Male Prospectors

   I have met a few of them. I don't think most people do something in their lives, they rather try to parasitize and seem to have a huge irritating self-esteem. Just like women - gold diggers. Black Sabbath

   Sure there is, but the proportion is one to many in favor of women :) And usually they do not last long - no matter how much women talk about love, they know a lot about math and they should do their math ... And the man there is no way to tie the babe with a child if the faithful does not want to :)

   I am married to one. I kicked him out last night. Today I contacted a lawyer to file for divorce. This man has been hanging around my neck for five years. On the question. No, these men do not succeed. The cruel truth is that if they had the qualities to succeed, they would do so, not look for some naive person to feed them. Because as the last fool, I let myself have a lot of experience in this regard, I will allow myself to warn other women which signs to watch out for. Whore men - just like women - can be easily recognized. "He's a great lover and he just adores you." You never knew you were such a fabulously beautiful, sexy and smart woman. "He's never met a better man than you." So dedicated, generous and loyal. What idiots were all the men before him that they missed! "No woman has ever made him feel so loved." - You are an unsurpassed chef, you just made a mistake, otherwise you would have a restaurant in the middle of Paris. - All your colleagues are incompetent, and you are the most capable, they just don't appreciate you. Of course, it is good to make an additional commitment, so this is such a chance! "Your friends are wonderful people, how nice it is to have dinner with them." And wasn't Dancho, in fact, the head of a bank? Let's invite them and his wife for the weekend. - You have an unsurpassed sense of fashion, he would never choose such quality clothes. - And you understand from perfumes, and he just doesn't know how to find his way in the store. - Why do you even use cosmetics when you are so beautiful? You just throw your money to the wind instead of pampering yourself with a trip. - "You, darling, go to freshen up and rest, but give me my purse to refuel the car. "-" No, no, don't, darling, carry these heavy bags, let me take the purchases, and you pay at the checkout. "-" I've always dreamed of a nice watch, eh! I've always dreamed of having an electric razor, eh! I've always dreamed of this car, thank you, darling, you're unique, you just can't believe how much I love you, and I just don't know how you managed to save money to give it to me for my birthday ?! "-" Dear , I adore you, I can't imagine life without you! Will you marry me? "-" Sunshine, you look amazing in this dress! How about we make a prenuptial agreement, not that I don't trust you, but because all the properties are yours, just to have some security? "-" I love smoked salmon, you always know how to make me happy, because you are perfect. "-" Terrible story! My former employer is serving me today that I owe him four thousand leva for leaving work without warning. "-" Yes, my love, I know we paid four thousand, but my new employer has not paid us for months, so I literally I'm starving all day. "-" The car broke down, I have to fix it somehow, because otherwise I lose money because I can't do my job. "-" No, chick, I didn't spend the money on nonsense, but I invested it very wisely and you will see how I will take you to the Maldives next year. "-" Romance is important. What if we rest in a bungalow in Kiten? By the way, I just made the reservation and you will pay on the spot. I can't wait to kiss you all night while we listen to the noise of the sea. "" Oh, my shoes are torn again, but if these compliments are somehow too unrealistic, let the red light come on. Sex is a particularly dangerous territory. Here the manipulator will try to be really up to standard and when the hormones in your body are activated, you no longer have control over yourself. Personally, I have the feeling that male prospectors are much more than women in Bulgaria. This is my third. But here I have already trampled onions by marrying him. Well, man

   I haven't met such people, but I guess you're talking about really bad guys, because no matter how successful a woman is ... If she has a stable job and pays her own bills, that's the "successful woman". So, for a man to run after one because of "money" means to be unemployed, criminally exposed, probably a drug addict. When it comes to a woman with an inheritance, gender, relationships, things like that, they are often pursued by men with ambitions, so it's no wonder they succeed. But naturally the whole thing revolves around the woman herself and what kind of men she is looking for. Because just because they're spinning doesn't mean it will bind them. If she evaluates some more breakthrough, ambitious person is one thing, but if it is something like the first category - a criminal, a drug addict, it is quite another ...

   Haha, and what are these "men"? Are these men at all? Rather, it seems to me that this is written for modern genders and geysers ...

   Fortunately, I do not know such a man, but there really are such men. I am not interested in a woman's financial situation, it is much more important for me to love and understand each other.

   The bad thing is that women gold diggers are millions of times more than men.

   There is. I came across one. She was, and perhaps still is, a very lowly, manipulative and disgusting whore. I loved it, but when I saw what it was, I was sick of it. It was played by an angel, but it turned out to be one of the biggest pieces of junk I've ever seen. So, ladies, beware. There are many like the one I came across. Keep one thing in mind, open your eyes and if he sucks money more than once - a jerk from behind, without pity. It is told to you by one who was very merciful, but received the "reward" for her kindness.

   Yes, there is, my ex is like that, in combination with a breaker. His new one is quite wealthy, I don't know how this woman doesn't feel.

   So far, I have not seen any examples or evidence of such men, compared to women who are almost 100% already. Especially with this vanity and social networks.

   For now, it is written together, a little lumpen from number 10. Read the comment of number 3 3 times, but slowly, without straining, do not take to tear your last brain fold. To the author - the lower in spirit remain so, I know a very good artist who will never succeed, because people not only buy a painting, but also associate in some way with the author.

   My best friend's lover was like that. It made her feel like heaven, and at the same time he was clutching her for money. He was charming and could enchant. However, love is blind and a person, when he is in love and does not see the most elementary shortcomings of the other. Her husband found out about her relationship and they divorced. She could no longer be a provider. Then she saw, her lover would joke and went looking for the next victim. She is currently alone with one child and the other is staying with her husband.

   3 Tell me more, didn't it work? I notice that men are looking for the easy, at least most want to split the bills in half. Don't miss anything.

   Number 9, this woman is not felt because they are excellent manipulators. They feel the gaps in our consciousness and penetrate them. If a woman does not like her appearance, he will shower her with compliments for her beauty. Now. In my opinion, a good husband would also do this so that his partner can feel good in his skin, but here the goal is different. We become addicted to these men, we become addicted to drugs, and in the meantime they drain our strength. And our money, of course. That's why pimps initially give drugs to prostitutes themselves to get addicted to drugs and then be obedient and make money. It's exactly the same. Except that our drug is our low self-esteem, our expectation to be loved, our willingness to do anything for a loved one, and the belief that if we are honest people, everyone is. There is a myth that male prostitutes only target rich women. This is not true. A woman who hangs and hangs in the office is usually experienced enough in business to immediately feel that this deal is to her detriment and throw out the parasite. Usually the target is working women who lack emotional experiences, have experienced disappointing relationships or marriages, lack sex, attention and romance, are afraid of loneliness and still have hope of meeting their love. And here appears the "perfect" man. In the beginning, it will really be perfect until you catch the line. From then on, I described in my previous post what will happen to you. Another tip: listen to your friends and family. Sometimes people around us see the situation more clearly, because of the distance itself, and we, who are blinded and practically hypnotized, we think we are in heaven. When friends began to delicately ask me why I always pay in restaurants, I thought they were just jealous of the handsome man and I got into a fight with them. When my mother asked me how long I would cover the bills and if this person didn't get paid, I quarreled with her. I just didn't let anyone say a bad word about my husband. And I don't know when I sobered up. Maybe when I was sick and didn't have the money for the expensive drugs they had prescribed, and he came home happy to buy a new pill. Number 10, this topic is not to compare the percentage of mercantile men and women. It is for male prospectors. There are some, and I personally at least try to outline their profile to protect other girls from such gentlemen. If you have nothing to say on the subject - read and be silent. In fact, these men are not looking for wealth, they are looking for an easy and comfortable life. When you think that they are jealous of you (and inside you are a little happy), it is not jealousy, but fear that someone else will move in their place. When they make you a gift (usually only for the holidays, because there is no way), it will be the cheapest possible. If by any chance they buy products, they will be of the lowest quality. The last one is to say, "Oh, they lied to you in the market again! Leave it alone, I'll just go shopping." Why is this whole circus? In some cases, these people support previous families, in others - they have accumulated loans, in others - they do not work. Or all this together (as in my case). My friend thought her husband was getting a minimum wage because he told her so until he finally found out, that he was paid three times better than her and saved all the money in a secret bank account while she struggled to work like an ox to live decently. And last. Chicks, you have a right to information. In case of the slightest doubt, check notes from ATMs (there is the balance on the account), chats, phones, pay slips and so on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing what situation you are in. Get rid of the scruples that this is "wrong". You should not be lied to and robbed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing what situation you are in. Get rid of the scruples that this is "wrong". You should not be lied to and robbed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with knowing what situation you are in. Get rid of the scruples that this is "wrong". You should not be lied to and robbed.

   Apparently a lot of women have suffered from this, myself included. I was very young, he was very playful, we quickly lived together. Less than a month later, he left his job, said that his boss was very problematic and removed him, raising scandals for me for nothing. And I get attached and sympathize with him - wow, that's a bad boss. And he never started another job for almost 3 years, still no job was worthy enough for him, no salary at the level, no boss - good ... Later I found out that he owed money to someone, that his ex was him too. she endured that there were loans, loans, loans that even his mother paid, and then I ... I see a lot of them are bent. And they don't target stupid or poor women, but women with a profession and use them to the hilt ...

   I do not see anything wrong in such relationships, in which one has more material opportunities and / or social contacts, and helps the other. The important thing is to love each other. There are rarely people who do not see that they are using them, ie that someone is with them only for the sake of benefit, and they do not notice ... it is easy to understand such elementary motives.

   To number 3: Extremely useful comment! Congratulations! I am a man, but my relative is currently in a similar situation. ... for 6 months now, she has been using her car because she has air conditioning, etc. People, open your eyes, that at one point it gets scary ....

   These men are probably more than women. It has happened to me that they will reject me when they find out that I am not wealthy.

   Naha, when the man is with money - "I'm looking for security", when he is not - "gold digger" :) Welcome to the wonderful new world of equality, where you either use or are used ...

   Number 16, if you're a woman, you're the ideal potential victim of male prospectors. That's right, "the important thing is to love each other" - this is where it starts. The important thing is to "help" each other. And yes, there isn't such a stupid woman who doesn't feel used, let alone me, the smart girl. And you've already hooked up. You will feel what happens when you are ruined by work, worries, worries about your survival, and realize that you are no longer actually living your own life. Your whole consciousness will be obsessed with the idea of ​​how good it, the parasite, can be. How can he be fed, dressed, happy, cared for, no matter that you bring a sandwich for lunch from home, shake your nerves and dye your hair at home. You will say to yourself, "When he sees my devotion, he will love me even more." He will encourage this, he will zombie you with everyday " nor do I know for what purpose. But my mind woke up only after the hormones calmed down and then I saw the truth. Yes, it is very difficult to realize that you are not loved. To understand that for five years you were lied to while ruining your health, so that the "beloved" would be satisfied. But ... I'm telling you, this is my third. The first one, at least, was really poor, but also terribly lazy. I met him after 15 years - the same job: without a penny and looking to move somewhere. He used to write a "genius novel" and I, the fool, covered the expenses for the "writer" to work in peace. There is no novel or devil. to please the "beloved." But ... I'm telling you, this is my third. The first one, at least, was really poor, but also terribly lazy. I met him after 15 years - the same job: without a penny and looking to move somewhere. He used to write a "genius novel" and I, the fool, covered the expenses for the "writer" to work in peace. There is no novel or devil. to please the "beloved." But ... I'm telling you, this is my third. The first one, at least, was really poor, but also terribly lazy. I met him after 15 years - the same job: without a penny and looking to move somewhere. He used to write a "genius novel" and I, the fool, covered the expenses for the "writer" to work in peace. There is no novel or devil.

   Number 21, everything you write sounds so familiar to me, because I've already been this way. I sincerely hope I never have to walk on it again. I recommend a book - "Never again codependent", maybe it will be useful to you. And those who are still waiting for the big hit - write a novel, make a business plan or make a site that never sees the light of day - and after another 20 years to meet him will still be the same, zero gradation ... Get well, pay attention so that you no longer enter into such relationships. I sincerely wish you to be able to love yourself - this will protect you from such geeks who take advantage of your great need for love.

   to 3 You had one. 90 percent of the women around me are like that ... There are men like that, yes! But it is also true that they are the exception. For women it is rather a rule ....

   Number 20, as paradoxical as it may sound, relationships, families are precisely to use each other and live better. The fire in the fireplace warms both or all three, ie several people heat with one amount of wood. But! The man will cut the wood, the woman will keep the fire. The man will kill the deer, the woman will cook it. This has been the case since cave time. Here, if you don't understand, we are talking about the imbalance, when the man expects the woman both to cut wood, to maintain the hearth, to go hunting, and at the same time to cook, and he to sit warmly in the cave and paw. I express myself figuratively because you did not understand the essence of the discussion. I don't mind being "used". But on purpose! I would always support my loved one, I would not leave him in a difficult moment, I would provide him with the necessary contacts for his work, I will help him in his social adaptation to a higher level, I will create comfort for him at home, etc. But aren't we women human beings too and we want to rest and lean on someone's shoulder? To feel male protection? Male strength? Gold diggers completely ignore these needs of ours. Yes, he'll hug you enough to blur your eyes when you get home from work, but he doesn't really care how you feel. He wonders how much money you made. Ah! One more thing. Girls, there is an easy test to identify the parasite, try it. Ask them both to sit down with a pencil and a notebook and make a calculation of income and expenses for the month. Say you're just not doing well with the bills and you want him to look smarter where the financial holes are. I bet he won't do it. This is a signal! Another sign. He starts yelling at you every time it's about money. This is because he knows that women perceive verbal aggression as physical and are afraid. It's like biting an evil dog against you - the same instinct works. And if the next day YOU feel guilty for your "pettiness", you accuse yourself of "irritating" him, you feel like the last annoyance and you are looking for his love and caress again, then you have already messed it up.

   I am a man of 32 years. I have never seen a rich woman. (Except for a woman politician like Maya Manolova.) I mean a woman who has achieved her wealth through her mind and qualities, and if I see one, I will certainly feel respect and maybe fall in love.

   Male prospectors are a single case. However, there is an epidemic of light gold diggers that needs to be eradicated.

   I had come across one once, and she was not a gold digger, but a GOLD MINER, and she tried to work for me directly on an industrial level. The good thing is that she was not very smart and I felt on time. I have been very careful since then.

   Number 23, I think the topic is incorrectly worded. It was supposed to be "Drone Men." Somewhat right are those who say that women gold diggers are more because they mean muffins who want to take them in limousines, buy me gadgets, take them to the Maldives and not work. Yes, I agree that in percentage they are probably more than men who want this. But if male prospectors are units, then male drones are a mass phenomenon. Look around, people! The drone man does not want a Swiss watch and a Ferrari, he wants to live comfortably, to be fed and not to bother much. Unlike the classic gold digger, he is not pretentious - as long as someone else provides him with a roof over his head and secures his life. If only they were my sloths, you could smear them with honey, but no. At a scientific conference, I sit at a U-shaped table opposite my old friend, a professor and dean of a faculty. Hey, I see her feet are so swollen they don't fit in her shoes. Since we were returning to Sofia with her car, I see her in profile that she has a goiter. Because she is close to me, I asked her directly. It turned out to be a walking medical encyclopedia - diabetes, thyroid, hypertension and a bunch of other diseases. Why aren't you being treated? I ask. Because I don't have time - he says - everyone at home depends on me. This woman is killing herself from work. Her husband is a doctor of Slavic studies. He goes to university twice a week, gives a lecture, and then lies on the couch. And she takes lectures all over the country, combines this with the administrative work at her university and constantly travels to conferences. She goes through the house enough to leave her husband money and leaves again. They also support their daughter, a student, and take care of a sick mother in bed, ie she also pays nurses. She used to be such a cheerful girl, now she doesn't smile at all, no other conversation can be held with her except at work. Everyone who is unfamiliar with her family situation really likes her husband. And why not? He is nice, polite, educated. Another friend. She, on the other hand, after a series of unsuccessful relationships, in which men always dumped her, picked up a copy that had not worked for 8 years. She breaks from work, and he assembles airplanes at home, which was his hobby. When I first saw him, I was also deceived: a nice man, holding her hand, I shouted to myself: here is my friend's destiny finally smiling. She is still in the "if I kick him out, I won't find another" phase, but I hope she realizes. Third case. I do not know how this woman managed to raise two children, and for 20 years she has not known what her husband's salary is. They live in her house. Throughout their life together, she covered food, utilities, children's expenses, everything. He works, but when he asks for money for something, he says no. If she is persistent, she beats her. I liked him too - such a blond handsome man, silent but pleasant. Fourth. She is directly subscribed, just like me, to drones. The biggest "cutie" in her collection was a Bobby, who for 7 years, apart from beer and cigarettes, had not brought into their home (hers, of course). In the end, he tricked her into taking out a large loan to renovate his apartment, ostensibly because it was more spacious. His idiot made the repairs and Bobby abandoned her, sold the apartment in question, and she still pays off a loan. Yes, the male drone is not an isolated phenomenon at all. When we met my last parasite - everyone liked it: sociable, energetic, charming, with a sense of humor, and so in love with me. After a year or two, however, this humble boy, after learning to understand guilt and complain about restaurant service, gained such confidence that he decided that God had caught the raincoat. That is, he decided that I was so dependent on his charisma and his skills in bed that I had nowhere to move. And he was absolutely right! Well, the bubble always bursts, but who gives you a dozen years to live like a king on someone else's back! The worst thing is that the drone is difficult to recognize. The gold digger is obvious: he watches fashion, maintains himself, reads a lot to have a conversation, has impeccable manners, in a word - he constantly polishes his commercial appearance. While the drone can be a completely ordinary, modest, well-mannered and indistinguishable man, about whom women say: "Here is a normal, good boy who just loves me. I do not crave for the rich and easy life. Just like for me". And this is where it starts.

   29, you're so right I'm crying. What's worse is that this is not condemned in society and these people fight on the line of lowest resistance all their lives!

   I see that you write here that such men have always remained so. I do not completely agree and the example I will give is myself. After graduating from high school, I enrolled to study and I didn't feel like working at all. I knew that our people would give me money and all I did was be lazy. I wasted my days. I met a girl and we started a relationship, she worked and studied, she always invited me to find a job, but I kept putting it off and lying to her that I was looking for her, when in fact I was lying in bed watching TV while she was working. She often took me and gave me money in need. It was good for me and I wasn't looking for a job until one day she got tired and ended the relationship. It was very difficult for me to experience it, then I found a new girl and again the same story happened, as after she left me and our people stopped giving me money often. I finally forced myself to find a job. It was difficult for me at the beginning, but gradually I got used to it and it became a habit, and when I made my first money it was the best because I felt that I had achieved success on my own. Years have passed since then, now I have a wonderful wife, our relationship is developing great, we both work, we are happy and we understand each other. Only now, years later, do I realize how wasted time it was then and what a drone I was, recognized in the comments above. But I am also proud of myself that I managed to take matters into my own hands and realized that to have a healthy and happy relationship is the responsibility of the lady partners. our relationship is developing great, we both work, we are happy and we understand each other. Only now, years later, do I realize how wasted time it was then and what a drone I was, recognized in the comments above. But I am also proud of myself that I managed to take matters into my own hands and realized that to have a healthy and happy relationship is the responsibility of the lady partners. our relationship is developing great, we both work, we are happy and we understand each other. Only now, years later, do I realize how wasted time it was then and what a drone I was, recognized in the comments above. But I am also proud of myself that I managed to take matters into my own hands and realized that to have a healthy and happy relationship is the responsibility of the lady partners.