On the site I have come across a lot of stories like How to catch a boyfriend / girlfriend, How to impress men / women, What to do to like me, Do you like me, How to express my love, etc. And I wonder - why do people waste their time wondering why, how, whether, when to find love, and not let things happen by themselves? We are so engrossed in liking others that sometimes we sacrifice our interests just to get someone's approval and love ... Why do people think that there is some magic formula, some strictly defined algorithm, which if they follow will succeed in love? Some norms of behavior and attitude, which are the key to a successful relationship ... People are different, everyone has different needs and views on love, there is no universal recipe for love. I'm not criticizing anyone, I do not interfere in anyone's life. I just think we need to think more about ourselves, to be more liberated and things will work out :)
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There is only one love in which if we invest, it will return to us forever and much more than we wished for, but it is difficult to decide on it.
On the contrary, love is physiology and chemistry, in which there is mathematics and algorithms. :) There are also "magic" formulas, but not everyone can know them or achieve them.
"Why do people think that there is some magic formula, some strictly defined algorithm, which if they follow will succeed in love? Some norms of behavior and attitude that are the key to a successful relationship ... People are different, everyone has different needs and views on love, there is no universal recipe for love. "Because it is so and is not called the mathematics of love, but psychology. For some, it is subconscious and successful and very often abused. That's why it's good to study psychology or at least small tricks.
Absolutely true. Advice such as that women do not like when someone quickly becomes attached to them or that they do not like when someone proves to them that they are everything to them and even overdo it with gifts, etc. are absurd. Also, the fact that if you stop writing to a woman and make her think that she no longer cares about you, she will soon look for you is even more absurd. Many girls and women have told me that when someone loses interest in them, they write it off directly, so it all depends on the individual. But definitely the most important thing is to be beautiful, everyone looks at the appearance first, the rest are details
"And I wonder - why do people waste their time wondering why, how, if, when to find love and not let things happen on their own?" - Because they don't happen, my friend, because they don't happen! Recently, an acquaintance and I talked about a post that said, "We're forever between 'something' and 'nothing.' Between 'I want you' and 'we're just friends.' Between 'you have me' and 'I'll never belong to you.' And we will stay there. " So we agree with her that firstly many people are like that and secondly it is because people are influenced by momentary emotions, how they feel at the moment and are influenced by the opinion of others and ultimately do not bring things to an end. . Leaving that,
Very well said, congratulations
I do not quite agree. If someone is told in 90% of cases "I appreciate you very much as a friend", obviously there is something that needs to be corrected. Yes, there is certainly an individual element. We don't all like the same thing. But who just doesn't know what to do - to accept that he is unlucky or to try to improve? There are things that matter - vision, self-confidence, demeanor. Author, I wonder if you will love someone 1.60, 110 kg with a small dick, unemployed, complex and simpleton. It is possible, but the chance is small. And I would rather advise such a person to play sports, find a job and behave well with people, and not to say to himself that "no one can explain love and there is no recipe". It is not said that you will necessarily fall in love with a tall, handsome millionaire,
the formula is to look decent (clean, tidy, well-dressed, by the latter I do not mean high fashion, but normal clothing), not to allow (many) overweight, to be friendly, polite, reasonable, with a good general culture, radiant self-confidence and things will turn out if not on the first and second attempt, then in the foreseeable future.
Bravo №4! The only thing I would add is that regardless of the purpose of the lesson, the most important thing is to be able to build a trusting relationship with the girl. All the tricks / lies, manipulations, stupid jokes, etc./ set aside so that you don't behave like a pinched young lady afterwards, ie offended.