Hello. I would like to ask you if you have found yourself in a situation where you start a relationship with a man who has ended a painful past relationship and is still nostalgic for the past. They say love with love is forgotten, we have all been on both sides of the coin at a different stage of our lives ... I just don't want to be fooled. Is it possible that things will change over time or will I always be the "second" Just to mention that he does not talk about her, but of course I dug around and intuition does not lie to me. Women will understand what I'm talking about. :)
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In principle, this is the case. Only great and true love can depersonalize such love. As well as the accumulation of emotions and memories to rewrite the previous ones. It's super simple, but only on first reading. The problem is that maybe what you now call love ... is not the same for the person who comes from love. There is always a comparison ... Tip ... be your best version ... fuck it the way you think no one has done before and stay calm. And we will see how strong your wedge will be and whether it will kill the old one. Brother.
He uses you as a substitute. An ex wrote to me, even though he had a girlfriend and his profile was full of their photos and tender statuses. But she wrote to me secretly from her, and not innocent things. So, don't always forget about a new relationship. He may have deleted photos, thrown presents, but still think about her. If he broke up months ago, the chances of him wanting her are still high. These are memories, a habit. If you have patience, wait for him to notice and appreciate you.
I am a man and 15 years ago I forgot a great love. But first she disappointed me a lot. Secondly, I really wanted to forget about her. And third, the new one was many times better than the old one. A man worth doing. We are still together. My advice is not to dig into your man's past. Take your time, give him time and leave him alone to fight. If he doesn't want to do it himself, it doesn't make sense. It will show
No. I was in such a relationship for almost nine years and we finally broke up, after much torment. Believe me, what he and I didn't try ... and in the end we just decided that it was clear that it wouldn't work out as much as we wanted and that what we had was friendship and mutual benefit rather than love. connection. There were a lot of red lights in the beginning - he mistaken my name for hers while we were lying down once (he apologizes to me for that for a long time and he was really sorry, but still ...), he was on his ex's birthday without telling me (then he stopped to maintain any contact with her, but the insult was serious to me), somehow everything was always half-hearted. We were very close, we are good friends at the moment, we hold on to each other, but it was just not love with the main L. It was just a friendship, although unconscious on my part until recently. I thought at times that the problem was in me, but it is not. I have also had observations on the connections of acquaintances and friends. It just doesn't work. If the person is not 100% free with his heart and mind and is not 100% in love with you, you simply cannot have a full-fledged relationship. If you have small suspicions that he is not completely with you, then you know what to do. There is no point in wasting 9 years of your life like me, pursuing something non-existent.
No, you will be in the role of the mother until she stabilizes, nothing more
No. I am a man I have a 3 year relationship, but every day I dream of my great love.
That's exactly what happened to me. I was in love for years with a girl who had an unhappy relationship and shared her problems with me. However, when the dude whistled at her, she immediately ran to him. At one point I got tired of being the one to wipe her tears and another to pick the fruit (figuratively speaking) and I found another girl. I fell in love again, but this time shared and that's how it turned out. The first one stayed with that one for a long time, but I wouldn't wipe my tears anymore. So I would answer in the affirmative to the question from the title in the topic, but you just have to be well aware of what is past and what future you want to have. Then things sort themselves out.