I'm a girl in 7th grade. I have a huge problem. I live in a town near Pleven, but after 7th grade I will move to study there, as well as my whole class. The problem is that only I, even from almost the whole town, will be dependent on my mother ... Horror! Everyone understood that they were making fun of me ... But that doesn't make me sleep at all ... for me, people's opinion doesn't matter at all, the problem is that I already want to become more organized. I want to have money not for a day, but for a whole week and I can decide how and what to use it naturally without starving. I want to be able to allocate my time, for example to study when I get home and go out later (here in the summer I'm up to 1 and something, now until 10 somewhere) .. There are so many people from my town and my grandmother's village who are alone and only me-the loser - with my mother .. I want an independent life .. She said that she wants to come with me and every day until I turn 16 I will have to go home at 5 and start studying (she would be coming home from work at that time) .. I'm not very tidy here and I don't eat and so further, and she thinks that in Pleven I will die of starvation. I told her that I would be fine without anyone running after my "ass" .. but she said: "You can't be very small, you can't get better!" - How can everyone, only I can't. I said what not ... all our disputes last an average of 1 hour .. I always end with the sentence I will not be with you in Pleven, but inside I know that it does not matter who finished the dispute and who - no ..! One of her problems is that I will start having sex at a young age or someone will abduct me, but mostly for sex, because I want to live with a peer of mine and I have one in mind ... And a lot of people like me .. I don't look too pretty, but I don't know .. if they like me it's for her fear ... So .. for sex .. I said that I can while she's at work, but she She is convinced that if she is just sitting in Pleven I am safe. I told her everything possible .. she has been crying for two days now ... please tell me what else to tell her how to convince her .. I beg you to publish this and I assure you that not a single letter has been invented. This is a terrible problem .. I don't want to go to Pleven with my mother ..: ((I'm just terribly sick .. Please post this! :( please tell me what else to tell her how to convince her .. Hell, please post this and I assure you that not a single letter is invented. This is a terrible problem .. I don't want to go to Pleven with my mother ..: ((I'm just terribly sick .. Please post this! :( please tell me what else to tell her how to convince her .. Hell, please post this and I assure you that not a single letter is invented. This is a terrible problem .. I don't want to go to Pleven with my mother ..: ((I'm just terribly sick .. Please post this! :(
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Say that you want to try 1 week alone, if you do not succeed, it will come to you. If you don't just tell him that you are right ... there are all kinds of them. Apparently the woman was scared! We all see how many kidnappings and rapes take place! I understand her completely. But kabi still that you want to try!
What is the name of your grandmother's village that I also have relatives in the Pleven region and about your question your father does not have the word and why everything is not temporary if you are an adult you can tell her that when you find a job you do not need to watch
If you are not tidy and do not eat, then I completely agree with your mother! You will not get better in Pleven at all. First show her that you can be organized and take care of yourself and I am sure that your mother will let you go alone without asking her!
Maybe she's right! Don't pretend that one day you regret not listening to her. And I hope this day doesn't start being hijacked in the trunk of a car or dumped in an apartment or something.
Oh God .. I'm 12th grade at 18 and I live alone and believe me I'm not doing well at all 7th grade .. Just because you want to be alone, that someone will make fun of you and the like shows that you should not be alone. Let them break their heads, if I had someone who wanted to take care of me, I would jump for joy. But you can't evaluate what you have until you stop having it, you know :))
Well, instead of roaring, shaking and stamping your feet like a spoiled child, prove that you are a responsible person! The more you argue with her, the more you will ambition her to hang on your head! Well, instead, act like an evil person, don't contradict her, show her that you understand her, because she doesn't do it out of stubbornness, but really worries about you, that you are serious and if she gives you a vote of confidence, you won't get into trouble. then she will realize that she can loosen your reins a little. But with roars and banging you will not achieve anything! So take it seriously, learn your lessons, don't get involved in porridge, try to be home on time in the evening, don't hang out with suspicious people and so little by little with a lot of patience you can convince her. But it will not happen from today to tomorrow! Trust is gained over the years, but unfortunately you can lose it in 5 minutes. A stupid act and that's it! Be very careful about that! Success!
You're still a hell of a child, what kind of independent life? Enjoy your childhood while you have the opportunity. After that, there is so much time when you will be fed up with independent living, and you will even want to return to the moment you are describing now. You will see what life will bring you, but the time for this is not now, because there is time and period for everything, and your mother is right to keep you within the limits of this period for which you are now. Don't think nonsense, study, educate yourself, rejoice that you have parents - someone who thinks about you, not a parent who leaves his child to the whims of fate. Why do you want this - to be left to the whims of fate? This is something so bad and disgusting, and if God forbid it happens with your insistence, you will realize it. You are a child, believe it or not - you are 13!
From the author - I live in Nikopol, but I have houses in a village and so on ... Anyway, it doesn't matter where I live .. I won't die of hunger I go to the store I get some salami or ready meatballs .. kebabs and I will not die hungry .. and I do not want such a childhood .. I really want to study serously, but I also want to be able to allocate my time alone; e to know that I can go out at any time meaning not at night .. but at least until later .. and have fun .. and not with mom .. not that I do not love her .. she is my closest person .. but I want to learn to take care of myself ..
Honey, you just don't know what you want to know! Now you are small and you see only the good side of growing up, but now you know how I dream of being a child again and a mother to take care of everything! But no, now I have to fight alone and, accordingly, to bear the consequences of my decisions. You know, it's much, much harder than you think, and there's absolutely nothing fun. Now I know you won't believe me and I didn't believe it for a while, but when you turn 30 or a little earlier you will understand me and how. Therefore, enjoy your childhood, that time flies fast. And the fact that your mother ruined your life made me laugh! How do you fail it? Taking care of you? I can't believe that someone who had caring parents ruined his life. But it's normal to talk like that. Every teenager does it. Think that his problems are the most terrible in the world and dramatizes as if this is really the end of the world. And if you know what horrors really happen, you will be ashamed of yourself how you can make a problem out of such things. At the time, my grandmother used to say that these were "white kahari", but I didn't believe her. I thought, I had a fight with my friends, or I have 2 or my boyfriend didn't call me ... and I was ready to swear that no one in the world is more unhappy than me and everyone should sympathize with me! Until I met people with real PROBLEMS and realized that mine were just nonsense. Yes, yes, I know you still don't believe me, but you'll see! And you will laugh at yourself for making dramas about such insignificant things. So instead of dramatizing and inventing problems that aren't really there except in your own eyes, try to concentrate on learning and enjoy what you have, because one does not appreciate what one has before losing it. And one day you will lose it! Your mother will not always be with you, your home too, instead of taking care of you, you will have to take care of others ... and nothing will ever be the same as it used to be, and you will only be able to be you remember and you will dream of waking up again at 10 and everything will be as before, but no ...
I think you want to feel great and I'm sure you want to have sex, have a boyfriend, go to places where your mother wouldn't let you go. You want to go out late without an evening class. You want to invite guests, to have parties. And you think that even though you will do these things, you will study and take care of yourself, only that you will neither study diligently nor take good care of yourself. Don't argue with your mother, she thinks well of you and wants to take care of you. Instead of rejoicing, you blame her! Are not you ashamed? You are a child now, where do you think you go by arguing with your mother? F 33
I have a daughter your age. I also wouldn't let her live alone in another small town .... You need control. It is not known what you will catch up with and what situations you may find yourself in .... And until when and with whom you will be somewhere late. Aaaaaa, you can't have such an independent life from now on. What will your mother do to you there if you watch school and everything is within the normal range ... Child, don't give your mother a headache like that. You are still 13-14 years old. Don't cry afterwards.
Abe, since when is a child aged 12-13 mature and ready to live alone? What are these phantasmagorias? Because of the talk of windy friends, she turned against the only person who cared about her. Don't even want me to tell you how to convince her. Your mother is from that priceless endangered breed of Mothers who think wisely and really love their children and take care of them from the heart. But where will you understand it with this lapesky mind ... She would live alone at the age of 13! And the ones you admire so much, you will see most of them in 3-4 years with several abortions and ruined lives. You are a small and naive teenager and you know nothing about life yet. Love and respect your mother, because there are none left. You will have to thank her.
Alone at 13, seriously? : D When you become a student, then you will, you will not be independent. And what you said that you can't do well at this age doesn't speak well of you, it just shows that you're not ready for independent living.
From the author's author - Number 14, yes and her mother said that it's just not like other mothers to leave their children alone at the whim of fate, but that sounds silly to me ... I'll come again on Friday night and Saturday and Sunday I'll be alone in our country .. plus this for all those who said that I can't do it alone, it's not true .. I can just after my mother does everything ... there is nothing left to do .. so when will I learn? I will go to the nearest store and buy a quota I want to eat .. I will take into account the money; e and that's it .. I hear friends go to a store to spend their winter salami, something ready - meatballs .. and k ' in? "They didn't starve to death ..."
from 14. Dear girl, you think so childishly and naively that you even make the audience laugh. What meatballs, what salami, what 5 levs? So at your age you need complete home food and you should be happy that you have a mother who is wholeheartedly ready to provide you with a warm home and warm food, care and support. There are tens of thousands of lonely and abandoned children in Bulgaria who would consider you stupid if you have the most valuable thing in the world and you repel it. You are a child, for God's sake, don't you understand him ???? You can see that you are staring at your windy girlfriends, that you want to live, that you want to try everything, to show how big you are, to escape from the hated control. But there are thousands of things your mother knows and you don't. Simply because you are small, no matter how much you want the opposite. It's different if you don't have parents, no one thinks of you and worries about you, if you are forced to live alone. You just don't know what it is. And you don't know how happy you are. In years to come, you will wonder in your mind and thank your beautiful Mother for not allowing you to become like most of today's girls. Everyone your age thinks they can handle life, you're not the first. That you will live with the meatballs and you will not die is clear, this is not discussed. But what will happen to you ... THIS is the question. It is clear that you have your theories, childish, naive, unreal and having nothing to do with real life. No matter how much you are told now, nothing makes sense. At your age it is so. "Give me freedom, get out of my head, I can, I know, I'm great!" How many fates have devastated this youthful frivolity ... But how will you know ... Now you are only interested in your friends, the parties ,, boyfriends and FREEDOM! You just watch what happens to your "free" idols in a few years, just watch. We'll talk again. Until then, thank God for this true Mother.
Look now, you're still young for independent living, and so on. I'm sure your mother thinks only of the good, she just doesn't know how to treat you and show it to you. Be patient, even if she doesn't let you go, you will grow up and you will decide for yourself, but for now she is the person who feeds you, gives you money and looks after you - there is nothing you can do. Don't do nonsense.
You are very imaginative. And you think that if your mother leaves you like that, you'll be able to recover. Remember that being self-employed means taking your money out of work, paying your bills, and plowing your own levels, roughly speaking. And you can't do this thing. Then - how can you manage on your own, but your mother does everything and there is nothing left to do - is how you understand that you can do everything. Your mother will not ruin your life - you will ruin it yourself if you continue. Or do you think that if you have a child and you are shaking, I will release him and give him money and support him, and he will do whatever he wants - it will not happen! I give him 20 leva enough to buy for a pie and from there - to go live healthier. Tighten up, there will be time to take care of yourself, but now you can't.
From the author: Thank you, you helped me a lot. I realized that my mother did not think anything bad of me and loved me more than anyone. It gives everything for me and now that I saw how stupid I was I regret and apologize. :)
Believe me, your mother is right! As much as you don't like it, it's good to be with you. It will be very difficult for you without her ... and she knows the things that will harm you and how to protect you ... just listen to her and don't care what people say. While he is with you in Pleven, show that you have grown up and can trust you. Success!
Hello. I want to help you, because I can imagine what situation you are in. 1st your mother is just worried about you and I don't think she has any intention of ruining your life. 2nd start showing your mother in some way that you are a responsible example: walk the dog, throw out the garbage, wash the dishes, run a vacuum cleaner, etc ... 3rd be tidy. 4th you can talk to a parent, relative or psychologist at your school. I HOPE I HELPED YOU ~ 11 year old girl. ~
Look what a child when I was your age I lived alone I thought I could but I could I could cook but it was different for my mother to cook for me and serve me ready to hire to sit down to play and go out to fight for being late than before I go around the roads until late to see drunk uncles who are drooling over you to come home and there is no one I know you want to be alone at 15 they left me again and as far as I could they would kick me out of school I was drunk every day by the police and from the sober I started to do it with everyone but it's not easy you think you can but it's hard all the time on salami and meatballs nes tava think dream you ruin your life you are small to live alone now you think you will study and go to discos you will not study, I advise you and the mothers not to be alone, talk to her there until later