how happy it is to have you. How did he constantly hint that there might be something between us? I respect her, that's why I gave in, but she had no right to turn me around like that. How did you explain to me that she wanted to be with me all her life, is that normal? I've been in the friendship zone more than once, and I'm a friendzone-shaft of other girls. I understand that we just acted like friends, but aside, everyone thought we were together, even her best friends. I didn't want to fall in love, not to expose myself in this way. She signaled to me that she was single, I thought she had broken up with hers, so I acted. When I realized that they were still together, I stopped. I may be a male whore, this is understood differently from the different views and thinking of people. For me, I was just standing my ground. I didn't tell her to break up with him and come to me. Or that hers doesn't work and I'm better. It's just stupid to behave like more than friends for 1 year and finally catch a cock. The pain increases with each passing day. Maybe the weather is healing, for now I have stopped the contacts with her and I am waiting for this time to do the magic. But for now there is no result. And isn't it also selfish of her to want us to keep our friendship in spite of everything, and if we don't keep it, she would be very disappointed? What am I? A play doll? I understand you and I think the same way. Believe me, I will not make this mistake of revealing myself 100% to a stranger ... never again. I repeated myself too much and have already learned my lesson. It's just stupid to behave like more than friends for 1 year and finally catch a cock. The pain increases with each passing day. Maybe the weather is healing, for now I have stopped the contacts with her and I am waiting for this time to do the magic. But for now there is no result. And isn't it also selfish of her to want us to keep our friendship in spite of everything, and if we don't keep it, she would be very disappointed? What am I? A play doll? I understand you and I think the same way. Believe me, I will not make this mistake of revealing myself 100% to a stranger ... never again. I repeated myself too much and have already learned my lesson. It's just stupid to behave like more than friends for 1 year and finally catch a cock. The pain increases with each passing day. Maybe time heals for now I have stopped contact with her and I am waiting for this time to do the magic. But for now there is no result. And isn't it also selfish of her to want us to keep our friendship in spite of everything, and if we don't keep it, she would be very disappointed? What am I? A play doll? I understand you and I think the same way. Believe me, I will not make this mistake of revealing myself 100% to a stranger ... never again. I repeated myself too much and have already learned my lesson. But for now there is no result. And isn't it also selfish of her to want us to keep our friendship in spite of everything, and if we don't keep it, she would be very disappointed? What am I? A play doll? I understand you and I think the same way. Believe me, I will not make this mistake of revealing myself 100% to a stranger ... never again. I repeated myself too much and have already learned my lesson. But for now there is no result. And isn't it also selfish of her to want us to keep our friendship in spite of everything, and if we don't keep it, she would be very disappointed? What am I? A play doll? I understand you and I think the same way. Believe me, I will not make this mistake of revealing myself 100% to a stranger ... never again. I repeated myself too much and have already learned my lesson.
I can't know the background, judging by what you wrote. Dude, you're very emotional and naive. In order to get here, only you are to blame, you succumb to the stupid emotions that I once succumbed to and thought about in the same way. You think that everything related to love there is no lie, there is no deception, I can tell you that this is where the biggest lie and delusion takes place simply because people use these emotions to manipulate and obscure your consciousness. They tell you what you want to hear. Now, if I tell you, brother, she's rubbish, she doesn't deserve you, and most people will feel good because you hear the thing with which you apologize to yourself for another failure. You shift the blame to the other simply because you cannot swallow the truth that you have once again failed and been deceived, trampled, beaten and spat upon. The truth is that you are a fool first because once again you have not learned from your mistakes, once again you believe in empty talk, once again you humiliate yourself and ignore principles and dignity that you have only because someone told you something, once again you trust "hints", once again they played you. Remember something from me. Words without actions have no value, read between the lines, trust only yourself and your relatives, the more you stand up for yourself the more she will respect you, all or nothing, admit failure in front of yourself do not delude yourself, a woman is driven by emotions and not out of reason. once again you trust "hints", once again they have played you. Remember something from me. Words without actions have no value, read between the lines, trust only yourself and your relatives, the more you stand up for yourself the more she will respect you, all or nothing, admit failure in front of yourself do not delude yourself, a woman is driven by emotions and not out of reason. once again you trust "hints", once again they have played you. Remember something from me. Words without actions have no value, read between the lines, trust only yourself and your relatives, the more you stand up for yourself the more she will respect you, all or nothing, admit failure in front of yourself do not deceive yourself, a woman is driven by emotions and not out of reason.
Well, she wants to have you for herself because she is flattered by your feelings, but without giving you what you need. I think that if she allows you to be friends, even though you have confessed your feelings to her, that is, she does not insist on breaking up, every time you have to do something in the direction of physical rapprochement in order to get to you cross the line of intimacy. Here they will write to you to dump this soul vampire, but does it make sense, since you love her so much, and all these women are the same in this respect - they are looking for spare ports, additions to the bench. Just in case, and to brush their ego. It's insulting, but if you're aggressive and persistent, you might succeed. In any case, you have nothing to lose, because if she withdraws from your attempts, even better, your suffering will stop. But something tells me you will succeed. Maybe he wants to test you, how stubborn you are. Seemingly accept to be friends, keep in mind that it is impossible for a woman to take big steps to change the status quo at once, women are afraid of rapid changes. Therefore, pro forma accept that you are friends, but with your actions and especially on a mental level (with broadcasts of mental messages), behave like a boyfriend. When you look at her, imagine all sorts of intimate scenes with her, it will affect her on a subconscious level. And every time more and more SMALL steps: you search for her hair, touch her arm, shoulder, neck, and so on. The small-step tactic is winning. Suddenly things don't work out. but with his actions and especially on a mental level (with broadcasts of mental messages), he behaves like a boyfriend. When you look at her, imagine all sorts of intimate scenes with her, it will affect her on a subconscious level. And every time more and more SMALL steps: you search for her hair, you touch her arm, shoulder, neck, and so on. The small-step tactic is winning. Suddenly things don't work out. but with his actions and especially on a mental level (with broadcasts of mental messages), he behaves like a boyfriend. When you look at her, imagine all sorts of intimate scenes with her, it will affect her on a subconscious level. And every time more and more SMALL steps: you search for her hair, touch her arm, shoulder, neck, and so on. The small-step tactic is winning. Suddenly things don't work out.
Well, if she played with you, you played with her too. This is the counter-weapon. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise.
From the Author: Number 9 I have done all this already and more. We had some intimate intimacy. But he cut me off again. But something tells me it's not the end, even though I don't keep the same relationship. Otherwise, we were constantly physically hooked. We were huddled on a bench. And to slap her ass and she liked it. Honestly, I get my tape back again and again. And I still don't know how we got here.