My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, we have been living together for 3 years. I'm terribly attached to him and I can't imagine we're not together. Even soon we think we will live only alone (now we are with my parents). I'm sure he loves me too. He forgave me for the many nonsense I did and the many insults he suffered from me (I realize that sleep is difficult). He has made too many compromises. BUT we are very different. I feel like living, I want to go out, to have fun. Rather, he sticks to his career and is a homemaker. It's hard to even get him to go for a walk (mostly because he works all the time). We still have a lot of differences in character, but if I start to list them ... I spent long nights thinking about ending our relationship. I even tried to do it, but the moment he hugged me ... I melt and I can't pronounce a syllable. I don't know what to do. It doesn't even attract me sexually anymore. What keeps me with him are the warm hugs. Give advice.
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You do not appreciate your friend and his attitude towards you. It is right not to lie to him about your true intentions and that he is not attracted to you. You're just lying to him now. Separate, find another who, like you, will want to have fun. And with the first problem between you - he will catch another. Then you will have real fun.
Separate. Better for him and for you. What a selfish person you are ... you find security and "warm hugs" in him, but you live, you break. He loves you when he has forgiven you many mistakes. Let him be happy with a woman who appreciates him. You have found another to sexually attract you and lead you here and there. Eventually you will look for him again, but he breaks his head. Everyone on their way the best. Everyone has the right to happiness. Such are some women, you use men and in the end you get bored and look for a new thrill ... Good luck to both of you.
The advice is that you can lose it;) Rate it now. Then you can come across someone who is a bitch and drinks and beats you and makes you a rag. Stay with the boy
You don't say how old you are ... And that's key. If you are 27-28-30 and the person next to you is literate, sit on your ass, because if you rush to live now, you may then just have to have a child from someone and watch it yourself. At a certain age, literate men are a big corner and you will have to choose between a bullet and a bullet ... Think ... But if you are under 25, live calmly ...
You are talking nonsense! Appha, w. 30
I like how he always has "he doesn't go for walks with me" and somehow he interjects "he doesn't attract me sexually". But necessarily always present "I love him very much." Let me tell you how your nonsense sounds in my ears - "Hello, I have a friend who has realized that life is not ahu-ihu in restaurants and has tightened his ass to kick hard because he knows that a family is built with a home. And this house wants serious money, not when you live with your boyfriend's parents and you wonder all day where to go out tonight, and by the way, I don't like anything anymore and I don't want to eat salami, I'm too bored. I like more interesting, bad guys. I want to go to bars, discos a little more. To flirt a little, to "ride" a little. On the other hand, because I'm not so stupid, I realize that this is a mild behavior, typical of a hot teen, and I'm a little over those years. It's okay that I still hang out with mom and dad and they make my pot. And I'm afraid that along with the wild he may miss the tame one. And I want so much .... What should I do? "And here, I tell you - throw it away. This is the most noble gift you can give him. In time he will be grateful to you. And it is the best for him and for you. In any case, your eyes will be very colorful even and when you are with him and things between you become more serious. This is the most noble gift you can give him. He will be grateful to you in time. And it's best for him and for you. Anyway, your eyes will be quite colorful even when you are with him and things between you become more serious. This is the most noble gift you can give him. He will be grateful to you in time. And it's best for him and for you. Anyway, your eyes will be quite colorful even when you are with him and things between you become more serious.
You don't love him and you know him! Be honest with him, at least you owe him that! Your behavior is extremely selfish.
I will give you advice ... Talk to the boy while it's time - don't just fool him ... Why are you like that, his mother is old ... You are all like that ... The boy works and most likely does it to make you both live better. And she lived on it ... Well, she freed him from her shallow brain and left him to be happy ... I will only land that in 6 months I lost over 15 kilograms because of one that was how she lived and told me the game. . M25
I would advise you to try to help him have fun and improve his tone. He's obviously too serious, and he can't stand it physically, you say a lot of things. At first he needs energy - take care with appropriate food and supplements so that he can be seen energetic and eager. Then he needs enough sleep. Provide it for him during the week while he works. He must feel exhausted, so he doesn't want to go out. Sex under your parents' roof is the other evil. Maybe your reluctance to him is related to other problems. If you go somewhere just the two of you, don't you enjoy sex again? And isn't it sexual to you again? Just imagine the two of you elsewhere, don't you want to have sex with him? Or maybe your reluctance is related to some other problems in sex? Realize that physical attraction, what you had for him in the beginning cannot evaporate, but something else has changed. Find the pebble that led to this. If you feel spiritually good with this person, it is worth refreshing your relationship.
eternal female drama - the soul wants romance, and the ass wants adventure :) I hope your friend shows common sense and stops wasting time with you :)
We are like that - he is more of a homemaker, I am always looking for exciting things and I am still bored. We are making a good balance. We understand each other a lot. We have been together since we were 11, married for 8 years, we have a 9-month-old baby. It is important to clarify for yourself whether you want to be serious and have a family or you are still immature for these things. I hope you don't hurt the boy.
We are born to suffer, and it itches you to taste the bitterness of life. Go boldly, dump him, but before you do it, wish him happiness with all your heart! Wish him to be happier with another than with you. Because if you don't do that, you're going to trap him. He doesn't have such depraved thinking as yours. and will think he is cheating on you with every new one after that. So secure it. Remember also that you will not find another who loves you more than him. and it will get worse with each passing one. After 10-20 you will be hysterical, most likely a single mother watching a bastard. Come on, be brave!
The choice is yours. Think about whether you still have any feelings for him, and if you still love him, ask yourself why. If you don't like talking to him, he will understand you, and if he doesn't understand you, it's his problem. You shouldn't stay in a relationship with someone you don't love Again I tell you your decision is yours
For the most part, you are like that, you don't appreciate the person next to you ... we became your subject, mommy old, you behave politely, you respect, you make a bunch of compromises and in the end they beat your jester ... then where are the decent ones.
No, your relationship is just exhausted.
Well done on number 6. He said everything as it is. Well done!
Another proof that in this world there is NO man who has made a compromise or sacrificed for the sake of a woman and has not been severely punished for it.
THE AUTHOR - I am 20 years old. I know how it sounds to you, but at least you can try to understand me. I don't know if I'm ready for such a serious relationship ....
We understand you very well. Even more than we want. We're angry about the boy ... Yes, it's true, you're too young. But if there is one thing you need to learn from here, it is the simple fact that life is not just about you. And not everything revolves around your personal pleasure. But no one judges you and you have the right to do whatever you want with your life. But it's not right to hide from your friend what you really want and so the years go by and in the end it turns out that you were not for each other at all. Because in the end it will turn out that you lied to him all the time. And he has invested much more in your relationship, and you have only used him for "hugs". I guarantee you, that's how he'll see things. Because this will be the naked truth. And then this "but I love it very much" will sound pretty ridiculous. And if you still have a hard time understanding, let me paint you another, quite common picture - let's assume purely hypothetically that your friend doesn't like you as a character. He tolerates you and forgives you because you have a juicy ass that he regularly "respects". But he is clearly aware that nothing but sex has connected you. In the meantime, he makes nice gestures to you, as much as you think that there is more to your relationship than sex. Years pass and one day a woman appears who turns both his heads and he sinks to his ears. And it serves you that you are here. And you are already making plans for how he will be the father of your child. God forbid you are already pregnant (because this particle also happens). Will it be fair to you? Understand that there is not much difference between the 2 stories. He tolerates you and forgives you because you have a juicy ass that he regularly "respects". But he is clearly aware that nothing but sex has connected you. In the meantime, he makes nice gestures to you, as much as you think that there is more to your relationship than sex. Years pass and one day a woman appears who turns both his heads and he sinks to his ears. And it serves you that you are here. And you are already making plans for how he will be the father of your child. God forbid you are already pregnant (because this particle also happens). Will it be fair to you? Understand that there is not much difference between the 2 stories. He tolerates you and forgives you because you have a juicy ass that he regularly "respects". But he is clearly aware that nothing but sex has connected you. In the meantime, he makes nice gestures to you, as much as you think that there is more to your relationship than sex. Years pass and one day a woman appears who turns both his heads and he sinks to his ears. And it serves you that you are here. And you are already making plans for how he will be the father of your child. God forbid you are already pregnant (because this particle also happens). Will it be fair to you? Understand that there is not much difference between the 2 stories. Years pass and one day a woman appears who turns both his heads and he sinks to his ears. And it serves you that you are here. And you are already making plans for how he will be the father of your child. God forbid you are already pregnant (because this particle also happens). Will it be fair to you? Understand that there is not much difference between the 2 stories. Years pass and one day a woman appears who turns both his heads and he sinks to his ears. And it serves you that you are here. And you are already making plans for how he will be the father of your child. God forbid you are already pregnant (because this particle also happens). Will it be fair to you? Understand that there is not much difference between the 2 stories.
I have already said my opinion on the Question and I want to congratulate numbers 6, 16 and 19. And to you, author, I wish you to leave it to be happy without you and to miss you a lot later .. To experience what I feel and what your friend feels - to give kindness and love to your girl and for her to behave like that and break your dreams
Author, being 20 means nothing. You are just too washed away by today's bad culture and debauchery that are everywhere. You also meet friends who probably tell you that you are young and have to live. In this way they draw complexes on you. You have set a framework for a successful life, and he is in your bed every day.
And I had one like the author. I still have a scar in her heart from her - you make sacrifices, compromises - just to have a future together, and on the contrary "I want to live, I'm not ready, but otherwise I love you very much and I see you as my husband in the future." the same time we parted I look after a week a month again caught up with someone. And on top of that, he called me to let me know that he wanted us to get together. It's so funny. No thanks. When they don't appreciate me and want to wave their flag - to be alive and healthy.
Well, number 24, we are very melted like you and me ... I'm calmer now that it's not just me at least ..
I haven't met a dumb sheep recently.
The fact that your friend is a homemaker means only one thing - he has self-control - and these are simple rules that he has created and never breaks them. Here are the rules: 1. No going to pubs, bars, etc. , where all sorts of excrement is collected. 2. Visiting such places poses great risks to life and health - a smokescreen from which you become a passive smoker, and this damages the lungs, regular drinking also damages the liver, which catches cirrhosis, some get drunk and become killers! 3. I prefer to watch my life-work, home, family, watch TV, listen to the radio and click on a computer game when I get home! 4. I do not replace home comfort with anything else! 5. I will never be like my girlfriend! 6. I am a responsible person, I have plans for children! These are the rules, author! These are the rules of self-control of the person you do not appreciate, but if you continue in the same spirit, believe me, you will separate! You just have to take matters into your own hands!
Author, there is no way to lose your sexual attraction just like that. Are you already cheating on him or are you ready for that?