Hello. I am writing here because I have no one else to tell. I am a girl of 14 and I have a sister of 5. Since 2-3 months ago I constantly hear my mother talking on the terrace and hiding. I keep hearing her tell him how much she loves him, and she doesn't feel anything for my father. Every Saturday and Sunday he goes out on the pretext that he will go shopping, but in fact they meet. She doesn't know that I understand and she thinks she's lying to all of us. Okay, I've been through this for months. But that night my sister and I were going to visit my grandmother, and I heard him talking to his lover and inviting him to our house tonight, as there was no one with us. And so they spent one night with us. Please tell me what to do I feel terribly helpless
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I am a 12 year old girl. Tell your mother that you know and that you want all this to stop so that you don't tell your father, but you will bluff, because if you tell him they will either divorce or beat her. (I don't know what type your father is) If she doesn't stop, go to her lover and tell him that he's not only hurting your father, but you too. I'm sure he will stop, no matter how great his sexual desires, there are other women, wives, mothers, whores and more. Magicians
In my opinion, don't say anything ... Let things happen the way they want ... For example, my cousin has 2 children and is close to me as a sister, but we talk to her husband and he seems to do some things, but I'm not sure. But even if I find out, I won't tell her :). Somehow it doesn't seem right to me. I know that infidelity is not right, but ... and you will do it someone .. everyone does it, if it is not ... WILL ... Greetings, Uzunov
Tell your father MUST! No matter how much you fear the consequences, he has a right to know! Success!
I am in the same situation, but my mother does not talk but writes to him and I understood it at Christmas and by accident. She had written to him that she would take me and my brother and run away. I'm 13 and my brother is 4 and of course he doesn't know. I was wondering if I should tell my father, but I kept quiet and still mom is with him hugging and everything else and that's why I don't want to tell him yet. I know how sick you are, but wait to see if she hugs him, kisses him, and so on. If he doesn't, tell your father, but you'll break up your family even more.
Warn your mother that you will tell your father
Talk to your mother, say you know, explain what and how you understood. She will naturally deny it, but hold your ground. Don't tell your father yet, ask her to stop or confess to your father. Share with your older relative, know your family and will advise you best.
I agree with the others - tell your mother you know, but don't tell your father. Your father probably knows and tolerates in your favor, but if you tell him ... you will leave him no choice but divorce. It can now be made into a cuckoo and tolerate at least until you grow up. However, tell your mother exactly how you learned - do not think about being so cunning and not be so rude to bring your lover home at least.
And what, by telling his mother, he will only become more careful. Listen Mr. Uzunov, don't interfere where you don't care, watch your childhood .. Good luck ..
It was the same job with my parents, only my father did such performances. I also wondered what to do and finally told my mother, at first she did not want to believe, but I found a way to prove it. There were 1, 2 months of quarrels, but 2 years later they are still together and happy as before. I advise you to tell your father, he should know, but first prepare something to prove it to him, from then on they must decide what to do, but your mother fails her family in this way. Good luck
Dont do anything! This is a problem between your mother and your father. You better not interfere so that things don't get really bad and pray that this is just a temporary hobby for your mother. If so, why should you create tension in yourself? And if she is not and she is seriously in love, it is right to tell your father and both of them to decide what to do with their marriage and relationship. This is her life, and only she can take responsibility for her decisions and actions, so you don't have to pretend to be a messenger and trumpet what your mother is doing. Even so, the truth always comes out sooner or later, so you have nothing to get involved in. Yes, I know it's very naughty, but if you say something to your father, it will be such a storm that in the end you can take it away. For example, if in your anger your father decides that you knew and hid it. That's why you're silent, so as not to make it much worse. And since your mother has decided on this, obviously her relationship with your father is not good at all. So do not add extra oil to the fire to avoid a fire!
I don't know what advice to give you, but it's best to share it with someone, a relative, a friend or a family member but whom you can trust.
Hello. I'm your age. I'm a girl. And believe me, I understand very well how you feel and what a dead end you are in at the moment. I have never been in such a situation, but I understand you. So, I don't think you're in a hurry to tell your mother that you found out about her secret relationship, if I may call it that. I think you have to wait another week or two to be sure what's going on between her and her partner. If you come across their chat, a photo together, overhear a conversation, or at worst you catch them together outside, or in a bed, just shut up and start thinking about what you saw / read. Do not rush to panic, because panic is NEVER a good solution to the problem. Go out with your mother, go to the mall together, to the market, for a walk, or anywhere and just pick up 'by accident' talk about how nasty it is for someone to cheat, how bad others feel, and how selfish it really is. Don't mention to her that you know. Go out a few more times, take a walk, and each time accidentally pick up a topic related to this, with the family and how you should all love each other, not lie ... etc. . My idea is to hint to her that you know, not to say it suddenly in her face. Write what happened and SUCCESS! I hope you get better! :) Write what happened and SUCCESS! I hope you get better! :) Write what happened and SUCCESS! I hope you get better! :)
Well, almost the same thing happened to me with my mother, but they wrote to each other and of course when I fell asleep or something like that I took bodies and looked at who and when I wrote to her and I said I know but she decided to tell me it was a virus of the comment itself. However, I was not that simple and of course I knew what was happening !! On the one hand, it was disgusting to me because imagining that they did it, hugged it, kissed it terribly, just as I know that I share everything and embrace it (there is no way she is my mother after all), but I did not stop threatening her 2 years later. that's all right! CALL ME FOR MISTAKES FROM THE PHONE !!!
Great job - you will probably be a saint when you grow up. Come on, watch your lessons and don't bother with the things of the big ones, because tomorrow you just saw a hot potpourri.
Dude, this will come out sooner or later ... and your father will be angry with you for a while for not opening your mouth sooner. So act, they will decide what to do. BUT DON'T BLAME YOURSELF IF THEY SEPARATE !!!! Your mother should have stayed where she belongs. And if .... think about who you would like to stand with, seriously sarcasticfailure
Ours have been divorced for 2 years. I suspected my mother because she was constantly talking to a man on Skype at night, drinking wine and laughing so hard that she woke me up. Of course, Dad wasn't in town then. My brother and I told him, and he thought about it, but nothing happened. 2 months later they started arguing a lot and they didn't explain anything to us when we asked them. My brother and I have long been accustomed to the option of divorce because they were often on the verge of it. Finally, one day, Mother told us that she had another man and that they would divorce Dad. We stayed to live with our father of our own free will. In the beginning we roared every day, it was hard for us ... but now everything is fine, ours are on good terms and I see my mother almost every day, she even comes to us and talks to Dad. The question is that nothing depends on you, tell your father or mother, they are great people can decide how to act. Divorce is far from scary if your people are understanding and look after the children for the best.