I was 14 years old when I had sex for the first time we did not take precautions and I got pregnant. I studied in another city and my parents didn't notice - until it was time to give birth and the maternity hospital didn't call them. They were very reluctant to keep the baby with me because I was still studying. I am now 21 years old and have only seen my child once at birth. How to find my child ?
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You can't find it at all. You gave it up for adoption and it doesn't know about you. It's a little more. When he grows up he may look, but you don't. Your parents rightly left the child to a loving family. You would ruin not only yours but his life. Still, you shouldn't have been forced to give your child. Your parents are to blame not only for this, but also for not educating you and most importantly - you did not have a relationship of trust with them to tell them in time. You come from a cruel family. Now it is important to live your life and distance yourself from parents, but forget about the child - there is no way to give you information about where he is, and you will only traumatize him by appearing. Accept that you are a big woman. You are NOT a minor, and you are not with a child at all. This child has a mother and a father, and you were just a mother in labor - no more, no less. You had sex, you have degenerated the fetus and so on. This child is not yours!
To number 1. How is it not her child when she gave birth to him? A
Yes, at the root of the problem are your parents and maybe their parents. I advise you to get on your feet first - to finish education, start a career, etc. One day you will meet your child. It will happen gradually until you find it
Did you have sex at 14 and get pregnant? This is very irresponsible. I am glad that your parents were firmly against the child staying with you. You would ruin your life.
This is what happens when you fuck without knowing !!! Do not look for your child, leave him to people who will have the opportunity to raise him. You can't provide ANYTHING to him - you don't have a home, you don't have the necessary finances to raise him.
I'm sorry about what happened to you. Always think that your child is well. He has a home, a mother and a father who have wanted him and are giving him more than you could have given him. You did the best for him. That means you're a good mother. What happens when you find it? What do you want? It is best to take your life in your hands so that it makes sense for you to give it. And use condoms.
Looking at the comments, I think people know her. How do you know there is no possibility?
The chance of finding it is very minimal. Still, you probably remember the hospital where you gave birth to him, and the date. So you can go there and see if they have any information. In general, the more details you remember, the better. But think of the other side. Your child must have a family, it is very likely that he does not know that he has been adopted. How would he react if a stranger showed up and said, "I'm your mother!" So I don't know if it's so good to look for him. You better try to find out if he's okay, if he has a family that loves him, and if so, that should be enough for you. You were so young, you couldn't raise him, so don't torture yourself, but rejoice that he has a family that loves him. If anyone is to blame, it's your parents, but on the other hand, it must be a huge shock for your 14-year-old daughter to give birth ... and people hardly knew exactly how to react and what to do, and they made the right decision, according to them. So yes, look for your child, but be discreet and do not cause problems. The best thing you can do is just make sure she is well and has a family. Don't insist on meetings, because as I said, you don't know what the situation is and it can be a huge shock for the child. And you don't want that, do you? because as I said you don't know what the situation is and it can be a huge shock for the child. And you don't want that, do you? because as I said you don't know what the situation is and it can be a huge shock for the child. And you don't want that, do you?
I support №1 Of course the child is not yours! The child is nobody's property! Today, after 7 years, you have no rights over the child you gave birth to. Rights over a child have the one who has performed obligations to a child.
It is not right to be judged, you were a child then, and everyone is wrong. Let the commenters look that you are not asking IF to look for it, but asking HOW! There is a Facebook page where data is published and they can tell you something more there, I think it was my child, the lost one or something like that. In my opinion, your life is yours and you have the right to look for it, but no one can be sure where this child is now and whether he is happy, if he is, you will just wait for him to grow up and then you will introduce yourself ...
Ask your parents in which home they gave it and go look for it.
Those who have brought it to this position are not responsible. Without responsible are those who have not given the necessary attention, without responsible are those who, late remember that they must enter the role of PARENT !!! Advice to the author: leave things as they are, don't dig any more, that's how you'll just finish. But by no means do I forget. Go ahead, maybe one day your dream will come true, for this purpose you have to be stable. I wish you success! "LUDKARKATA 2"
Up to 2 out of 1 - Well, the child is not "hers". She is a mother in labor, but she is not a mother. Even in the birth certificate itself the name of the real parents (adoptive parents) is written. She may be angry with her parents, but also with HERSELF, because once she was mature enough to have unprotected sex, she was mature and made a decision. She has 100% signed the waiver of the child. For example, she could not sign and live in a mother and child home, there are houses in our country where such girls live - she had a choice. The child is 7 years old. He has no way to search for his maternity hospital on Facebook, because he probably doesn't know and will never know that he has been adopted. Nobody will help her in hospitals, institutions, because we have an old communist law, which gave 5 years in prison for people who violate the secrecy of adoption.
What age do you live in? !! There are condoms, pills and Escapel, for God's sake! And what does it mean to make a mistake, not to have a store to confuse the deliveries or the rest! It's about a child! I'm adopted myself and thank you for that, but I can't understand people like you, let alone excuse you.
I haven't signed anything. She is simply placed in a foster family and bears my names. I found her, but it's hard for me to go there, to look her in the eye.
at 14 you couldn't sign it. Are you sure your parents didn't do it for you and that she wasn't adopted?
She is a minor at the age of 14. In this case, the decision is made by the parents, not by her! See if he was 16, that's another question. About the child. I'm glad you found it. Make sure she's okay, but don't call her. If you do, you run the risk of acting irresponsibly for the second time in your life, only this time you can't justify yourself with age and inexperience! It is possible to traumatize the child and bring a lot of problems to the family in question, who took care of her as their own daughter, and no one knows what to offer her except a bare confession. To number 2: The child does not own, human life does not belong to anyone! Parents for those who take care of the upbringing and education of the child by embracing him with love!
Once in a foster family, this is a temporary measure - the child is not adopted, but given to them for upbringing, for which they are paid. Go pick up your child - you will be 100% better. However, be prepared to bear the consequences - it will certainly be very difficult for you and this time there will be no going back.