I am 32 years old and I have a son who is already 12. My husband and I have a lot of differences in thinking and in general in our ideas about life. I can't say that during all these years, and 5 more years as boyfriends, everything was rosy. There were many moments of bitterness and disappointment, but I swallowed and kept pulling the car. I am not referring to infidelities that I doubted, but I did not reveal. I had focused on the family, the child, the apartments, the cars, and so on. In general, I am an independent woman or at least I try to be like that, quite ambitious and always pursuing some goals in my life. I have always worked in several places and with a lot of work I have achieved everything I want. And my husband, who is the complete opposite of me - he was just a part of my life. Strange as it may sound, I never cheated on him. Or at least I didn't have the courage to do it. Maybe because I am too direct and open person and I hold on to such relationships with others. Nothing would hurt me like a lie. Otherwise, I dare say that I am a very liked and courted woman. I'm not saying I don't like it because it fills me with confidence and energy. But only up to there. And our relationship in bed - they are not commendable. Here, perhaps, the blame lies with me, without knowing the root cause. He is always ready to have sex, anywhere, anytime, as long as I don't. Maybe with him. I do not know. Every time, instead of fantasies about stormy sex, I fall for similar scenes in which he participates, but with other women. Often in moments of serious crisis in our relationship, I have told myself that I will do it with someone else. I got to violent flirtations and stopped there. I just can not. Maybe I'm thinking too much, instead of indulging in my heart, my momentary desires and urges. Now, for the first time in my family life, I am facing a dilemma. I soon officially met a man who, like me, is also from Burgas. Even after our first meeting, he started looking for opportunities to hear and see each other. We never talked about our personal lives. He knows I have a big son, and I learned that he is married and has 2 children. There is an incredible attraction between us. For the first time in my conscious life, I experience something like this - I am obsessed with thoughts about it, waiting for a call and quite distracted. I'm ready to have sex with him without expecting anything. But I don't know what to do. Maybe I lack courage, maybe I'm not sure what I want, or rather the subsequent outcome of the situation.
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How can you ruin your family .. You have a child of 12. Think about him and not about you. Once you married him, she must have had a thrill ... Think if your parents had divorced when you were 12. The worst age. It doesn't occur to children (drugs, cigarettes, sex ..., suicides). You will ruin your family .. :)
I experienced almost the same thing. I never thought I would cheat but I did. I'm very confused now. I love my husband and hold on to him but I am torn between two people. I was with the other man once and we don't have a relationship right now. But the thought of him makes me shiver. We broke up because of his relationship and my family situation. Now that it's all over, I suffer a lot because of my infidelity and my unrequited love. I can't give advice. Embark on the adventure but be sure you will regret it.
In both cases you will regret it if you do it or abstain. I soon remembered Remarque's thought, "Life is too long for love." As I sense it, you are a woman of debt and will probably be tormented by the inevitable hypocrisy in a relationship with another. Your meetings will be difficult and take risks to recognize you. In addition, this attraction will undergo metamorphoses - hurried encounters without the halo of the unknown from one moment on ... However, there are moments when the feeling strikes us and we are powerless. Then it should not be deterred, and I think it is impossible.
Infidelity is a complicated thing. Decide what you will lose and what you will gain
Author, things in bed depend on the man! I was married for an infinitely long time and in bed I thought I was full of sorrow. It was me, I didn't have a gram of desire. During the divorce I met a wonderful man - kind and gentle, but married to the grave. I broke up with him, at my request. And now I have an amazing friend, free like me, and sex is great, and everything else. And don't think so much about the child, he will be fine. When I got divorced, my son was in 7th grade. He finished perfectly, now he is a student, studying computer science at Sofia University. I'm not pushing you to divorce, by the way. If your husband is decent, you know. Mine was a whore, a bully, a mother's child, and a full Scrooge.
Infidelity is an act with unpredictable consequences ... It can open your eyes to many things that you miss with your husband, but it can also ruin an irreversible family and marriage and make you regret bitterly. In any case, if you get to the point where you want someone other than your husband, then you are facing a very serious and crisis dilemma (and I say this from personal experience). You will surely lose something - you will feel like a polluter and a traitor to your family, and whether you will gain something is uncertain and often fleeting .... "Welcome to the club"! (in case of impossibility to write in Latin)
.... I am 33 .... and I have a child at 11 ..... do you know that this is my most wonderful age ..... the best year of my life, I realized it thanks to love which I didn't even know existed in this wonderful form ... and I'm happy that fate made me this amazing gift. I'm married, my husband is a wonderful person, but believe me no matter how hard your heart beats ........ Well, you know that rational beings first think and then act .... tormented, rebuked they have a sense of guilt ... they even run away, but only they can separate with their hearts the love from flirtation, the real intimacy and ..... ...... love is when you are not looking for and waiting for nothing, but IT JUST ATTACKS YOU LIKE AN ELEMENT ...... WITHOUT AND WITHOUT MIND YOU HAVE PAST THAT IT WILL HAPPEN ...... Well, BELIEVE THIS IS MY LOVE ..... LOVE IS ...... WHEN THERE ARE BARRIERS,
All this is so sweet, like a box of melted chocolates ... At number 7 it seems to her that she is in love. But let the woman make her own choice and judge things as much as she can from all sides and weigh them. My modest advice is not to rush with big moves and cardinal decisions, but to give yourself more time to judge the new person, to observe him, etc. Ah, it would be nice to happen to a wonderful person for life, but whether this will be the case, only time can tell! I hope he is so lucky! And let's not forget that the feeling of love passes to the 3rd year ... and a whole life is quite a long period.
Hello darling, from your letter I concluded that my life is similar to yours with few exceptions ......... I would very much like to comment on it but not here, maybe there is something to learn from each other! I send an email if you want to write ......