Hello, everyone ! I want to share some things about myself again! I'm 18 years old, teen supposedly the best years, and I'm wasting them because of my horribly depressed spirit and my sense of inferiority! I have become an adult, and the only thing that will make me happy is the driver's license, which I will take soon! Why, it happens to me, something is always wrong with my health, I'm wrong, I stopped one of my few things that gave me self-confidence - fitness! (for health reasons). Now began psychological attacks, fear, panic! Holidays are coming, and I'm ashamed when my relatives ask me "Oh, where are you going to celebrate, and I answer" Well, at home "- As I will always be bored at home! Recently, most of my" friends "during the summer vacation are invited to an acquaintance, and everyone hides from me that they will celebrate with them. Absolutely everyone, I've always been an outsider, I know I don't go out for coffee every day and go to parties, I'm more closed, but we're not the same, are we I'm not a bad person, I repel everyone! I hope you don't think I'm crazy! Thanks to the patient readers!
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You are not crazy! Don't keep underestimating yourself, to me you're just a lonely, misunderstood teenager. Calm down, and my years in high school did not go very well .. even the last 2 years, I was almost non-stop in us, my whole class went out for coffee, no one called me - and for no reason. I just went through this period, I didn't think much of it. There is no one who wants to know you because of yourself, because most people are superficial. Don't shut yourself in, find another activity, if fitness is no longer an option anymore ... And in general, in the future, try to be more open to the new people in your life, communicate more, even if it is difficult for you.
Hey, boy, head up! Things will change, you can be sure of that. Remember everything is in your hands. For a start, stop complaining, enjoy the few even insignificant things. Health is important, but do not dramatize, maybe without fitness. The important thing is that you feel good. As banal as it sounds to you, really learn to like yourself and then you will be amazed how things will change!
For me, the situation is exactly the same. And I'm a girl, 18 - a typical outsider .. I almost never leave us, no one invites me and as always my Christmas and New Year will pass in our country - in front of the TV, waiting for another damn year ... I suggest to let's get the two of us together and spend the holidays together: D there is no other solution;) success.
Hah, only if this is a problem for you :) I'm 19 and Christmas, New Year, etc. I have always ridden them in us. Nobody invites me to celebrate together just because TRUE friends are hard to find. I'm an "outsider" too (I like the term you give him) but I try to hide it. He gets used to depression, and even now on holidays it is somehow harder to fall into such a state.
Don't feel sorry for me. And don't be proud of that situation at all. This is true for everyone like you. Start going to parties and cafes. First alone, and then you will make friends!
It's as if I wrote this story. Only where I am a year older than you, but I think and live the way you describe - lonely, uncommunicative, without real friends. There was a period of weeks when no one called me on the phone. I want things to change and I to live like the others, but somehow it doesn't happen - everything else is like a distant dream somewhere in the future. I also have fear and panic for the future that I will be alone and without friends for a life wasted. I'm already a student, but what of that, nothing changes - I live as a prisoner (that's what I'm used to). Everyone has parties, they have a private life, and I don't. Words like company, friends, discos and parties are foreign to me and "Chinese". On Student I soaked at home as punished, now on holidays as always again. I don't know why this happens to me, why people don't want me. Over the years, I had the least money in the class - that might have depressed me. I also heard terrible things from people about me, it also shut me down. I even communicate a little bit now, I avoid human crowds, I'm sorry I became a student, it's not life. I want to escape somewhere to work. I deliberately do not mention girls here, because there is hardly anyone who will like me without friends, I am not one of the rich, I have all the disadvantages, and I do not know what to say. I feel how most people treat me badly. And I always try to help, but I don't know any other attitude. And the concept of "new" people is not familiar to me either - I grew up in a small town where everyone knows each other. Will I have to go to another country to feel something or not? All my life I felt superfluous in the world, and I don't know what to do. Things which would make me happy are sorry the money started. To the author: you are 18. And yet in your next year different things will happen to you. Next is a candidate student campaign, where, unlike me, you can change your life afterwards. There are many people where the students have changed them and I hope you meet good people there. And even if you don't become a student, you have a great choice for your life - you can start a job, try to work abroad. And what you don't have to do (which I do) is think about the past. Just look ahead And even if you don't become a student, you have a great choice for your life - you can start a job, try to work abroad. And what you don't have to do (which I do) is think about the past. Just look ahead And even if you don't become a student, you have a great choice for your life - you can start a job, try to work abroad. And what you don't have to do (which I do) is think about the past. Just look ahead
Well, I would advise you not to be so critical of yourself, to look after your health, and your friends, when they repel you, they don't know what kind of friend they have. Good luck in all your new endeavors and upside down everything will be fine! :)
For starters, I would advise you to throw away all your complexes and evaluate what you actually have. Think about how many things you have that others dream of having. Almost everyone has health problems, they may have given up your favorite activity but not have ended your life so look for another activity to unload. You should not get depressed, this is the worst way to solve your problems. If you do not have any friends to go out with, write which city you are here and there are people in better condition who can invite you to go out with them. Good luck and do not despair the best is yet to come!