Hi, I don't know if I should write this, I have never written in any forums so far. I have a problem at work. I have been working in a store for ten years, where the work is going well with the bosses, I get along and my work is in dispute. But I have an irritant, one of the sons of the business owner. He has a shop next to his father's, which is not going well. There is not a lot of work. He told me to take clients from him. The story may seem very banal, but for me it is a living harassment. He comes and threatens me, slams doors behind him, bangs on my desk. It makes me leave. In my opinion, I think he envies the prosperity of his father's shop and earns it from me. It's been like this for 10 years. And I like my job, I don't want to leave. I told my boss, but he doesn't get along very well with him. This man is about 40 years old. and is uncontrollable. He threatened to kill me two days ago, it may have been said, but it's still scary. I'm thinking of complaining to the police. I'm not one to deal with complaints, but I have no choice. I dare not tell my husband, so as not to lead to self-mutilation. I do not know what to do. Will the police do something, even if they just threaten him I can't take it anymore, I'm just a woman after all. If anyone has a better idea what to do write. Thank you for reading my letter. If anyone has a better idea what to do write. Thank you for reading my letter. If anyone has a better idea what to do write. Thank you for reading my letter.
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Before you get to the police and fight, it's not bad to talk to your boss about the problem. He will tighten his son, if not - just tell the customers to go to the next store - you will get your salary ...
Write down the threats with your phone, otherwise I don't know if they will believe you. You know he'll deny it, don't you? He can make up any nonsense about you. Write it down with the phone next time.
Turning to the police is the best solution. If it doesn't work, file a restraining order complaint. If I were you, I'd think of a way to secretly photograph him while he's threatening you. At the very least, it will be proof and sufficient motivation for the police to do their job. I can't think of other methods. This man has been poisoning your nerves for 10 years now, it's high time you reacted - otherwise, the mold will continue, at least to get on your nerves ... at your expense.
Hello. The first comment advises you to tell your boss before you go to the police or a fight and he should tighten it ... it's pointless. You have already said it many times and it has no effect. So it is already clear that it is not effective. Besides, this man, your boss, since his son is 40 years old, he is obviously an old man and his son has been an adult and a big man for a long time, he can't hold him tight. If you like your job, you will defend yourself with your teeth and nails. Do you realize how difficult it is nowadays to like your job and enjoy working? 90% of people dream of doing something they like and doing it. Everything is wrong for a crooked person and others are to blame. It is his fault that he is not doing well and that he cannot do business. But because it is a complex and where to kill your anger and envy ... of course, to some weaker. See what you tighten and do not become a pad. Do you have dignity? !! How will you allow a complex to threaten and kill you. If you think of impunity and do not listen to your father or you, you resort to other measures. Otherwise, things will not change ... it will only make your life worse and it will continue to make you worse every working day. You go to the police, file a complaint and describe everything in detail. The procedure from there is to warn him. Believe me, he will sit on his ass. After all, this is a threat to kill you, are you crazy not to complain so far and ask on the sites. You don't care if he said it seriously or not, the important thing is that he said it. It is very important to cry with the police while there is no self-mutilation. If you continue after the police, you will cry again, and when there is a complaint a second time after the police have warned him, you have the right to ask for a restraining order, you can even sue him but you have to have at least 1 witness to at least an hour of scandal to sue him. If even then it doesn't help your husband to arrange this cattle. Otherwise, share it with your husbands right now to make it easier for you and at least to have someone to talk to about these worries when you get home from work. To hide it in yourself is even worse. /Good luck
Thank you for the suggestions. I told my boss but he advised me not to pay attention to his stupidity and simplicity. I have 5 cameras over my head, but the boss may not allow me to show them to the police. Maybe a recording over the phone would be best. I will still go to the police, I hope they will pay attention to my complaint.
Even if you don't show them any evidence, you can still file a complaint, that's your right. Records and evidence are not required. Even if they don't pay serious attention to your complaint, the important thing is that you filed it. Then, after they warn him, he won't be a jerk, he will realize that he has a serious person against him and you are not some kind of base that can do whatever he wants with you and harass you mentally. In addition, there will be some already aware that you have problems with this person and whatever happens to you from here on out, the first suspect will be that he will more or less startle him. And as for the recordings from the cameras ... you don't have to ask them from your boss ... you even stay in front of him so that he doesn't destroy them ... no matter how much they don't understand each other, this is his son, don't forget him. When you go to the police station and tell them that in their shop, even if they ask for the records legally, they will demand them. And then your boss can't refuse to give them.
Yes, that's exactly what I'm going to do, I'm going to the police tomorrow and I'm going to plant this crazy idiot, thanks again for the support, I think I've put up with the whims of an animal for too many years. I'M GOING.
Well, I may be 15 years old, but again, if he's been harassing you for so long, why haven't you complained to the police or told your husband to go talk to him about how you're going to be there? a pussy fuck and I complain to the police or I would bring from those people that I do not remember the names, ie those who see if everything is OK, whether it is on time and what it is, but it's best with the police, although I do not believe something at most to get to court and then it's a lot of quarrels. I hope I reminded you with something how to fix myself, I'm not much into these things because I'm still young: P
Thanks for the concern, I already went to the police and they called him, since then I no longer have this problem, he just walks past the store and complains that he can no longer bother me and I no longer pay attention to him, I had to complain a long time ago in the police. But better late than never, so "OUR POLICE PROTECT ME" as the song goes. Thank you all for your empathy, you helped me a lot, I am now calmer and braver.
Hello, my problem is the following: I am a teacher with 20 years of experience, a serious and principled person, responsible and dedicated to my work. I love my profession and I practice it with great love. I have a reputation as a decent person. However, this is not to the liking of my colleague, and a former classmate, who has started spreading ugly rumors about me, and in this way is trying to blacken me. I already hear malicious allusions and outright insults from colleagues, which at first were difficult for me to explain to myself, given that we have not had any disputes or arguments about anything. Until a colleague hinted to me where these gossips, outright lies, came from. I also later found out that the villain in question had run into my husband some time ago, but he rejected her. A little later we met him and got married. I slowly put the puzzle together. The problem, however, is that this scumbag continues to sow gossip about me and thus undermine the authority I have built over the years. How to deal with this? Please help if you have had a similar experience! Thanks in advance!
You should have released this topic as a standalone story so that more people could read it. What about what worries you once people understand it? Maybe it's best to go and tell her that you hear a lot of people spreading rumors at two addresses and you don't want her to discuss you anymore.
They are killing me through mental harassment!