Hello! My name is IK, I am 21 years old, from the town of Vidin. I have some hesitations about my friend and I want to see your point of view. His name is DV and he is 26 years old, also from the town of Vidin. We met by chance in a grocery store. We were in front of the same fruit and vegetable stand. I wanted to buy grapefruits, but the bag broke and in an attempt to help me collect them, we both quarreled and so began our love story. We exchanged Facebook. The next day he offered to meet me. Butterflies were flying in my stomach - everything was more than beautiful. Instead of going out for coffee, he took me to the hut and then we left. The next day he had promised me that we would go for a walk, but after 30 minutes he called me to tell me that he had to do some service to his friend and that they would travel and so we did not see each other. The next day he was in the living room and we had to meet after work. But he found some reason to quarrel with me, I found no logic, it was something petty. We have been together for 3 days, but something in me tells me that something is wrong. I know my story is weird, but the questions keep coming to me. I had looked at his Facebook profile years ago and it turned out that he was engaged. In his profile picture he was alone, there was no like or comment from the woman in question. He said he wanted us to have a relationship, but is that a relationship ?? I have not met his relatives and friends yet. Maybe he doesn't want to hurry or he wants to hide me from others. Let's not go to public places like coffee. I haven't been to his house yet. I asked him if he had an affair with another woman. -His answer was that he had a relationship half a year ago, but now he is free. He didn't mention anything to me about his exes or this engagement. I asked him if there was anything that bothered him. - The answer was no. And now the questions that torment me are: 1. Is there anyone other than me? 2. Is he still with his fiancée? 3. Are there any feelings for me, I'm not talking about love, it's too early for that? 4. Where are things going with us? 5. What should I do in this case? 6. Should I wait to get to know each other better or end my relationship with him?
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I think there really is something, but neither I, nor you, nor anyone else can be sure. Only he knows the truth. Definitely his demeanor is a little strange and no wonder he still has something to do with his fiancée. I would advise you not to give yourself hope and not to start attached to this person too much yet. Be careful.
* Quite immature thinking for 21 years, but maybe you liked him to such an extent that you want him to like you just as much. * 3 days is too little time to say - "We are in a relationship", "I have feelings, is he too". Is there a connection so far? * Don't cling to it, because that's how you suffocate it, but believe me, men don't like theaters, they don't like to control them, to tell them what to do. * You will find out later if he has a relationship and is still with his fiancée. And to introduce you to your parents, is this a serious problem for you? What do his parents have to do with your relationship? If he wants he will meet you, if he wants he will not! When he introduces you to his parents, then will you be calm? No one is going to get seriously engaged or get married to interfere with bystanders who are not a factor that "relationship" you will go. 1. Maybe there is, you will understand this later. 2. Maybe yes, maybe no. 3. It is too early to talk about feelings, this is an acquaintance of 3 days. 4. He does not draw wrong conclusions, he can only ask for friendship. 5. You continue to communicate with him, but not with hopes. (Be friends with him initially) 6. It's always better to wait, you really don't have a relationship and you don't lose anything. -Maryan
4. Things are going to a relationship with a person who is probably just playing with you. 5. Analyze his behavior and consider whether it is the behavior of a person who wants to have a long-term and full relationship 6. The fact that he finds petty reasons to quarrel with you at the very beginning of the relationship does not speak well. Let's not forget that he is also trying to hide you from public places. My advice is to end your relationship with him
4. Things are going to a relationship with a person who is probably just playing with you. 5. Analyze his behavior and consider whether it is the behavior of a person who wants to have a long-term and full relationship 6. The fact that he finds petty reasons to quarrel with you at the very beginning of the relationship does not speak well. Let's not forget that he is also trying to hide you from public places. My advice is to end your relationship with him
1. Yes 2. Yes 3. Nothing but lust 4. Sex and nothing more 5. Run 6. Cut it
Wait and it will become clear. But it seems to me that there is another. It may not be serious, but once it cancels your appointments, it's no accident.
You've known him for 3 days, 2 of which you haven't been together and you think you have a relationship? !! You serious? You write that you are 21, but you think like 12. You just can't talk about a relationship when you've been with someone 1 or 2 times! Even if you take into account who he is with. Just accept that you had a good time with this person and that's it. However, being interested in family, friends, exes, etc. at this stage ... is ridiculous to say the least. If after 3 months he has not introduced you to anyone, wonder why, but 3 days? !! Most likely the person just spent some time with you and decided that you are not his type and that's it. And what kind of movies do you get into ... his ex, his friends, his photo on FB ... OK, he impressed you, but aren't you overdoing it? After all, this is a man you don't know! Okay, he's cute, but to talk about a relationship in these circumstances,
Drop it best. He's playing with you.
Thanks to everyone who commented. I'm confused right now and I don't know what's going on. We'll see where things go. My thought is that I don't know if he's playing with me or if things can change for the better. It's not about love yet, because it's early. I think I'll wait and see what happens in at least a month and make my final decision.
If this boy catches up with you, he will get very angry and go crazy from your jealousy ... only 3 days have passed and you are already going crazy ... and I imagine, for example, in 2-3 months if you are together ...
Author, she's definitely playing with you. if he hasn't shared any things there is a reason and it's not that he's super annoying or anything like that.
Hello everyone again. Our relationship is over. His behavior became aggressive and he even became jealous of my girlfriends. He wanted something impossible for me, to meet my girlfriend and me at the same time. I also received an offer, you remember. As far as I learned from my friend (she is 20 years old), he was with her and they went out, they were at a disco, they kissed. She regrets that. And I'm sorry why I had hoped that things would work out between us in the future. I left him because I saw that nothing would happen to him. I forgave my girlfriend, who still knew we were dating. He offered a relationship to her and she accepted and now they are together. I know that now I will receive another dose of reproach, but still here is not the place for that, but to give advice to someone in need when he is confused and does not know what to do. Because, when a person has a thrill for someone, sooner or later it becomes love, albeit unshared. Thanks to numbers 1, 3, 5, 6, 8 and 11.
Author, I'm sorry, but your girlfriend is not like that at all when she lets a man stand between you. Who, on top of everything, is an asshole and wanted to go out with both of you, and in the meantime he was jealous of your girlfriends. This is beyond selfishness, it is downright psychopathy. Did you mention to the girl that the gentleman wanted to go out with both of you at the same time? Honestly, don't be sorry - you got rid of it in time before you sank. However, your "girlfriend" will sit firmly with this levent and then wonder whose shoulder to cry on. In your place, I would cut off contact with her.
He smelled her, too, that she was as naive as you. Nothing different awaits her. But don't worry, people like him find their master sooner or later.
The author missed №2, and she told you the most in plain text, I don't know why you are offended by adequate opinions? Sakun not to offend you, there were sensitive souls. There is no love for 3 days, not even the feelings you describe. You contradict yourself, sometimes you say that you feel love, sometimes now after a while it turns into love, if there was just a thrill you wouldn't write on the site. You fall in love too early, that's the problem.
He wanted to do something with the two of us at the same time. I talked to his ex-girlfriends and it turned out that he went with 3 at the same time and took their money. They found me first because 2 of his exes are cousins and the third girl is their friend. The thing is that with each passing day I fall more and more in love with this man, I see him very often. He works near my apartment. He turned my head from the moment we met - I don't know if it's a thrill, love or affection, even for such a short time. I will have to accept this bitter truth and move forward. I end the topic. There is nothing more to comment on. I wish you all the best!
Author, raise your self-confidence because you are curling up for some parasite, which, on top of everything, is clear to you. Getting rid of it is a good sign, not a reason to suffer from psychopaths. Take matters into your own hands and look at things objectively - he has nothing to offer you but rob you financially, emotionally and physically. Talk to your ex-girlfriend and tell her what he did before, and she can judge for herself. If she doesn't believe you - leave her contacts to his ex, but don't push anymore. In the end, it will shine on her too, but in a difficult way. I will say again - be glad you are not in her place.