Hello. At present, people are being divided en masse. For one reason or another. I've talked to men about it. When I asked what provoked a man to give up a woman in general and I was often told that: They do not value the woman Infidelity The woman tries to change them Just an approach to inter-bloc relations. Well, is it worth it to give kindly and gladly to keep a common life, which is in disarray from the very beginning of the relationship. Why so much time, but because for some it is important that they determine the end.
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"Inter-bloc approach" Is this a new slang? Inter-block relations in my time were not so intimate :)) When someone beats your jester and replaces you with something, at least according to him, better, I don't think there is such a thing as "common life" to keep it ... So your problem is easy - it's not worth it. Now, if your real problem is that you can't change gears, shafts, axles so easily, remember, things are more complicated. I wrote a whole essay in otkrovenia why modern relationships can not work constructively and will degenerate to the lowest human qualities, because they are based solely on selfishness, and in them only the greater egoist wins. But most don't care because they want to be "free." Be, I still have this. But here's how it works, you write it yourself. If you don't want to be dumped - dump the other one first! When you leave a relationship, you do it according to your rules. This is the ABC of modern ... inter-bloc relations:) ... For both men and women.
Fear that they will not be worthy partners. For example, they do not have the necessary salary and do not have the confidence to start a family and run away. They can't be trusted and the reasons are many. They live and have a bunch of other reasons
A man of 30 years. After 3 years of relationship and engagement, I had to destroy everything and leave, and given that I was dying for the woman next to me, I had done everything for her that is naturally within my means. But she never stopped trying to change me in everything! He took out all my friends with whom I had been for 20 years. that is, from the kids, people who have proven themselves to me a million times as users and manipulators. Then, over time, the money was still not enough and she still wanted me to look for a paid job! Eventually she dragged me to Germany as I had been there several times and I know that things are not as she saw them in her head, but once she had tried with complete failure! However, with thousands of convictions he dragged me! There we went badly and in debt, because I hid my personal savings because he wanted them for expenses and what not without even me wanting to be there! That is, he was trying to change me in every way, and when he failed, the words were "I don't think I'm the woman for you if I couldn't change you." Well, it can't happen and I hate this trait because I took it as it was and I didn't try to impose or change anything on it! Finally I packed my bags and went home and left her to find a fool to change and he is inclined to distort his whole life so far to please a duck! Greetings Finally I packed my bags and went home and left her to find a fool to change and he is inclined to distort his whole life so far to please a duck! Greetings Finally I packed my bags and went home and left her to find a fool to change and he is inclined to distort his whole life so far to please a duck! Greetings
The woman was created to be a man's helper, not his master, not to criticize him, to demand, to mutter to him, to judge him, to ask him for income, profession, material gains, attention, etc. Any deviation from the original idea leads to collapse, especially in the current liberal model of greed, exploitation and selfishness. So a woman is expected to have true love, humility, fidelity and unconditional support. These are the qualities that can keep a man. At present, a woman with a mind washed by feminist ideologies sees the man only as a source of good. It is completely natural that in such conditions everything sooner or later falls apart.
To number 3: yes, I understand you very well. For me, the issue of change is also extremely important. I had set myself one of the goals of not changing them, because it was even important for me to keep both of them the way they were from the beginning. There were criticisms of me, which in the beginning were justified, for example, related. with a coarser vocabulary or others. Gradually, however, there was interference in my entire philosophy of life, in the way my things turn out and in which I somehow achieved my goals. Gradually, my individuality, the different in me, became the number one enemy in life. We changed dozens of things, but there were still new ones. Unfortunately, from that moment on, somehow his desire to change began to be expressed in a backward and insulting way. Manipulation threats and pressure to the result. I tried to talk, that when he tells me and obsesses him what to change how and why there is 100% cooperation on the issue. But alas, the communication sank at some point and it was as if I had said countless important things in a hole in the park and covered it back. Thanks for the comments. They helped me a lot to realize that no matter how much we love someone, once their DNA or upbringing is programmed not to accept people in any way, there is no way to overcome that and keep the connection.
I don't know what it's worth, but I'll tell you what would make me leave. 1. They are well-versed in the comments above, this is constantly trying to change some things, because in her opinion it is right. Okay, try something and if it doesn't work, shut up and move on! 2. To take care of you, not to respect your personal space. "Where were you, who were you with" and so on. To dig on your phone / laptop. If you have so many problems, follow me, but I never understand that otherwise bad. 3. Not to pay attention to you and not to respect your opinion and what is said. 4. To go left - right on someone else's. There must be more, but mostly these things are with me.
When they choose to leave, they are on the right path. I don't think a woman's life should revolve around a man. A woman should have her own life, career and a decent bank account. Some men are overestimated too much, and that's a bad joke.
Number 4 - very true! Number 6: "4. To walk left - right on someone else's." I have the impression that once a week or two is bearable. I hope it is much less acceptable.
My humble opinion is that people are currently splitting en masse because they have not reunited at all. Nowadays, both boys and girls are not looking for a relationship, but for fun. Quite for example - a girl who started having sex at the age of 14-15, has no way of looking for a relationship, the same goes for boys. Starting sexual life from an early age, there is no way not to gain experience in disappointments, and from there "the curtain falls", separation from each subsequent sexual partner is easier, and when it comes time for a really serious relationship, a person is already emotionally exhausted and does not make an effort, prefers to change partners, to consume the new thrill and so on indefinitely. They left me, I left and it was always different, but at the bottom of each separation was the reluctance of one of the two sides to make efforts to upgrade the relationship. I will allow myself an analogy with school, when you have not learned the lesson, you have two options, you run away from class or you risk writing a couple, and you will have to learn this lesson and everyone else on the correction. Most people prefer to escape and find themselves with unlearned lessons, and life does not forgive, writes couples even when you ran away from class.