I am 23 years old. I had two long relationships. Both ended tragically - on my initiative. I haven't happened to men since. There seems to be attention, but it's not something serious. I am sharp sometimes and direct. Does that repel them? I also seem to have high self-esteem - I am used to being encouraged and tolerated, which obviously affects me badly. Some time ago we had a drink with company and a friend told me "Who will take you! No one will tolerate you so stubborn" And when I think about it, I lead a monotonous life, from work at home and at home I work again and it so rarely happens to me to meet someone readable, and as soon as something pops up - suddenly they hit back and nothing again ... And now I'm terrified ... I imagine myself in 10 or 15 years, old, wrinkled and alone ... Hardly anyone can tell me gave advice but just wanted to share.
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Stop imagining yourself like that. And what does it mean for your company not to be a drunken party from 200 years ago? Live your life, be smiling and positive, judge men correctly and don't give in to them, that's all they want, a submissive woman to serve them, but know that if you become like that for a man, then you won't be alone, but you won't to be happy.
Honey, you won't be old and wrinkled in 10 or 15 years! You will be a great lady in your mid-30s :) I don't think the problem is so much in your straightforwardness, which I personally find charming, but in the excessive demonstration of self-confidence that you hint at. Take off a little guard. Don't scare them, they are very insecure anyway :) And, if you want, try to diversify from time to time by going out on Saturday night or some hobby, I know? Do not shut up, there is a danger of depression. Success! BM
Ah, you are extra! You don't have to change at all! Better old, wrinkled and alone, than with someone as stubborn and sharp as you ...
VM is right! I used to have such a boyfriend. She kept telling me how the other men she knew were moldy, incl. and her friends' boyfriends. I definitely dare to say that I do not belong to this kind of men, but at one point this whole story began to raise obsessive doubts in me :))) So our relationship ended abruptly.
Abe live your life. There are so many other interesting things to live for, and you're clinging to some men. Live to the max, enjoy everything, life is short, do not create complexes, and to stay alone is very important ... destiny. Don't adjust to what others say, find more interesting things to live for. Better to do whatever you want alone and free than some crushed housewife with a man who doesn't respect her and cheats on her.
I think you're 43, but you're afraid to admit it.
Author: Thank you to everyone involved. I try to think positively and not feel sorry for myself. I think I have gaps in my communication with members of the opposite sex (those with whom the goal is to go beyond purely friendly relations) and I try to find the reasons for this in order to eliminate them in a timely manner. Because, no matter how we talk, time is running out ... №6, what makes you think I'm 43? Do you think I would lie on an anonymous sharing site? Who? You, yourself ??? I am 23 years old. I have the self-confidence of an intelligent, educated and representative girl - I am happy that I was able to take from the university and more than student parties, the results of which I see at the moment - in my work. At the same time, I am a pretty good housewife. Maybe these things are the root of my problem - some elements that are not unusual, but important to me, which make me feel a little higher than most of my peers. And I'm sorry, but I find it hard to believe that for the rest of my life I'm going to be a "woman by the hearth" who doesn't work, who doesn't hold her opinion, even though she's good enough to argue it, and who trumps and trembles in front of men. trying to distance themselves from the concept of "slipper".
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Calm down. Although Hitler is no more, the man with the strongest nerves is also ..: D Do you have to please someone? !! No. "I fell in love with the complex and beautiful woman" - you will surely hear it someday. Nobody likes boredom, and there is no boredom with jars. :)
Author, here's some advice, that's what you want :) Be as educated and confident as you want, this is not your problem. But if you want to be with a man, ask YOU to make him happy. This is not what the men in you see, so they run away. YD