I am a happily married woman. I have a man with whom I have been for almost 25 years. We had good and bad moments, normal for a family. But, the moment came when I met a man, and, in the chat. From that moment on, everything went upside down. I fell in love with this man. We chat for hours every night, during the day the phone calls are for hours again. We don't have enough time. And where is the problem? In the distance! They are 400 km apart. You will say, if desired, the distances do not matter. Yes, that's right, but when I told this man that I had the opportunity to see him, he fell silent, I felt fear in him, even though he kept telling me that he loved and wanted me. If we start this topic for the meeting he is afraid. Help me, give me advice, what can I count on in this situation?
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don't you think it's not very normal for this person to be afraid to see each other, that can only say one thing - he's not the person he's pretending to be. This is the good thing about the internet space - a person can lie to you not for months but for years and you can't understand. I would give you advice to worry not about a stranger but about your husband with whom you have been for 25 years, and he for these 25 years and was with you honest and faithful (I hope) love your husband and leave these chats with strangers, I know that is a mess and interesting and new and someone pays attention to you and makes you feel like a woman writing and speaking kind words to you. . . but remember in the beginning with your husband was not it the same?
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painfully familiar! I have fallen in love with men from the chat at least 3 times! in words everyone is great! they can make your head spin so much that you wonder how there can be such great men and why we haven't met before! all my loves were 400-500 km away from me! and I have to tell you that nothing came out! I wonder how some can be in the chat and quite others live! I don't want to despair you, but all the men in the chat are cowards who have decided to fill their time with some virtual duck to tie to them! I'm not referring to you, don't take offense! I laugh at myself too! chat is terribly captivating, obsessive, I haven't gotten up from the computer all night and day to talk to the "love of my life"! they told me how much they love me, how much they want me, how until now they didn't know what true love is, how they have trouble with their wives, that they don't understand them, how will they get divorced and live together ....... My God, was I so naive as to get caught! ? Now I'm really funny and I'm firmly on the ground! so I understand you completely! do not give in to such an extent that you will not be disappointed later and suffer! the fact that this man doesn't want to see what he's talking about? wouldn't a man who loves and desires you so much turn the earth upside down to be with you ?! answer yourself! I wish you good luck and love! but above all, look at things a little more soberly! Success! he who loves and desires you so much would not turn the earth upside down to be with you ?! answer yourself! I wish you good luck and love! but above all, look at things a little more soberly! Success! he who loves and desires you so much would not turn the earth upside down to be with you ?! answer yourself! I wish you good luck and love! but above all, look at things a little more soberly! Success!
I think it's just a slight trepidation on his part and don't hope for anything more. You better stay with the man!
He bullies you and you bond with him! Tighten it up! On the net, "love" is virtual! That's why you shouldn't bet on her!
I can only say that my boyfriend is currently having a chat in Aha with other women and they are writing things that I do not like and this will definitely break our relationship if he does not stop
It depends, not everyone is rubbish in the chat, as in real life - there are all kinds of people. It's just that the transition from the virtual to the real is a very special moment, and one has to decide whether to hold on. Listen to yourself, you know the answer best.
Well, you are mistaken, he just chats with you and bullies you! I do the same with a dozen men, I fool them a lot! But if they ask for a meeting, I immediately think of something not to happen. Because I have a great boyfriend. I'm 43, by the way.
8, old grandma, if you do that, I wish your great gadget to mess with you or start.
I have the opposite problem ... I am not happily married, although I have been with my husband for 13 years. The men in my life are counted on the fingers of one hand, but they were enough to despair me of love. So much so that I self-taught that I don't benefit from men, why are they? !! see how good I am and so on. Until I met HIM. He doesn't lie to me even for a moment, how do I know? He told me that he was happy with his wife, that he had no problems, and that women were his entertainment. He asks me and answers me ... He doesn't play with me in silence like my husband, for example. He is measured and does not swear to me in love. However, he wants us to meet, and I'm afraid ... Because, my God, even if I know that it will never be mine in a year and a half ... after such long conversations (not for love not for sex) I'm terribly afraid of ruining everything if we see each other. Because I'm like that - I ruin everything. And that's what I've always been looking for in a man. No, he's not flawless - he's cheating on his wife, probably other things, but to me he's perfect as a man. And who knows, if I were his wife and my husband, we might not be looking for someone else. But I will never know because I am afraid to even meet him.
There are two types of men who roam the net: 1. Virtual chikidzhiya Women love with their ears. That's why you fall in love with ... the keyboard. She lies, lies and lies. If he doesn't want you to meet, then he's a virtual chick. Women in real life do not pay attention to him and he kills complexes in cyberspace. 2. Sexual poachers (like me) Our hobby is to put horns. I do it very successfully. But unlike the previous ones - I never lie. I always say I'm married and I'm not getting divorced. And .... then what's left - just sports. You came across the first species - the molds.
I am the author and I am happy to see that my story has been released, because I would like to share that everything developed in a pleasant direction for me, namely, I met the man from the chat and we continue to meet despite the distance. And as for the claims of some of the commenters here that everyone is a fraud, you are wrong, at least in my case. The man from the chat came out the man he introduced himself as, and there was no dose made up of what he introduced himself to me in the chat. So it all depends on the person and his intentions!