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Mistress

By Maxmara13 October 06, 2020 19 answers Last updated October 06, 2020

I am 35 years old. I have been divorced for 2 years. I have been in a relationship with a married man for 1 year. I'm crazy about him, I really love him, I've never felt this way in my life. No man has treated me like he has. I don't want him to divorce, I don't want to live with him, I just want it never to end. I never thought I could be a mistress but it is a fate, a punishment, a very great punishment. I can't do without him and he can't do without me. For 1 year he has not missed a day in which he has not seen me at least once. I am happy and unhappy at the same time. I know I have to leave, to leave him, but I can't, believe me I can't. What to do...

Answers 19

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smithsonianmag answered · October 06, 2020

   This is really a great torture. And as time goes on, it gets worse and worse, because it can't be yours. And I have been in your position and my advice is: enjoy and be grateful for those moments that you are experiencing now, because sooner or later you will separate, regardless of whose initiative - his or yours. I know you're unhappy that you can't be together all the time, but maybe it's better that way, because if you're constantly together as husband and wife, you'll get bored and you'll find yourself in the role of his wife. So row with a handful of this love that gushes from your heart and I hope you do not remain disappointed, as I remained.

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lolita_sims answered · October 06, 2020

   His wife will sooner or later find out, and then not only will your marriage be ruined, but theirs as well. The only thing I can't understand ... is why it's sweeter for you to be with a married man instead of a single man who is with you and helps you. I know few men who are married to women and hundreds of women who are married men. Honey, this is called masochism, because in time you will suffer a lot, a lot!

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x0xangel answered · October 06, 2020

   You're a brave woman, at least I think so. I was also offered to become a mistress to a man I like, I can even say that I am madly in love, but I do not dare to be afraid of anything, I even did so, never to see him again, I am always tormented I tell myself, no, not a mistress. My advice is if you want to be with him, and if it is written that he will divorce, he will do it, even if he is not with you, he would hardly be with you if things went well at home. You never know where your heart will take you, married or not. Success!

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axsound answered · October 06, 2020

   That's better, you know! It doesn't matter that I'm a man, but I've been your way too. I was married, I had a married mistress for 5 years, we hid like mice, but we loved each other a lot and we were happy! I got divorced after 1 year and she divorced and we lived together, but it wasn't the same as when we were lovers. We started arguing about nonsense and after another year we broke up! So, enjoy what you have now and don't care that he is married and you can't be with him all the time! Believe me, it's better that way!

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samruhr answered · October 06, 2020

   Dear live the coin with this man but do not get carried away by it sooner or later it will hurt you a lot from parting you enjoy the moment and that's it.

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2pm.jype answered · October 06, 2020

   To the author. Life is one you decide how you will live it. Just don't take the advice on number 3. Everyone else is right in their own way. I wish you to make the wisest decision for yourself.

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corduroyce answered · October 06, 2020

   There is true Love, there is also human infatuation! The first is pure and noble, the second is the one who sins and leads a person into adultery! My advice is to stop and not continue! Because from this "sweet", then you will be very bitter. There are bad things that come into a person's life precisely because of such sins. Every person's life is a test and with his deeds, he makes a choice for Eternity. God has given everyone a Conscience that tells us what is good and what is evil, let us all listen to it!

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_mutoayami_ answered · October 06, 2020

   And the people here are not just two people, there is a third! He what? Doesn't he have feelings? Well, you hypocrites - you kiss some, you kiss them, and you go home to others. Honesty is always the right choice. If you no longer feel anything for someone, better understand each other face to face. What if the person you live with still loves you? How will he feel if he finds out? What if you were in his place? People have said it: don't do what you don't want to happen to you !!!!

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58quick answered · October 06, 2020

   Hello. I am a man married for many years. At your age, you can't know what it's like to be a mistress during communism. Then they were lovers, now they are simply gone. Now people like you usually say to their chosen one "Let's help each other." I will not judge you. I even support you. But so that there are no upheavals, future painful separation and everything else, I advise you to do the following: Make sure you remain friends. Such friends who are ready to give their lives for each other. Help each other, love each other. Lovers come and go. True friends remain for life. GS1

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dulceeemia answered · October 06, 2020

   I think that if you live together you will start to find flaws and you will not have this love that is now.

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mochni_com answered · October 06, 2020

   From the author: № 9 thank you for the advice. I grew up with this man, we've been best friends for 18 years, and believe me, I don't need to tell him "Let's help each other." For the first time in my life I feel really happy and with him - my true friend. I can't believe I violated all my principles. I never thought I could be with a married man, but I'm not sorry. I will live for the moment, I will experience this happiness no matter what happens. Then I'll be unhappy, I know, but it won't be my first time. I haven't learned that either. Thanks to everyone for the tips.

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misterxxx59 answered · October 06, 2020

   I can understand that I have no right to disturb his family, but how can I live without him?

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gaychubbylover answered · October 06, 2020

   Emmy, did he have children, specify, if he really loves you, he will dump everything just to be with you: 0

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2lookat answered · October 06, 2020

   It's been 4 years. Author, how are you? Did something happen?

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yanakiriche answered · October 07, 2020

   Well, it's all about the thrill, the hiding place, usually it's men and women with low self-esteem - you delude yourself that you are very desirable, because you are preferred by a man who already lives with a woman, and he in turn believes that more is on top. In general, if you live together, everything will collapse. It is likely that his wife knows and also lives her life somewhere. But none of your three are truly happy. Sooner or later, the passion will die out, no matter what you say and subconsciously suggest. I understand you, but I do not justify you. Well, history knows cases when it's really about love, but if that's the case with you, then it's okay for him to leave his wife and be with you. So he's a hypocrite with both of you, I hope you don't believe his talk that he doesn't sleep with her. Or if he sleeps, even rarely - does that suit you? Maybe you have a very deep psychological problem that will make you very angry soon.

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Kim_Bux___Yohan_Blk answered · October 07, 2020

   M-59 Live like this and enjoy the moment. I have been with a woman for 15 years, I am married and she is single. We haven't been bored for 15 years, and my wife and I haven't cheated, even with my wife. She is divorced and can't do without me either. For the information of my wife and I cheated after 1 year. So if you are a family it will not be the same. "DO NOT BREAK THE COFFEE WITH SUGAR, WHISKEY WITH ICE AND LOVE WITH MARRIAGE !!!"

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ladypanda answered · October 07, 2020

   Number 16 - you're a big fool for not reuniting with your love. We got together and started a family - I was his mistress for 10 years, we have been a family for 5 years - our children were born and we don't cheat on each other, we can't get enough of each other and not only that marriage didn't spoil our Love , but we also became more with the children and it was as if Love became bigger and bigger. I'm sorry for your mistress, I hope at least she has children, because your love is obviously fake and the interest in fake marriage is greater

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Charlizee answered · October 07, 2020

   I don't know what to say about someone, I'm guilty of other rights and I have the same problem, but I've had it for more than half a year. The author didn't mention the man. Are there any children?

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axelfriendly answered · October 07, 2020

   Bray ... № 16, big motto, big thing! You're gnashing your teeth where there's a story! Only I didn't understand the idea of ​​the post? !? The woman boasted that she had found the man of her life, even though they were only lovers, and you set out to give her life examples, which, by the way, are too vague for the reading audience! The next time you decide to post something, take it and read it before you "post" it!