Hi, I'm a 14 year old boy. My problem is that I am constantly ridiculed for being gay, fagot, pedal and the like. I am very uncomfortable. Even my relatives hint. My father sometimes calls me a woman. My mother sometimes seems to think so. I'm just a little more sensitive and gentle, but does that mean I'm gay? I thought that when I entered another school they would not think the same. At first they didn't think so, but then I started to feel like they were talking behind my back again, and not just about that. thanks in advance
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Drop these stupid fashions, there is no show left without transvestite actors and that's all they talk about, just for fun of idlers and crazy souls, but don't care. Well, you're still growing! My son is 14 years old and he is still a child, he has a lot of time and you are yet to become a man. Other boys have complained here of such ugly treatment and insults. The only way to shut the mouths of arrogant people is to become more masculine and with a strong-willed radiance - and this is achieved through physical exertion. And not necessarily competitive or power sports, but simple exercises with dumbbells, push-ups, abdominal presses are enough. First you start with as much as you can, if only for 1-2 minutes and repeat these series several times a day. Gradually by itself you will increase the duration, you will see how easy and pleasant it is when you tighten up and build muscle.
If you are confident in yourself, do not pay attention to stupid comments! They insult you only because they are not sure of their words and if you go to bond with them, they are already happy that they made you believe them. And if you are gay there is nothing wrong! We do not choose how to be born. Just be yourself!
I remember what it might be about. You must be more cultured for that too. When someone speaks more politely (instead of swearing) they give him such an epithet. Otherwise, try to behave more firmly, even gossiping someone with a straight right hand to scare him and not to make fun of him at school.
You must be more polite and sensitive than other simpletons. Don't worry and don't pay attention to them. Just don't answer, neither confirm nor deny anything. Build a strong character. It is not strange to me that your father calls you a woman, he is obviously like many Bulgarian men - misunderstood masculinity. But look at your mother - I'm amazed! Keep your head up!
Start every day facial and believe me in a year you will hear these insults less often
Try to be above these things.
what do you like girls or boys? If you are a girl, you are clearly not gay, let everyone look after their work. I have a set, he is gentle, cute, with a bit of feminine manners and facial expressions, but he is not gay. I explain his behavior as a result of the environment in which he grew up. As the only boy on the street where we lived, he played only with us - 5-6 girls and poop until we started going to school :)
Abe narrow-minded people, leave them. I would be very happy if I had a gay friend (although you are not, I'm just saying). In my past, there was one who was really gay. He only had girlfriends. Usually they have more girlfriends girls than boys.
Watch the movie The Godfather and the like - they don't swear there either, but people have their respect, see how they achieve it.
Go to the gym. You will harden both physically and mentally. Behave like a heavyweight. Change your gait - walk harder and harder. Another thing is to watch porn and start downloading girls. If you do not know how, write and we will tell you!
What matters is what you think of yourself, not others. Although a person is most often seen through the eyes of others, you are fucking the whole world ... IT IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE !!!
Number 11 - you're not well. Are you playing a pimp or something? Porn distorts the psyche of adults, what is left of a child. If he throws himself into porn from such a fragile bond - he directly skips several stages of his mental development, so he will not one day know what true intimacy is.
This is awful!
Talk to someone and pour out your grief. Seek advice. Sooner or later everything comes back, after another year you will have something to laugh about!
To number 13: "If you throw yourself at porn from such a fragile tie" - you don't seem to be aware of the situation in BG, the children are already 12-13, let alone watching porn ... And if not now, when, when he comes of age ?? Naughty Bear
In my opinion, the problem is not that they insult you for being gay, but that you are offended. It's like saying a pig to a stick and getting hurt. There is no logic. Do you really think you're gay? And if you turn out to be gay, can you live a gay life? Answer these questions. Bad
They insult you - naughty, but if you are silent, they will continue to insult you. No, I'm not saying to start cursing them or getting into a fight (these are not masculine qualities, but rather rural and hooligan manifestations of low upbringing), definitely not pretending to be someone you are not, if you are not muscular and not you want to be a brainless bodybuilder (not everyone is like that, of course there are some intelligent people among them) and if you don't want to be vulgar, just don't. Use sarcasm, irony, laugh politely, so you will both irritate them and you will not change, because the change must be because of yourself, not because of a gang of immature jerks. Therefore, do not bind yourself to them, walk with your head proudly raised and do not allow yourself to make vulgar statements. A friend of mine, a classmate, had accused him in the same way (it had been a long time since college), the boy in question didn't have a gram of chance to be gay, he had a great girlfriend, and he himself was like Adonis and hellishly cultured, they constantly insulted him, maybe because he wore more modern and expensive clothes - envy is the word ... so he he ignored, they annoyed him a lot. Apparently they envy you for something too, so accept it as a kind of compliment ....
Author: up to number 11 I don't know what porn will help with, and for girls emmy let's see what advice you will give me up to number 16: I don't think it's right to have sex until number 17: well no, I don't think that I will be able to live a gay life. God forbid I'm like that (I don't mind these people, but I don't want to be like that) I would seriously consider committing suicide. I am a believer, but if it turns out to be so, the glass will flow. I have suffered a lot and the thought of not raising children like normal fathers and mothers would finish me off.
Dude, I feel the same way. I am mostly offended by muffins and so-called ultras, but I also have friends, boys and girls, I also had 1 boyfriend (girl) (I don't have muscles but I look good), but if it turns out I'm the opposite, I will kill myself. I have no sense against them, but I don't want to be like that. How will I tell my parents? How will others accept me? of I don't know only god knows
Remember in life you will meet many idiots and if you start to take their words seriously, you will suffer, and let's not forget that to suffer means to punish yourself for the mistakes of others. It shouldn't be. Remember insults only the weak man, the man deprived of any education and arguments. My advice to you would be this: You have to build a protective barrier from idiots, because if you don't build it, you will be very vulnerable, and you shouldn't! There will always be idiots! The simpleton is irreplaceable! There is no dispute with him, only confirmation! His words should not touch you, and even today, to the point of a vow, a person is angry with himself, in the afternoon of the people, so there is no struggle with the simpleton!