I want to share my story here, I have a relationship with a married man, he is with me only because of good sex, I am aware of that, he does not get along with his wife, but he will never divorce - he is quite conservative. I do not expect it, the bad thing is that I have feelings for him, they appeared over time, I am giving in this regard, in every way emotionally, materially and sexually. I don't even date other men, I've tried, I have sex with others, but I still don't like something. I don't know if anyone has experienced such love, everyone around me tells me that he uses me, I don't even know if he feels anything other than affection, we have been together for 3-4 years, it's not a short time. I am a beautiful woman, independent, intelligent, but I do not find the strength to stop all this, I tried and came back to him again, this love gives me a lot of emotions, after meeting him I fly like a newborn, but it also torments me terribly. I will be happy for your advice, whatever it is.
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And I think he uses you. He will not divorce his wife, but will you be pleased to know that you are not the only one in his life? You better let him start doing something and in time you will forget him ...
Everything is in your hands. I can only advise you to answer the question whether you like this situation in which you find yourself. How much can you compromise. You are smart enough and understand everything. The time has just not come when you will get bored and give kindly and gladly - just to be free. And in order to reach this state, you must either fall in love with another man very much, or you will get tired of being disgraced to be with this one. It is enough if he starts behaving humiliatingly with you and makes your life hell. Then it will be easier for you to take the path of your happiness. One thing is clear - it will not be so.
What is invaluable to you about him? It seems to me that he takes advantage of Hua's feelings (I do not deny that he has them), but this does not justify the lack of future with him. What is your age and age difference between you - take this into account.
I call you to make him see what kind of woman he can lose and make him run after you!
Thanks to 1,2,3 for their advice, for the real view of things. And I wish them to always be happy.
I'm in your position! I am aware of everything, and I cannot oppose myself! I want to contact you. If you want you can write to me at [email protected]
FIRST YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO RESPECT YOURSELF AND THEN REQUIRE ... I THINK YOU WANT THINGS TO DEVELOP THIS WAY ... THE WOMAN IS CREATED TO BE CREATED. TWO OPTIONS TO GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION IF YOU ARE REALLY UNCOMFORTABLE - HONESTLY TELL YOURSELF BEFORE YOUR PASSION WHICH IS THE OTHER REASON BECAUSE OF WHAT YOU HAVE.
You made a litter. Lick your wounds. You are so pathetic. And disgustingly nasty, with the meanest advice. Because of people like you, we men stop loving and just fuck. We drink and fuck. And you're fine, aren't you. And not one, we have more than one mistress, because you fools dump us and go to another one until you find some idiot to support you. Good thing we have women. They know how to cat us.
Towards № 8 - I hadn't met so much malice recently, obviously someone still has to be guilty and that's easier. If you like women, stay there, nobody stops you, and everyone has the right to choose, right? DO NOT JUDGE OTHERS SO THAT YOU CANNOT BE JUDGED. If there was at least a little understanding, it's different, but you're a poisonous male nasty snake.
I have such a connection. I can't end it, and I don't want to. I have never been so happy in my life. My advice is that as soon as you feel in seventh heaven with this person, be with him. Experience everything. Put all your love and grab a handful of what he can give you. Live for the moment, don't think about anything else. That's how it's written.
At № 10, maybe you're right, I have such a relationship, the feelings are wonderful, but on holidays when you're alone it's awful, and he's there with his family, it's me finishing, I go crazy, I almost hated the holidays because of it, no I enjoy meeting friends then, I'm so obsessed with those feelings, I want to be with him. I sound like a student, but I'm not.
You won't gain anything from this, believe me, because my husband also had a mistress, but she is already done with a newspaper read in one word.
And what gives you nothing but sex, how much time does it take for you 1 hour or 2 hours, this is because you can no longer be a smart woman, look for someone else to be with your wife, so he respects her, can't you understand him? to his wife.
Years ago, I had an extramarital affair with a man who was single and wanted to marry me. Love erupted like fire, but it separated us by kilometers. We experienced it with letters and 1-2 meetings. I never dared to divorce, for many reasons - not to hurt my child and husband, and because of his shortcomings, with which I would live very hard. However, I still failed to break away from him, although I knew perfectly well and had admitted to myself that I would not divorce. This love was like a drug to me. Once he was finally convinced that I would not take the step towards divorce, he acted in a way that I still admire, even though I had been mad with grief for a month: HE ENDED THE RELATIONSHIP. FROM TIME. WITH A LETTER OF GOODBYE AND THE CLEAR KNOWLEDGE THAT I CANNOT GIVE HIM WHAT HE NEEDS (living together). I suffered madly, but in my soul I knew that he had the right to seek his happiness elsewhere, and I could not blame him. I experienced the separation extremely painfully, but of course ... it passed. Please find the strength to do so. Everything else is invaluable time that you will lose, and one day you may find yourself completely alone, old, without family and children, wasting years running around a man who had it all and for whom you were just fun. IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM, HE WILL LOOK FOR YOU, HE WILL CALL YOU, HE WILL SUFFER - DO NOT ANSWER, DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM, DO NOT SHOW MERCY, THINK FOR YOURSELF AND ONLY FOR YOURSELF! This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... I had an extremely painful separation, but of course ... it passed. Please find the strength to do so. Everything else is invaluable time that you will lose, and one day you may find yourself completely alone, old, without family and children, wasting years running a man who had it all and for whom you were just fun. IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM, HE WILL LOOK FOR YOU, HE WILL CALL YOU, HE WILL SUFFER - DO NOT ANSWER, DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM, DO NOT SHOW MERCY, THINK OF YOURSELF AND ONLY OF YOURSELF! This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... I experienced the separation extremely painfully, but of course ... it passed. Please find the strength to do so. Everything else is invaluable time that you will lose, and one day you may find yourself completely alone, old, without family and children, wasting years running around a man who had it all and for whom you were just fun. IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM, HE WILL LOOK FOR YOU, HE WILL CALL YOU, HE WILL SUFFER - DO NOT ANSWER, DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM, DO NOT SHOW MERCY, THINK FOR YOURSELF AND ONLY FOR YOURSELF! This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... and one day you may find yourself completely alone, old, without a family and children, wasting years running around a man who had it all and for whom you were just entertainment. IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM, HE WILL LOOK FOR YOU, HE WILL CALL YOU, HE WILL SUFFER - DO NOT ANSWER, DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM, DO NOT SHOW MERCY, THINK FOR YOURSELF AND ONLY FOR YOURSELF! This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... and one day you may find yourself completely alone, old, without a family and children, wasting years running around a man who had it all and for whom you were just entertainment. IT WILL BE HARD FOR HIM, HE WILL LOOK FOR YOU, HE WILL CALL YOU, HE WILL SUFFER - DO NOT ANSWER, DO NOT LOOK FOR HIM, DO NOT SHOW MERCY, THINK FOR YOURSELF AND ONLY FOR YOURSELF! This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE .... This is what my beloved once did to me, and I have never reproached him to this day. This is also part of love - to understand the other and set him free! YOU WILL REMAIN ONE WONDERFUL MEMORY .... AND THIS IS NOT A LITTLE ....
To № 14 special thanks for the complete candor. Thanks to everyone who gives me advice, you are 100% right, I know it myself, but when you hear that someone else has experienced these torments, you understand that no one is insured. I wish you all health and luck and a lot of love.
Hi readers I want advice I live with a man of 11 years everything was perfect but for 1 year just my life turned I realized that he has a mistress tells me that he has already broken up with her but I believe him I do not know why I'm not calm I can't sleep I can't eat he tells me that he switched with her and now it was me and he please tell me dear ladies what to do if I trust him but I love him too much I can't see my life without him. Thank you.
Poor girl, I don't envy you. My story was almost the same, as if I saw myself and my memories flooded back. I loved him madly and infinitely much, our relationship ended too painfully for both of us, there was no other way out, now 1 year. later nothing changed for me. I had heard that only time heals these wounds, nothing like that, from the moment we parted, my life collapsed, I tried everything, it does not pass. Now I live with another person, but I do not stop thinking about the previous one, I feel my soul burned and empty, I feel alive only in the rare moments when I meet him by chance. I can't give you advice because I don't know what is right, you have to make your own choice, I hope it is the right one, I wish you success.
Why we women are so emotional and giving. Why can't we be pragmatic like men, but always put in feelings. Can anyone answer this question for me.
To № 17 by the Author. Thanks for the shared feelings. You never know what the right choice is, as you yourself said. May you also find your happiness and peace.
You only need one thing to experience with such a man. Lots of patience and just show him that you understand him. Such men often do not reach the end when they will divorce, but if they find the right direction and see the calm in you, this can change. There are no more cowardly beings than men. When you are overwhelmed by love, how will you change that? Wherever you go, whatever you do, you will always return to this place. Give yourself a break just for yourself, let the ball be in it, you will be a little more reserved and more silent, this will make him strive for you.
Personally, as a woman, I do not approve of the fact that you are dealing with a married man who has a family. Well, it is very clear that such a case will use you, as the third wheel, as much as for entertainment, and this should have been clear to you from the very beginning of this "relationship" in question. so long, I personally would never allow such a thing with my husband, because I am quite suspicious and jealous. If you haven't dumped your wife in almost 4 years to be with you, then it won't happen in 10. Such men don't even deserve to have a second wife to waste time with. them and make fun of them,