Hello! I need opinions ..I am a confused person, some time ago we met my husband and became friends. As banal as it sounds, I got pregnant and he went crazy thinking I wanted to have an abortion but ... I couldn't kill the life in me. That's how I became a mother at the age of 19. We had great difficulties and financial and ..as it turned out to be emotional, the scandals started ... I made many compromises, I tried everything and so to this day I am alone at 31 years old. I graduated and found a job in my specialty, but our relationship did not improve. The great sex we had for several months has been gone for years. When I raise this issue, they explain to me that he doesn't care. He is always nervous and erupts, so for years I started looking for a way out of the situation aaa I forgot to share that we have a daughter who is a wonderful child and I can not think only of myself. I started working and there at work I found love ..but if it's real he is married. .... I really want a family warmth a little sex and peace of mind tell me if it's normal for my husband not to want me and the others to like me I don't miss sexual proposals I think I'm pretty sexy but at home nothing helps dinner candles stockings sexy lingerie .. I get either indifference or insults .. give me advice.
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I'm sorry to have to tell you, but from what I've read it is clear to me that he doesn't love you, he has no passion, no love. You have been together for 12 years, it is normal for the passion to disappear. Look for love elsewhere !!! Good luck...
YES, BUT IT'S NOT SO EASY.
From №1: To understand you after all 12 years of marriage and a child .... such a relationship is hard to break. But if you are not satisfied then what ??? Either talk to him face to face and explain what it's all about, or just leave him (albeit difficult).
It is certainly very difficult for you, but if you love him, you should talk to him calmly, without being intrusive, if he is so "hot-tempered". Try to find out if there is another woman. Talk to him when he's in a good mood. I'm not sure the problem is with your long-term relationship. There are marriages of 20 years and people still love and RESPECT. Good luck.
Do you think that I haven't tried it myself but ... he says that this is the moment and nothing changes ... he didn't care if I understood a day for two months .. but for how long and for the other woman to find out I won't be happier :(
If you do not have a psychological problem, try to take safe remedies / herbal-based /. It would be best to go to a sexologist, but will he agree. I suppose he is also oppressed by this inferior life. Success!
You have obviously become estranged from your husband over time. If he doesn't want reciprocity, whatever you do is unlikely to help. However, this does not mean that you are not a nice sexy woman, so look for warmth, sex, intimacy, the company of another, you have the right to a healthy full sexual life, you are still 31 years old, not 51 years old. Save your family if it suits you, but look for your experiences, emotions that will charge you not only with emotional energy, but also with physical strength. Good luck!
Божеееееее! I'm not the only one! My story is the same, but we are married rather, I feel disgusting because my husband does not want me. I'm 20, I look pretty good, apparently he did something wrong. The only reason we're still together is the child, but I don't think I can stand this situation. I started seeing my first love, he is the person I feel perfect with and we didn't have to part. It was my fault and shortly after we broke up I was pregnant by someone else (my husband). I don't think I've ever stopped loving him as much as he loves me, but we both understand very well that we can't go back in time as much as we want.
Eh, it's unlikely to happen .. except he doesn't want me, he's hellishly jealous ... as you can guess, it's not possible for me to have an extramarital affair .... ;-(
Drop it! What is your husband for? A full sex life protects against a number of diseases. You don't have a man by your side, you have a roommate. As for your married colleague, act! We live one life. When you get older, you will say to yourself, "Hey, at the time, if I hadn't thought so much about him ... how many possibilities ...". People do not pay public opinion tax.
Hello dear! My life is the same! It's like reading for myself. And so I can not understand what he wants, he is always sluggish, dissatisfied and grumbling, and no attention, to feel like a woman, and I do not lie to the men around me, but alas, he does not notice me. As for the colleague, go ahead, don't wait! And mine is jealous, but there is a car for everything. I have been in a relationship with a married colleague for 6 years and I can say that I have not regretted for a moment. We have sex 2-3 times a week, he is attentive to me and has helped me personally, much more than my husband. I have more support than him. Don't be surprised, GIVE and don't regret, everyone wants their own.
I understand you very well because it is not easy to raise a child and you are not respected by your husband! I am not married and I do not have a child, but I understand you because my mother puts so much effort so that she can please us and my 2 sisters, but my father respected her and loves her, do not take offense, but it is not easy, I know that everyone their mothers are hard. :) find his weakness and try to invite him to dinner or they will prepare it only for 2 of you. good luck if it happens I will be very happy :) If it doesn't happen find someone else who will respect you and love you Good luck :)!