Hello! I'm tiny and probably a lot of things aren't clear to me yet, but at least I already know what I want. Except I don't know how to do it. I am one of those few people left, easily hurt, never hating. Here is what happened: I met a man, for a negative time he turned my head beyond recognition. In the beginning, everything was magical, it surrounded me with attention, small gestures and looks ... too good to be true. I was sure it was happening to him, so casually and truly, there was no way it was a delusion. Then a stupid misunderstanding happened and everything fell apart. Since then, the more desperately I try to bring him back, the colder he gets. He behaves as he pleases: one day he looks for me and is kind, the next he is indifferent, the third he is friendly, the fourth he is cruel, and so on every day. These moods of his just crush me. He never gives me a clear answer as to what exactly he feels for me. Lately the glass has been overflowing. I became like a rag he is terribly indifferent to when he's not having fun, and then I forget and give him my attention when he looks for me again. The bad thing is that I experience these things incredibly painfully. I keep thinking that there will come a time when my heart will be so broken that I will not want to see it again. But it doesn't happen! No matter what he does, no matter what he says, I don't hate even for a moment. How I want to stop feeling any feelings, to become cold and indifferent. If my heart stops feeling, the pain will stop. I will be able to stand up and turn my back on him. I will put an end to this madness. It's a pity, but in this life you have to be a BITCH to succeed. I want to kill my heart, to throw away all the tremors, so that I can finally be happy. If I lose my ability to feel, neither he nor anyone else will be able to hurt him more.
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I tell you from your story how hurt you are
You yourself say that you are still small (I do not know what age it is), but this is still waiting for you .... Sorry for the pessimistic comment, but this is the bitter truth. You will constantly meet such people, they will break your heart. .But just don't stop losing your faith in people and don't stop believing in true love.
It's hard ... I'm going through the same hell. I can't go on anymore, I'm self-destructing, I don't deserve it, I'm a good and dedicated person. And my world does not stop revolving around him. Write here, pour out your grief, I will be by your side if you need it. And I will not need to share with anyone! Number 2, I really hope I don't lose faith in love, I don't know how this will happen after my heart is so broken and empty that I can't bear it anymore, I can't trust it, and at the same time it continues to agonize one person .... who is with another, and thinks about her ...
You definitely should NOT become a bitch, and judging by your reasoning, your words and the self-definitions you give for yourself (easily vulnerable, never hating ...) will not suit you. There are women who seem to have this innate - to dominate, to want everything to happen as they say, to act without thinking how and whether they hurt someone, just to be good, to betray, to do dirt for no reason, only for sports ... Here is such a woman you can tell her that she is a bitch..but how much and whether she is happy she knows. So you will not find happiness in becoming calculating and cold because of someone who has appeared in your life, and tomorrow will be over. I don't know how old you are ... you say that they are few, but in any case you will meet so many people in the future, you will face so many things, that the current situation will be just a distant memory for you :) Don't become a monster, because of Mr. Nobody !!! Just be in a position if he is used to playing girls like that, and you show him that you will be the first one where his numbers will not pass! Don't deal with him ... even if he's looking for you ... it's clear from miles that he's not for you. Keep going, raise your head and do not regret something that is transient! Good luck!!! Christ
Love does not exist ! It's all hormones in the head. Read a little evolutionary psychology.
Milichka and I am like that and I don't know what to do anymore, you really want to write to me on skype cvetoslava.nikolaeva is him
Dear girl, I understand you. I myself, on the other hand, a decent man, a good devotee, I suffered because of my kindness. My wife manipulated me for 2 years. I gave my life and finally gave me the greatest pain in the world. for the last time to tell me all the things she wrote to me and said on the phone in my eyes but she doesn't want to. he gave me hiding.
How can you not want to be a bitch? While he's fucking with you, doesn't he care how you feel? If I were you, I would make fun of him so that he would remember me !!!
This is not love, but killing complexes. Stop feeding his ego with your melancholy and questions about how he feels about you. Be indifferent and you will smear it. I don't think it's good to be against love :). She can really be beautiful. Trite - but you have not come across your man, and you yourself are not doing anything at the moment to prepare for it. For this love, which will elevate you, will make you good and beautiful and will not require you to trample on your self-esteem.
I was in the same situation. The gentleman with whom I wasted so many dreams, tears, time behaved in exactly the same way as described by you. But at one point I got tired and stopped being interested in him. He was completely indifferent to me. I came out of the hole I had fallen into and continued my life as it was before he appeared. And do you know what happened? He noticed the change and started running after me. He complains to all our acquaintances that he is in pain, that he has understood what he has lost, etc. But too late ... Try to be indifferent to him and you will see how he will rush after you. One piece of advice, however - do not attach yourself to him at all, no matter how much he begs you and exhorts you that he will change and will be good to you. They don't deserve it. Success! The ice queen
You know darling and I passed him the same time I was humiliated in front of everyone even in front of ours and it really hurt .. As he wanted he treated me .. I depended a lot on his moods, etc. until one day we quarreled and he told me hit a fist in the face and I left ..I was devastated..I didn't go out I didn't eat I didn't do anything 2 3 days and finally I decided to get up and continue .. I found another boyfriend and I was happy with him I separated from his company I started a new life as they say ..And when he saw that I was getting up and I was strong without him, he told me exactly that it hurt me that he didn't look for me and that he continued and apologized to me and asked me to be with him but alas he didn't I agreed because he had caused me so much pain .. For this dear tighten, try to be indifferent to him and you will see how everything will turn out in your country ..No matter how much it hurts, try to be a little stronger without him, because there are many other people to live for :))
Be indifferent to his godfather if he says a kind word or something like that, cut him off. Be cold and do not show weakness in front of him. The more inaccessible you are, the more he will think of you.