Hello! I'm not sure if my topic is for here, I'm sorry if I put it in the wrong section. So let me start with my problem. I am a woman of 20 years. I notice that I have no particular desire for sex. I'm not sure what it's due to. In general, as a child I started watching porn and I had a lot of orgasms in the evening. When I say small, I mean the period 12-15 years. Then I stopped and I reached a maximum of 2 orgasms and only from porn. Without looking I can't get aroused (if I'm alone I mean). When I was 16 it was my first time and in the beginning we did it quite often with my ex, we reached many times a day, but after a year or 2 I felt a decrease in this desire for sex. I can't say I'm tired of sex, I like to have sex. My current boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and I still can't say that I have who knows what desire. It's not from him, he turns me on, I like him, I love him. But if he doesn't start touching me, maybe it will be over 1 month and I won't want to do it. Well, in the period around the cycle I want a lot, but maybe only then. It's not about the way I have sex, I like the act, but like I said before it came to me, I don't want to do it. There are many times when I am tired, nervous, stressed, etc. and then I just tell my friend that I'm not doing right now .. (we talk to him about everything, even this, but we also do not find an answer). I don't know if it's because of my worries about studying ... I also don't know if it affects the fact that I drink Yasmin contraceptives. I've been drinking them since October. I think before them I had a little more desire for intimacy. Where do you think this problem may be hiding? I feel stupid sometimes, because my boyfriend wants me, he has needs, and I can't satisfy them because I just don't want intimacy. I don't think I'm asexual because I still have some desire, albeit rarely. I don't know what to do or stop
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One of the side effects of contraceptives is decreased sexual libido. I have the same problem - I don't remember the last time I had sex, honestly. I'm even annoyed, I don't get aroused at all. I guess the only way is to stop the pills.
It's possible. I had a girlfriend who was depressed during contraception and was in a mood swing. Her hormones went crazy. In general, contraceptives hide a lot of harm. Read more about it. And if you decide, switch to condoms.
Switch to sex without contraceptives and without condoms - have children. This country needs a population.
I have had such periods without taking pills. When I have a lot of work, or something if I have gained weight and I don't like myself much at the moment. Just starting is a pain, then I like it a lot and my husband is used to the fact that sometimes I need a little more persuasion, and he is very convincing :)
Hello, I also drink contraceptives, for 8, 9 years, but after the second birth I feel a significant decrease in sexual desire. As a result, the sex has decreased a lot, I don't even remember, I have a desire only at the beginning of the package. Then we have sex and I finish almost immediately, after which the desire evaporates and so on until she demands my husband very urgently. In principle, I do not want to, but I almost never give up. It started to become clear to me that the problem probably comes from the pills, they are hormonal pills after all, it can't help but reflect on the body. He even writes it as a possible side effect. My advice is to go to a gynecologist, explain to him and then let them prescribe another contraceptive, perhaps with less dosed hormones. As a last resort, if it doesn't work at all, you will consider other options.
The author Well. I'm thinking about taking a break for a month, for example, two maximum. And without that, October is 1 year, and the gynecologist told me to take a month off every year. As far as I know Yasmin are not highly dosed, I drink them.