Hello, I just want to share with the hope that it will make me feel better. A year ago I met a 30-year-old man who has had a girlfriend for a long time - 8 or more years. They have no children, they live together. I find it very difficult to like someone, but when that happens, the work becomes scary. And he's everything I want from a man - we talk about absolutely all kinds of topics, he's funny, handsome ... well, you can't tell him a button. Our sex is very passionate, we fit in perfectly, but he told me in plain text that he doesn't want anything more and that ruins me. It was different in the beginning, it gave me some hope, but then I thought about it. Does not love me. I know what I'm doing is not right, but can I tell myself who to fall in love with and who not? After meeting him, I'm emotionally broken, so the last time I refused to see him, I explained that I needed someone to love me, not just rolling in bed. And yet I do not stop tormenting myself ... Why did she, with what did she win it, with what am I worse than her? Why is she still with someone she's cheating on? He told me that they had problems, and I saw them together - they behave like acquaintances. I am terribly angry with him and even more with myself that I managed to fall in love with the most inappropriate one again. And this torments me terribly - I can't study like people (I'm a student), I don't go out, and when I go out, only he is in my mind. I see so many people in love and I feel even worse. I do not know what to do... I am terribly angry with him and even more with myself that I managed to fall in love with the most inappropriate one again. And this torments me terribly - I can't study like people (I'm a student), I don't go out, and when I go out, only he is in my mind. I see so many people in love and I feel even worse. I do not know what to do... I am terribly angry with him and even more with myself that I managed to fall in love with the most inappropriate one again. And this torments me terribly - I can't study like people (I'm a student), I don't go out, and when I go out, only he is in my mind. I see so many people in love and I feel even worse. I do not know what to do...
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The answer to your question is clear. He has been dating her for 8 years, he knows her, he loves her in his own way, although the spark of the first years of love is not so strong, he respects her, they obviously understand each other. Don't think that they don't understand each other and that's why he goes out with you. Each couple experiences moments of crisis and alienation after so many years, but in most cases they overcome them. And all couples who have been together for more than a year and live together quarrel from time to time. I think you should leave him. Don't look for him anymore. Tell him you don't want him to look for you either. You can't make him leave his girlfriend, and that's not right. If he had such big problems with her, he would have left her before I met you or at most 2-3 months after he met you. My only guess here is that he may not have broken up with her for fear of being left alone. Therefore, he simply does not want to break up with her, and millet sits on two chairs. You will always be the second, unless the first decides to dump him, which would not make me happy personally. I kind of take the kicked man because he has nowhere to go. And in your position I would not be happy - always to be the second, always for me no attention and to know that I am lying to another woman somewhere. Get away from him faster, because you will not see any happiness from this love. Only you will suffer, but you will hurt the other woman without wanting to. If you are a student, then you are still young. There are colleagues, discos - you will always meet someone else and you will be happy together. You're just wasting your time with this one and don't let your relationship deepen further. Ana which would not make me happy personally. I kind of take the kicked man because he has nowhere to go. And in your position I would not be happy - always to be the second, always for me no attention and to know that I am lying to another woman somewhere. Get away from him faster, because you will not see any happiness from this love. Only you will suffer, but you will hurt the other woman without wanting to. If you are a student, then you are still young. There are colleagues, discos - you will always meet someone else and you will be happy together. You're just wasting your time with this one and don't let your relationship deepen further. Ana which would not make me happy personally. I kind of take the kicked man because he has nowhere to go. And in your position I would not be happy - always to be the second, always for me no attention and to know that I am lying to another woman somewhere. Get away from him faster, because you will not see any happiness from this love. Only you will suffer, but you will hurt the other woman without wanting to. If you are a student, then you are still young. There are colleagues, discos - you will always meet someone else and you will be happy together. You're just wasting your time with this one and don't let your relationship deepen further. Ana Get away from him faster, because you will not see any happiness from this love. Only you will suffer, but you will hurt the other woman without wanting to. If you are a student, then you are still young. There are colleagues, discos - you will always meet someone else and you will be happy together. You're just wasting your time with this one and don't let your relationship deepen further. Ana Get away from him faster, because you will not see any happiness from this love. Only you will suffer, but you will hurt the other woman without wanting to. If you are a student, then you are still young. There are colleagues, discos - you will always meet someone else and you will be happy together. You're just wasting your time with this one and don't let your relationship deepen further. Ana
No matter which violin you are. You are certainly in the orchestra, and how long you will stay there depends only on you.
naughty, you're kind of for dessert. Safe from such men where one is not enough for them and they lie and anoint. Women! stop inspiring such bastards to sleep with them and raise their egos. When you stop and force "until you break up with her you won't be with me" to see if they will play with us ... besides, one day it will come back to you :( you will be with someone and you will love him from 8 years old and you will wash his boxers with which he was hanging out with someone else an hour ago ...
Don't put yourself there, it's not your place, she's been with her for 8 years, and you're like yesterday and you want to ruin their long-term relationship. Are you lost Carol **********
He told you everything you want to know! He chose the other, and you're just tossing and turning in bed. Throw yourself a little more, get hurt, get hurt - so who - where is it from! What do you expect us to tell you?
Get rid of it when it's time. I was in the same situation as you. I was tormented and suffered for a long time. But now I'm fine and I'm glad I put an end to it, even though the memories are wonderful.
A woman who is in order will never go to ruin other people's relationships, sorry, but you are a STREET for me !!!
Number 7 be careful. Sometimes things turn out in such a way that what you accused people of before comes to your mind !!! Falling in love with the wrong, stranger, busy is a terrible agony. I don't wish it on you ...
What offend the girl was almonds? Were you the sinless ones? That the girl was confused ... confused and instead of attacking her .. look at the gentleman who is trying to sit on two chairs .. because he is comfortable! To the author: get rid of this connection as soon as possible ... it is painful, but in time you will wonder where it was your mind to connect with such a selfish and user. Keep your feelings and before all, love yourself first! I tell you from experience. Success!
Number 9, are they insulting him? I'll tell you, because they are unhappy and they have to pour out their malice somewhere .... They read, they didn't read, but they insult ...
Dumb men, nasty. I know one, he did not have the courage to make a decision and divorce. Now he stands next to his wife's "...." and does not dare to move anywhere. Because if it moves, come and see what happens. For me personally, this is not the way to live. But that's how he arranged his life. Decide what you want and don't lie to your wives. Once you don't want her, get a divorce!
In my opinion, the man is abnormal here to hurt 2 women at the same time, what is the girl to blame, it happens to everyone, this is life after all !!!
Author, is this man from Stara Zagora? That he looks like one with whom I had a similar relationship. from 8-9 he has a girlfriend, etc .. Write if she is from there. I can tell you many things.
Number 13 such men are everywhere. One is not enough with one they are congested. with 2 or God forbid they feel more wonderful and live fully. But women are to blame ....
Thank you very much for the advice. I came to these conclusions, too, but I needed to hear it from strangers. 13, it's from Sofia ... But you can shovel them. :)
Come on, the dolls jumped :) The men were bad, because they fucked with who can :) As if women don't do the same :) To the Author, already seriously - Get him out of your life. You want one thing, to live with him, he wants another, "just sex." If you don't want the same thing, just get rid of it. It won't be easy for you, but you better do it as soon as possible. YD
I think you have a real chance, mostly because they don't have a marriage and children. Feelings with him will appear over time, but you should not have pretensions in the beginning and worry him. I don't even think you're indifferent to him, if you've been together for more than 6 meters, he's just afraid to start another relationship, because at least he knows this one. He doesn't think he's happy with his girlfriend, otherwise he wouldn't need you. He just needs time. For the record - that's how we started, but I haven't been a second violin player for a long time. The man divorced and today we are married, but it took me many years and patience. Don't give up if you love him, just let him decide for himself. Men also have feelings and fall in love, but it is much harder for them to admit to themselves and to give up their responsibilities. You are young, you have time, you decide. She is nothing more than you, rest assured. On the contrary, she did not make him happy and disappointed him. However, it is up to you whether you will be the first violinist or you will soon be a thing of the past.
Here, because of ***** like you, most relationships and families in Bulgaria are broken, because you can't squeeze your legs and say '' No! ''. You say yourself that he clearly told you that apart from sex, he doesn't want anything else from you - so why do you keep trampling on the same place? Just think, how would you feel in the place of his girlfriend? And what makes her more than you? Maybe with the fact that she doesn't want to be the "second" and doesn't fall as low as you, because after all, obviously the girl has a little dignity and doesn't impress men only with sex ... Ann-Murray
the world would be a better place if there were no people like you trying to steal other people's partners
The girls who claim that someone stole their boyfriend ... Learn to protect your boys so that no one is guilty. They have their eyes painted, they lie that they are unattached, they say it when the other one has sunk. And you don't pay attention to them, you grumble and you are annoying to them. That's why they are looking for another thrill because you are boring and uninteresting to them. You take them for granted and do not strengthen the relationship. Be angry with yourself!