Hello people! I am a 17 year old girl and I have had a problem with my mother for several years. It's not like I'm a bad child, it makes sense, I go home at a specific time set by my parents, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I have excellent grades and I've never been rude, ie I always ask "Can I ...? ”Before I ask anything of ours. Mom is a judge, I don't know if it's a professional distortion or just the problem is in me, but she behaves super nasty sometimes. For example, when I ask her for something, she throws it at me so rudely, talks to me as if I'm not her child and behaves like hell. I don't think I deserve such treatment, please write here because I need advice on how to deal with this cold side of her, as I am quite a radiant and good person .... :(
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You are 17, you don't need an evening class, you can try drinking and smoking, you can get a bad grade and most of all you have the right to be impudent. Even though you're not small at all, you're still a teenager, and ... her child. Even if you were not a teenager, it is your human right not to be the absolutely perfect robot, because another stinker has given birth to a child, because "it should be so" and there is neither the mind nor the psyche to raise a child, but only to harass him. Take yourself in your arms, you are no longer a child, do not let the sheep that gives birth and is obliged to be an eagle above you, to behave as if you are indebted and guilty to it. g21 She grew up with a more unique "mother" than yours.
The only logical solution is to talk to your mother about this. Explain how you feel about her overall attitude towards you.
She is tired of everyone and everything, don't take it personally when she behaves like that. Maybe she just needs more time with herself. It is the behavior of a person who loses control in his life, has things he would like to change, but does not have the strength or ability to do so. If you are good and radiant, you will be able to somehow compensate for the coldness you receive from your mother. Focus on someone else close, relative or friend who is warmer and more responsive so you don't think about your mother.
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Apparently your mother has some nerve problems or it's just a midlife crisis. My mother was the same when I was 18 - now I am almost 25 but I have never been cool with her, I have behaved like an honorable son despite her problems
Your mother's job is very responsible, tense, difficult and dangerous, but all this is not a reason to treat you badly, so I recommend that you keep quiet and ignore her. Silence is the greatest punishment for a human being because we are social beings. Much sooner than you think, she will look for a conversation with you why you are behaving like that, and then you can tell her everything directly in her eyes and that she will achieve nothing but lose you and repel you even more if she continues in the same way. refers. And you are looking for a job and become independent if you do not reconcile
Number 4, "judge" is a verb, "judge" is an official. It is not bad to check your information before writing.
Folks, thank you so much for the tips and I will try each one! I hope it will be a success, because I still need a mother's shoulder and mother's love from time to time ....
Relax! There may be a lot of work, she may be tired, menopause. It was the same with my mother but I started to help her more, I improved my success and things got better. Try to help her more. For example, run a washing machine, fold clothes, wash dishes ... You are big enough and responsible enough to do it. If you do such things just wait after 1-2 years you can get rid of it.