Hello! My story is a bit long and I apologize in advance, I tried to shorten it as much as possible. I am 19 years old and a few days ago I started studying at a university in my hometown. My friend introduced me to a boy we were going to study at university with. He is only two years older than me. Although I only knew him for two days on the first day at university, I was much calmer because I am usually quite anxious when I am among strangers. We went out for coffee right after the first day at university, but with another girl from the group. The next day we saw each other briefly, as he was with his friends, but we agreed to see only the two of them the next day. I definitely liked it and found it quite interesting, finding that we have a lot in common. The next day I went to them and things went completely wrong. He started hugging me, kissing me and touching me. I pulled all the time and told him not to. We had known each other for a few days, and because of the things I knew about him and his past, I had promised to keep him aside. He is the typical bad boy with a sad story behind him… But I liked him and I just succumbed to my momentary feelings and we had sex. We keep doing it and obviously he only wants that from me. At first I had no problem with that, but now I realize that I'm starting to fall in love, and he would hardly want anything more from me. When we are alone we behave like a normal couple, but in front of people we are just good friends. I feel very confused. I don't know what exactly I feel for him, but I definitely have feelings and I want something more than just sex between us. I am also afraid that there may be some possibility that he also has some feelings or that in time he will start to feel them. He is quite strange, sometimes we are just silent when we are together, he is thoughtful and as if he is not here, but somewhere else. What happened to him is really awful and I know it's hard for him and maybe he's afraid to love someone so he doesn't lose him too. I'm really confused and I don't know what to do.
I'm afraid that if I ask for anything more from him, he will push me away. I am also afraid that if I continue with him as before, my feelings will become stronger. I do not know what to do and for this I ask you for advice or opinion. Thanks in advance! it is thoughtful and as if it is not here, but somewhere else. What happened to him is really awful and I know it's hard for him and maybe he's afraid to love someone so he doesn't lose him too. I'm really confused and I don't know what to do. I'm afraid that if I ask for anything more from him, he will push me away. I am also afraid that if I continue with him as before, my feelings will become stronger. I do not know what to do and for this, I ask you for advice or opinion. Thanks in advance! it is thoughtful and as if it is not here, but somewhere else. What happened to him is really awful and I know it's hard for him and maybe he's afraid to love someone so he doesn't lose him too. I'm really confused and I don't know what to do. I'm afraid that if I ask for anything more from him, he will push me away. I am also afraid that if I continue with him as before, my feelings will become stronger. I do not know what to do and for this, I ask you for advice or opinion. Thanks in advance! my feelings will become stronger. I do not know what to do and for this, I ask you for advice or opinion. Thanks in advance! my feelings will become stronger. I do not know what to do and for this I ask you for advice or opinion. Thanks in advance!
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Exactly how many women say "no" to different people and still have sex with them interests me ... Brother.
Well, there's no mistake ... you did the man a good job ... offer him to marry you and have babies. if he escapes, you will get rid of him. if it starts to hang, lose it, and if you like it, drive like that.
I have a similar incident to yours ... The boy in question was like the brother of a very good friend of mine and we met alongside him. We went to the hut the whole company, had a great time, and on the second night we had the best sex in my life with him. As you yourself said, I was blinded by the momentary feelings and emotions and I wanted it with every cell of my body. To this day, I blame myself for giving myself to him too quickly, maybe if I hadn't, things would have turned out differently if he had fought ... Anyway, in about a month it was the new year and we all celebrated together in his house - in another town from my hometown, so I had to sleep there the night before NG and in the morning after NG - I gave in again. And so imperceptibly we became friends for sex, as ugly as it sounds. As you say - in front of people good friends, and when we are just the two hugs, popcorn, movies - as a couple. You have to be made of iron so that you don't fall in love ... And it's wrong and contraindicated for you to do it yourself ... How did our relationship end? I was tired of his attitude, obviously I wanted something that he himself was not ready to give ... The glass overflowed when at one party he started to take off another in front of me, which was hellishly ugly on his part - guys, don't do such things, no one deserves it. Then he explained to me that she was a one-dayer, and I was more special. When I'm special, why didn't he behave like that? I hadn't seen him for a few months after that, our only communication was based on exchanging memes on Facebook. Over time, I became insensitive to it - it is true that time heals. I take it as a life lesson, as part of growing up and finding my way to myself. I forgot to add that he is very handsome and very desirable and to this day, there is such a contagious party broadcast that makes you relax and want to smile at him, and why not sleep with him ... both a bad boy, both mysterious, both with a good figure, and a great cutie, but with a past he didn't talk about - at least I know I don't mess with them anymore, I learned my lesson and scratched my curiosity. I can advise you not to ... give yourself a second chance, not to imagine scenarios that haven't happened, because most likely they won't happen if you feel humiliated, inadequate, even sad ... if you feel that your self-esteem goes to hell - lose it. A better one will come, it always comes :) And get rid of the thought that "maybe after tonight everything will be different",
My advice first is not to be so easily accessible. When you want to keep a man aside, as you write, you do not go to them on the third or fourth day of dating and do not sleep with him. With such an attitude on your part, it is quite normal for him to look at you as light and dashna and not look for you for anything but sex. When he finds a serious girlfriend, he will dump you. And don't be fooled that he will fall in love with you in time, men don't need feelings to have sex. It's no coincidence that he doesn't show people his intimate relationship with you. A lover does not behave like that. It is better not to deal with it anymore, over time it will become more and more difficult for you to withdraw. And draw your own conclusion in the future - do not harness the cart in front of the horse. Don't rush into sex on the third day if you want more.
Sounds like an excerpt from a favorite book, but in case it's not ... find out if he cares about you or just sex. To find out if he cares, ask for his support when you need it and see how he reacts. Don't push him or stop him from making your relationship public. If you believe he's so hurt, don't question him, if he starts telling you something too personal, then just let him talk. Still, don't get too carried away until you're sure why he's with you. Good luck.
Bray, great story! A whole few days! Well, bring it at least in a week, and then we'll see ...
Well, what makes a woman fall in love with such a jerk - a criminal type, without prospects, without a future, without a job and income, potentially aggressive and an alcoholic. Just asking.