How would you react if you found out that your underage daughter was pregnant at the end of the fourth month? According to the doctor, an abortion this week means that there can never be more children. The future father does not become - absolute passed, etc.
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How old exactly is the girl? Has enough attention been paid to it so far? Why didn't her mother and father talk to her about sexual culture and how important it is to use protective equipment? Did she hide her pregnancy until now or did she not know she was pregnant? In both cases it is quite bad. In one case it means that the child does not have a stable relationship with his parents and does not dare to share with them, and in the other case - how come there is no cycle for 4 months or more and it is not felt that there is something? Why did the parents allow their underage daughter to see and have sex with this so-called future dad who "does not become, absolute passed"? Aren't there decent guys around her? You don't seem to have much choice and will have to give birth to the baby, but in your place I would wonder where I went wrong as a parent, and then I would have this very important conversation with the girl. Listen to her and then make a decision together without arguing or shouting.
Aren't you talking? Does she want a child? She is already an adult, you will watch them.
I would blame myself.
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Well, since it's too late for an abortion, I'll make her give birth, but she'll take full responsibility for her actions! No going out with friends, no hanging out in restaurants and the like, if she is old enough to have unsafe sex, then she is big enough to bear the consequences! I will force her to grow up and become a mother in the full sense of the word. Yes, it will definitely come in handy and of course, I as a parent will help, but the responsibility for the baby will be mostly hers. And not like most teenage girls, when they get pregnant they give the baby to their mother and they wave at parties and discos. It won't happen! Once she decides she's an adult, well, she'll act like one.
I will tell her to find a job and accommodation and I will give her up to 10 days to move out. I have no intention of raising rogue children in my home. Once she has decided that she wants to sleep with rascals and especially that I don't deserve to know sooner, in time to pay for her abortion, she is free to leave my home.
From the author: I am the father of the girl, after 2 months she turns 18 years old. I don't know what to think, she tells us she didn't suspect, but my opinion is that she lied to us. We also have an older daughter, they were raised in the same way, but during puberty the little one literally became another person, uncontrollable. My wife and I tried to raise both without scandals and bans, I don't know where we went wrong. I read a lot, I was interested, I realized that there is an option for somehow abortion through medication. I don't know if the decision to keep the child is not ruining her future. And isn't it better to take the risk of not having more children, which in fact no one claims will happen 100% in the event of an abortion. I'm really confused. My wife even more.
Please do not treat your daughter as advised №5, do not. It is really too late for an abortion, let her give birth, it will be neither the first nor the last. Think of this baby as your grandson, not as the child of a scumbag who has conceived a minor girl. Help your child in a difficult time, in time he will appreciate your gesture.
Author, if you want to tire your child - go, cause an abortion with pills! I wonder about your wife's mind - she should at least know what it means to terminate a four-month pregnancy. And your daughter is not 12, but 18, the situation is not so tragic. But why she didn't share - you have to think about it.
When I read that the father was ready to risk his life, health and mutilate his daughter forever by making her have an abortion in the fourth month, I was shocked. And the baby is no longer a bunch of cells, but a fairly shaped creature. I don't know if the future father will, but the current one definitely doesn't. # 5 is the closest to the truth, the girl has to endure the consequences, but you parents along with her. However, listening to the story, I doubt that you can adequately do what you have to do. Too bad for both the girl and the child.
I sincerely hope that my daughter will not get pregnant at a very fragile age for her, because we are supposed to have all the awkward conversations with her. I can't know how it will go from now on, but ... yes, I wouldn't be happy for my child to show up one day and tell me it's the end of the 4th month. I honestly admit that if she tells me while she has time for an abortion, I will make that decision for her. It will weigh on my conscience, but I will do it to protect my child. Although it's ironic that I'm going to hurt my grandson this way. Author, you shared that your daughter will come of age in two months. In such a situation, if it was my child, I would take her to several doctors and explore all possible options for action. I would leave the decision to the 17-year-old girl, because she is almost an adult and because the decision affects her life and her child. Of course, at first I will be indignant, I will probably shout and take out such a horse that no one has ever imagined could exist. Will I leave her alone with a baby if the father does not take responsibility for them - absolutely not. I'd rather have her, dad, and baby in the next room, but that makes me a control maniac, not a good parent. I will help the "young family", but the first conversation I will have with my daughter will be about leaving her alone to make the decision, but I expect her to take responsibility for the consequences. In other words, the main care for the baby is hers and she will change the most diapers, tickle the stroller most often, put the baby to sleep, feed him and in general, if she decides to be a mother, she will really be a mother. The child is her right and her duty, I am a grandmother - I help, pamper and annoy, that's it. If she wants to study and semesters I will pay, and I will look after a baby, because with this education she will be able to work in a good position and alone to make a living. If he is not going to study, I expect him to start work as soon as the child starts nursery / kindergarten. Deciding to be an 18-year-old mother, I understand that my daughter is deciding to be a responsible adult and I will want the same from her. Let him go out with friends for coffee with the stroller, let him have fun within reasonable limits, but having a child means giving up discos, alcohol and all sorts of arbitrariness. I would tell her these things, as her mother, because I cannot lie to my child. What will she do - her job. If he wants to give birth, if he wants to look after a child, if he wants to give it up for adoption, if he wants to be a single parent, if she wants to start a family ... she will turn 18 in 2 months, when she gives birth she will be an adult, the elections are no longer mine and I realize that. What I would make as a decision is to stand behind my child, no matter what he does from now on and no matter how more or less disappointed I am. I would be disappointed that she didn't tell me in time, that she didn't protect herself during sex, that it took her 4 months to notice that she didn't have a cycle ... in general, that she acted stupidly many times to reach the current situation. But to be honest, no parent in this situation has anything to do, one can only think that somewhere before that he lost communication with his daughter. what I would make as a decision is to stand behind my child, no matter what he does from now on and no matter how more or less disappointed I am. My disappointment would come from not telling me in time, that she didn't protect herself during sex, that it took her 4 months to notice that she didn't have a cycle ... in general, that she acted stupidly many times to reach the current situation. But to be honest, no parent in this situation has anything to do, one can only think that somewhere before that he lost communication with his daughter. what I would make as a decision is to stand behind my child, no matter what he does from now on and no matter how more or less disappointed I am. I would be disappointed that she didn't tell me in time, that she didn't protect herself during sex, that it took her 4 months to notice that she didn't have a cycle ... in general, that she acted stupidly many times to reach the current situation. But to be honest, no parent in this situation has anything to do, one can only think that somewhere before that he lost communication with his daughter. in general, that she had acted foolishly many times to get to the present situation. But to be honest, no parent in this situation has anything to do, one can only think that somewhere before that he lost communication with his daughter. in general, that she had acted foolishly many times to get to the present situation. But to be honest, no parent in this situation has anything to do, one can only think that somewhere before that he lost communication with his daughter.
He will be 18 and in the 4th month. Please just don't make her have an abortion. If then he can't even have children, he will regret it for the rest of his life. And all sorts of nasty things can happen to her after an abortion in the 4th month, at the age of 18. Once she has done it, look at it. You can sue the father for maintenance. The court will certainly decide to pay her.
In Bulgarian law, abortion is performed after the end of the third month of pregnancy, without any medical reasons to do so. But abortion for medical reasons can be done. (Or for a certain amount at a corrupt doctor.) This is done by inducing birth with certain medications because it is too late for a standard abortion. However, I would advise you not to kill the baby, because this month is already almost fully formed man and this is pure murder. Help your daughter by not sparing her child care. Let her grow faster and learn to be responsible. He will be able to learn and develop again. The child is not as big an obstacle as some people think. It does not ruin life, but gives it a new meaning.
If he is over 16, he has no problem looking after his child. She is young, if she wants she will graduate a year later. Young, but no longer small. It is not bad to be a mother of 17.
Author: Look, I'm just sharing what information I come across, I'm not saying we're going to make an abortion decision. We decided to raise our child. We are confused, we are afraid. Probably our mistake is to get here. Whether it is weak parental control, whether I do not know otherwise. We talked to her all the time, advised her, we hoped she would understand that this person was not for her. This happened, but too late, and we will all bear the consequences of her misjudgment. She wants to continue her studies as pregnant as possible and then with a child. We will help as soon as she decides.
It is commendable that you have made this decision and that you will help your daughter. She will have to grow up a little prematurely, but she did it herself. The important thing is to get a good education and become an independent woman so that one day she can start a family with a good man.
Yes, unfortunately it is always so - it is carried by people in the family. I do not know how much you and your mother are to blame, but your daughter is certainly - she allowed herself for some reason to have unprotected sex. This is dangerous and irresponsible. And it's not just about a possible pregnancy, but about a bunch of diseases. In this case, however, the result is pregnancy. If she has not shared from the beginning, it is assumed that she wants to keep the fruit. What he imagines with this decision of almost 18 is a completely different beer. However, you must be firm and make it clear to her from the beginning that this decision is her responsibility with all the consequences of her choice - from having unsafe sex to the result. She doesn't even know what it means to be a parent and that when a child appears, it automatically becomes number one. In the next 20 years, and as an emotion - forever. I do not know, I have always been afraid of such a development - an inappropriate time for pregnancy, and I have a daughter, she is a little older. We have talked, we talk and yet I am on thorns, because there is no guarantee that she will think every time. In fact, sooner or later everything falls into place, but the price is different.
Author, it's not as big a drama as you think. Under no circumstances force her to have an abortion or to abandon it. This is fate. The child is her karma. Don't interfere there. Help her as much as you can, but don't blame her. The girl is not rude, and you are not bad parents. Such things happen. I'm older than your daughter and I haven't been able to get pregnant for a year. I don't have abortions, and so on. Things are very deep, you do not know how things will develop in years to come, do not lose your daughter because she is pregnant. There is a way to finish, behave well with her, because the child feels all the emotions of the mother. Show her that you are happy for her, show it to the evil people and shut their mouths. Think about my words. Celebrate, people, do not suffer!
When I was that age, my mother secretly monitored me to see if my period was coming regularly.
I won't worry. Look at how much happier those who gave birth early are than those who gave birth late. You will become a grandmother, congratulations!
Ahh, congratulations, you will become a grandfather! I didn't see the father write! Rejoice! And if you want, you adopt the grandson and the daughter goes her own way.
I read the opinions again and I ask myself, why should it be a mistake, why should it be a consequence !? This is joy! In a few months there will be no happier grandparents than you, or as I wrote above, if you adopt the baby to free your daughter if she is so naughty, God give everyone such joy.
22, I wish you and such joy in the home.
This doctor is either incompetent or you are lying. I had an abortion at 5 months, spontaneous but with curettage, and when I asked the doctor if I could have children, he told me yes, anyway. Stop this nonsense when you can and can't have children.
Up to 24 from the father: Look, I share what we were told. I do not understand, but my wife has full confidence in the doctor
The only thing that comes to my mind is to say that you will be murderers. I am 18 years old and I am 4 months pregnant. When my mother found out, she jumped to heaven with joy, my whole family also supports me. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, a good boy and he really shows that he cares about me and the baby. Don't be so pessimistic, don't kill your daughter's baby. What drugs, what nonsense. You are selfish, really.
№24 Each case is individual! Absolutely everyone! My close friend was told that she would not have children because her uterus was small, inverted and I don't know what else. As a result, there are four children and several abortions. So, what the doctor says, he may have just reassured you. This is how it should be. Mental adjustment is important. So time flies, as far as I understand you should already be in the fifth month if you haven't done the other stupid thing. And you know, even if you see an aborted fetus in the fourth month, it's a baby, it's a creature, a human being, and it's yours, but it's dead!
I will give her every support so that she can develop and one day get back on her feet. May she and her child be proud. Otherwise, if you do, it will not be constructive. I will endure it until he learns something promising, I will chase the pass for support to the hole - he should not miss it.
To number 27 How much your parents are happy, only they know. An unplanned pregnancy at this age often leads to a failed life for the girl. There are few girls who manage to continue to develop in life, to study, to qualify professionally. And the "great love" of this age often ends in a few years at best. I hope not with you
A woman to act like a woman and horror ensues. Yes, your daughter, who will give birth at the age of 18, is a fully developed woman. It just comes to show you that it is not right to over-infuse your children. The real problem is that the father doesn't.