Hello, a confused 23-year-old girl writes to you. So, I met a boy at the place where I work and maybe from the first or second time, when our eyes met, I was attracted to him ... and now I think that I'm in love! :) In my work the team is large - over 200 people, I have no friends and you can say that the first 2-3 weeks I looked at most of the boys, but in particular I was attracted by one. I detect it either when I come or leave work, or in the chair where I go down to lunch. He sometimes comes alone, sometimes with colleagues and is quite talkative with them, but he has not talked to me yet. The first time I saw him I was wondering - why is he staring at me like that? !! And the next few times we saw him, I watched him — and he looked at me, but for minutes, not seconds. I found it interesting when I first sat down at my table, where I had lunch with another girl. He listened to our conversation, but did not join. I went down to the chair alone to see if we accidentally came across him, he could come sit next to me and talk, but no ... he sits in the distance at a table and watches me from there ... I have the feeling that maintains distance. And when I talk to someone else, he sits at the next table and listens to our conversation, but without getting involved. That's what happened when another boy was sitting down to lunch with me, and he took me down - I was trying to talk to him about some common topics, about work, and he first asked me where I was going out and if I wanted to go for coffee sometime, when I refused, he invited me to go for a walk, if I don't want to go for a walk, maybe to a disco, I was ashamed and I didn't say anything to him ... and I don't like him either. And my man was at the next table listening to everything! How did I know he was listening, like we were talking to this one, who was sitting down to lunch with me, I mentioned that the colleague at the next table was more in tune with the things his department was doing. I heard only one big sigh and felt that he stopped having lunch for 2-3 minutes ... He is an Aquarius and as far as I read in the forums, they are quite distant and strange people. I am Libra and in principle we should not have problems in communication, but something does not work out for us. I got scared and "searched" for him on Facebook and wrote to him "I was wondering if we hadn't seen each other somewhere, eg at work": D quite clichéd, but he still answered me immediately. We exchanged 4-5 lines, mostly who works in which department and that was our conversation 1 month ago ... Nothing since. I see him again, we exchange a look, but he doesn't dare talk to me, and I don't dare to talk to him. I'm generally nice, but shy, and yet I took the first step. It annoys me a lot! And we have no common acquaintances for now from colleagues or friends to ask about him - he's supposed to be talkative, but it's as if he swallowed a cane ... And I'm confused. I feel like he likes me too, but he hasn't shown it to me yet. It just holds my door when we hit the entrance / exit. Cavalier .. but what of that, one hello does not say,. I'm tormented and I don't know what to do. And so it has been for 6-7 months. / I found out a lot about him - where he studied, then he followed, where he is from, what his friends are like, his family, his ex-boyfriend, that he is single ... I made a fake profile for this purpose. Don't judge me - when you're in love, you do stupid things! Immediately accepted a friendship, I had put a picture of my cousin with a fake name: D. I think, no matter how shy a man is, if he really likes you, will he come to you alone or at least make some effort to talk to you? Don't you think so ??? So far I have only had 2 boyfriends, but I have not had a serious relationship, and by serious I mean living with a boy. I want the person next to me to be not only my boyfriend, but also my friend. ADVISE ME What to do if you still read the whole story, even when we disagree I think I could sometimes say "hello" to him, but as soon as he notices that I'm looking at him, he looks away: (((strange man! I wonder if it's still worth hoping for something or not? 1 month has passed since our first conversation on Facebook, but he hasn't written to me since then, so I took a final measure - I blocked it, so I don't suffer anymore Why should I know so much about him, since there is no contact, communication and conversation live! Thanks in advance by serious I mean to live with a boy. I want the person next to me to be not only my boyfriend, but also my friend. ADVISE ME What to do if you still read the whole story, even when we disagree I think I could sometimes say "hello" to him, but as soon as he notices that I'm looking at him, he looks away: (((strange man! I wonder if it's still worth hoping for something or not? 1 month has passed since our first conversation on Facebook, but he hasn't written to me since then, so I took a final measure - I blocked it, so I don't suffer anymore Why should I know so much about him, since there is no contact, communication and conversation live! Thanks in advance by serious I mean to live with a boy. I want the person next to me to be not only my boyfriend, but also my friend. ADVISE ME What to do if you still read the whole story, even when we disagree I think I could sometimes say "hello" to him, but as soon as he notices that I'm looking at him, he looks away: (((strange man! I wonder if it's still worth hoping for something or not? 1 month has passed since our first conversation on Facebook, but he hasn't written to me since then, so I took a final measure - I blocked it, so I don't suffer anymore Why should I know so much about him, since there is no contact, communication and conversation live! Thanks in advance Why should I know so much about him, since there is no contact, communication and conversation live! thanks in advance Why should I know so much about him, since there is no contact, communication and conversation live! thanks in advance
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I don't see what's embarrassing about you talking about it? !! He may not notice you the way you think, he may have a job, he may be busy, he may be tense, he may think you don't like him, he may turn to another, there are 100 reasons why a man may not talk to you. I can give you an example with many of my friends. They still look at which woman would not refuse them and act for her. Many times one may like them, but when this woman does nothing, they go to another and go out with her. If your colleague is single and looking for a wife, he will probably do so, he will go to another if he does not notice you and does not think that there is interest on your part. I mean, talk to him, I don't see what's embarrassing? Otherwise, if you do that to the men you like, or you'll wait to be talked to all the time, or there's a good chance a brat will come to you who you don't like,
Offff, it's like reading about some children aged 12-13 ....: /
Well, you talk to him, he won't eat you
I'm an Aquarius (so I know what it's about): D: D: D Aquarius is sociable - the soul of the company. And we look attractive in the eyes of women (because we're smart and we don't just look at women as something for *****) and here comes a problem that people don't notice. We are very sociable, but not if we really like a girl (I'm exactly the same, I'm ok with some muffins, I have a lot of girls who are my friends and people are left with the wrong impression ... but when I really like a girl - abe like swallowing a cane is the right expression) A few tips: be more confident and do not bother to take the first, second, etc. steps ... when he is sure that you like him, everything will fall into place and will no longer you need to make an effort: D In no case do not make him jealous and there are such female games. We are logical beings - when they tell us that they don't want to go out with us ... well, ok they don't want to. When we see the girl with another boy ... well, ok - the better one won. And the scales are sexy and fun and they are a good party for us ... well, give the boy a chance ... find something interesting to do together, tease him about something, talk, be confident and a little mysterious ... try to he understands what you want and doesn't irritate him with other men ... good luck (I hope he's not unlucky, I'll be sick of the advice I gave you)
Well, he's probably shy, attack boldly, if he's in love, it will work, women have been taking the first step for a long time.
This is how our boys became, they always give up the first step: D There is no use waiting, act! And don't interfere with Facebook anymore, switch to real communication. Say hello to him, ask him how he is, the most basic things. However, you work together, the team needs to get to know each other (for example, this is the apparent reason for your interest). Start from there, then sit next to him more often, show him that you are pleasant for company and more than others. And you will do what you have to do! Leave the rest to him. If he shows interest and you become his friend, the border with a loved one becomes thin. If not, you know, forced beauty is not possible. But at least you'll try. Good luck and write how it goes! :)
Introduce yourself as a friend! Don't tell him you like him, because you will scare him, talk about movies, music, your work together, don't rush into personal conversations! ;)
Abe, just call him alone, look at him in love, and tell him that you love him, it is clearer that you are in love with each other. P. 37
Hello! Your story is terribly familiar to me, but with slight differences! What can I advise you - I am a Gemini zodiac sign, and the boy is Aquarius and just like you, we are "trying" to make some more valuable contact for 8 months, but usually our conversations are quite superficial and short (and in my opinion me and he want us to be together more often, but no one takes a step forward). My advice to my personal observations and the very accurately described situation from No. 4 - when a convenient moment comes (you eat in the chair, for example), sit next to him / against him at the table and start talking. You yourself said that you learned a lot about him - now is the time to ask him in person, so he will see that you are interested. Personally, in order to understand that someone likes me, I have to hear these words in plain text. I think the same with Aquarius, who knows. And one more thing - you made a mistake with all these FB profiles, blocks, etc. Find a way to sort things out and I think you have a great chance with your colleague. Success! :)
From the author: Thank you all for the comments and advice, especially on 4, 6, 10. № 4, it helped me a lot :) I had already given up on the person, but if you say that it is the same with you ... I will put more a little effort to start talking live, but to like a person is much more important than just liking it visually. Thanks for the shared opinion and advice. 10- good luck to you too :)