I have known a boy for years, we were in the same school together, and he is one year younger than me. Once we started studying in high school, it all started. He started writing to me on Facebook, if I want to go out with him, to go for a walk, to talk ... I flatly refused him because I had a friend whom I cared for and loved, I didn't think it was right, why we were in such an age at which,, We wanted to try out everything "". I continued to refuse him after every invitation to go out, until one day I was with my cousin who, he told me. Why not go out more people more fun, more interesting to talk about what was before, now how we look at things and life .. Well, how to look and I answered so we were 16/17 years old still nothing we had seen, but I agreed to go out in spite of everything. And it all started from that moment.
The three of us started dating for several months in a row. When one day he told me, why don't we just go out, I agreed unknown, why until recently I was even against going out with this man, and now what happened to me ...? It got under my skin, just ... We went out for years, as friends. He called me when I was even with my friend ... We grew up and each of us took the path of life that we had to see up close. He decided to study in Sofia and I would stay in the city and work. I didn't think to follow at all for now. He had a car and came every Saturday and Sunday. That meant I had to be on my first shift to be able to see him. I continued to have a long-term relationship. I started going out, late at night to drive around the city to talk .. One day he invited me to them, I went watching a movie, smoking, talking ... And at one point he said, 'I've been wanting to be with you for a long time, let's do it now ??? I was shocked, I got up, took my things and left without him and called him at all for a while .. I was angry with him and kept to my relationship .. He called me and apologized for what he said, he was just sorry for his words really . I kept going out with him. He started calling me every day at exactly 12 noon for months. I went out in the evening, I came home late. He knew I loved the autumn rain, and one night we went out again. We rode as usual and it rained, as I like. He stopped in an alley and said if you want us to sit in the back of the car, to talk, I told him that in front we can talk not only in the back. He asked me only for a moment. When we sat in the back, he started talking sweetly, making me laugh, he started tickling me. And the outside was unique, we just opened the windows slightly to listen to the rain. He started kissing me, and I didn't know what was going on ... I just couldn't move, I was shocked. Various thoughts began to come to my mind ...
What is he doing, is he crazy ?? What's wrong with him ?? Why does he do it, is that why he spends so much time with me at all ?? While I was thinking these things, it was so good for me that I even put my thoughts aside and gave myself over to the moment ... It was just Unique, so nice that I didn't want to stop this moment ... The next day I realized what kind of person I am, how I can to do such things, given that I have a friend, does he deserve it .. Infidelity, lie ..? But despite everything, we didn't stop seeing each other and having good sex, and I carried my waist and the pain for my friend, but this one just made me feel really good. A year later, I was accepted to a university. I told him, he was happy. My friend was against studying. I kept going out and seeing the second boy. I started to be jealous of him, I felt dependent and needed him, I wanted to be together all the time, I felt good with him .. By the month I was late, I felt sick .. Now what will I say to my friend if I am pregnant ?? He knows we protect ourselves. I immediately called the other and told him, he said take a test and we will decide what to do together I told him (I definitely remove it and you leave my life). He kept calling me and said if I wanted to, he would give me money for an abortion and we wouldn't see each other again. I took a test, miraculously it was negative .. I was happy and I said to myself God is with me this time no matter how wrong I am .. I told him accordingly that I was pregnant to see what his reaction would be, he asked me, what about the baby ??
And then I replied that the baby was gone, that I had an abortion ... It seems to him that he really believed me. Until one day he wanted us to go out and tell me something. Accordingly, I went out with him and he said that he knew that there was nothing true in what I told him was that he was watching over me all the time. Why am I lying to him. I saw that there was no bullshit in front of me and I confessed to him that I had lied to him on purpose. He hugged me and said, I forgive you well, but he is doing more. I went out with one and then with the other ... When I was in the village he even came there. One night just before his birthday he came to me for a few hours ... I was thinking, is this person just for sex with me or just has feelings. I went straight and asked him directly when he replied that he liked me, as a person, I was kind and good, but not expecting him to be able to give me anything but sex made me dumb. Was I so deluded, to lie to my friend with this .. I wanted this to be a dream .. We stopped going out, to see each other for a long time .. Months passed and he looked for me again, we saw each other, the same movie again. SEX, talking .. And nothing else ... Time passed and I decided that this person should get rid of both my life and my head ..
I decided to take on serious things, and now that I am determined to have a child , this person has no place in my life, I am grateful only for giving me a valuable lesson for the future, how a person should respect and hold the person next to him. Also, I'm not small anymore and things like that don't satisfy me. Life is not based only on Sex, it is not so simple .. Men come and go. Dear young girls, my advice is, be with the person next to you, if you love him, don't do nonsense, if everything is gone, just don't be fooled. Be an example, be proud of yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, but it is important to realize in time.
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Just sex? That you had a full relationship. You were friends, you slept together, you had fun and you spent hours talking. The boy was inclined to forgive your lies, to swallow that you were cheating. It wasn't just sex, it was love on his part, you also had more serious feelings, but you got scared. Such things happen because people refuse to make sense of their feelings in time and then continue to delude themselves to make it easier for them. What really happened? You loved this boy, you slept with him, you went out often, in the end there was a risk that he would get more serious and you ran away, continuing with that relationship that you just dragged her in the meantime. If she had cheated once, I would not have judged your youth. If she had left her boyfriend to experience the thrill, I would have found a drop of dignity and respected courage. You just kept the tame while chasing the wild, not realizing that it was the wild that was safe. For years, someone has followed you, and you think it was all about sex ... guess what, it wasn't just sex, you were scared.
I support number 1. There were feelings on both sides, but the fear was more.
Number 1 - right in the top ten, man. I will only tell the author that no one has told her life. Now she will marry, give birth to a child of such a stable man next to her. And in a year she will crumple the sheets with her lover again. And this will continue for a long time. At high tide and low tide. She would lose him and then look for him again because she had left her feelings with him. Because the unexperienced stories in which there are feelings do not die. M37
Complete nonsense, I do not agree with you. This is another momentary son who heard ... everything he returned. I fully support the girl for her decision.
I am glad for the author that she has decided to start a family. I can't judge her, I can just say that everyone makes mistakes in their lives while they are alive. Was it just flirtation, sex, or love ... Only the two of them know. Having gathered the courage to bring this story to light, there is clearly no point in repeating it. And as far as the comment that again maybe she crumpled the sheets with someone else after she already has a family is quite relative. There are people who turn their backs on the past and move on, and there are those who continue to do so without a guilty conscience. In case she wants to take a serious step forward, she is clearly not the type of person to do "nonsense" once she has a family. A child can radically change a woman's point of view. and the fact that the girl had sex with the boy in question does not mean that one day, when they see each other, they will grab each other in bed again .. I sincerely wish the author a good and healthy family. GOD GIVE HER A BIRTH .. And only look ahead.
I will judge her - I hope your future husband has lovers and breaks up to cheat on you. Lower freak!
Who is № 1, who is the second boy, it was not very clear to me, it doesn't seem to matter much how the author alternated them - one, then the other ... But what should the wife do as one becomes for marriage and father, but what about the other ch-ka so sweet? Until she finally remembered that "one must respect and keep the person close to oneself." Out of respect, of course, she will not admit to him about regular sex with the other and about her lies. Because she had already realized. For how long? It seems more likely to me that what was written by №3 will happen than the happy ending of commentator 5. I don't envy the respected "person next to her" ...
Author, she loves you. The reason he doesn't tell you is in you - all your life you either push him away or make him share you with the "holder". From my own experience I tell you that lovers also have some pride. He loves you in action, even though he knows very well what you are. Your official must be telling you that he loves you, but if he knows what you're doing, he'll hold his head. Are love explanations important to you? Go to your lover, apologize convincingly for all the years he has shared you with another, tell him that you have real feelings for him, but you are afraid that he is only for sex, and then ask him completely he doesn't feel anything for me. This will already be "straight" in my opinion. And do you still really love your friend? If you know that he only thinks he loves you, and the lover truly loves you, will you choose the first one again? Think carefully about what you are doing before moving on to the child.
So far as I read, I can't explain what kind of person you are to insult? Male or mouse, you neither know the girl nor give you the right to insult her, look at your life and kill complexes outside of such groups. What she did she did, so far. You've already squatted because I don't know about her but I'm starting to nerves are miserable ... A alive and healthy girl and I wish her the most
Well, what young and educated people there were, and I was wondering, Where are you! Congratulations to your parents and the upbringing they gave you 6, or maybe you have built yourself, great, applause .. How can you be so sure what the girl will do in the future? Why is this malice, people ?? What is this attitude, are you perfect? I don't think I'm sure each of you made a mistake, I'm not just talking about crumpling the sheets, I think one of you is guaranteeing that there will just be bets. Be aware, this is not your NL, or point for lotto to home, I think that everyone here has the right to share what weighs on him, looking for comfort or just this thing is no longer a factor in his life .. I do not think to comment more and I do not think I am at the level of most You here. For this I congratulate the author for the decision, which she has taken and I think everyone deserves to be happy. If you, gentlemen, have not found it, then obviously you should go out and not live in social networks and think of yourself as GREAT. Because there are no great ones among us;) .. Good luck girl greetings .. Male 28 years old