After a two-year relationship and a visit to the dormitories, his explanations were such that his mother suffered a mild stroke and has not been well on her nerves since then (for me, she pretends to be hot). So MOM had told him some time ago, I quote: - You will not drag them here to me, when you decide who you will marry, then you will meet us. And so we lived with him in a fairy tale and I did not sleep that his mother did not want me and constantly confused my name. I didn't want to live with him or ours anyway, and despite everything, my parents didn't stop helping us as much as they could. And so I got pregnant by accident, but still discussed and desired. Without thinking we take out a loan, we prepare for a wedding happy but have nowhere to live. He decided that we would live in them and a little less khakini moved to his new apartment as he told me that his parents moved to the village and we went to the apartment ourselves (blah, blah as my mother used to say). I warned him that I grew up in an environment where my daughter-in-law and mother-in-law were still arguing and my father had a time when he didn't want to go home and that's why we should live separately. On the day of our wedding, my current mother-in-law was still confusing my name and, lining up for a photo next to me, said "come on, bun, let's click now and then we'll make remarks" Now I can't describe to you what kind of JSC I live in. This woman is worse than a witch, when she is not taken out, it starts "you will see again when I run away". We live together and we pay for the electricity, the water, the food at the table and she is impudent and she says that her son will look after me because it is his old age. I will not prescribe anything to you, the apartment is mine and your father's, if we die, pay extra for your sister and live. I'm constantly rummaging around the room for things to sleep and she enters without a problem, she doesn't know what it's like to knock. With her, everything is in the form of an order, give money, do it. Son mom this she married so. Abe doesn't let us breathe horror. And we both started arguing. HELP!
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Run, give an ultimatum to your husband "I'm going out with me or her" if he wants to stay with her then he doesn't love you enough and it's better for you to separate. Your mother-in-law is not evil, your husband is a fool. What is the evil of a woman living in her home, entering her rooms, commanding in her home. The fact that her son agrees to tease her so that she doesn't buy a house is his and your fault. Why didn't you stay at the apartment? Would you be the first to raise a child in a dormitory?
It is best to go out to a room, and he should go see her again and help her. As for the apartment - after having a sister, she also has rights. Evil or not, the mother-in-law is not obliged to give it to her son and to you, respectively. And there is another option - well, go live with your parents, although it will hardly be so pleasant.
Well, she's obviously a simpler woman. No manners, no tact. Don't take her behavior so inwardly. Put a key on the bedroom. Don't pay so much attention to her. Let him talk. She pretends to be gone. Be smart!
She told the story literally as it happened, except that, apparently, your husband did not understand why he was walking around your quarters - it is clear that he did not want to go to live with old people in the same apartment. Apparently he knows the goods. And I wouldn't want to be in the same apartment with my mother. She is dear to me as a mother from a distance, but not up close, thank you.
Hello! Two generations to live in one place will always quarrel over something. It is best if you are separate. Either the apartment or the apartment on lease I am. I pay BGN 540 per month, but after 10 years it is already 9, it will be ours and we are alone. I used to pay BGN 450 for a studio apartment in Sofia, which is BGN 100 more and will be ours someday. If things go wrong, it's like I've been to a place to stay. And you can have something cheaper, everyone is looking at an apartment near the town where you are in the villages where the houses are cheaper than an apartment and you go to work with a car. I even later thought of a house, we have already taken the apartment and when we pay it off, I plan to buy a house somewhere cheap for the weekend. You will not win a battle with his mother. The way is to steal it away so that the net is not confused. And if you have a child, you will not feel when the time will pass until he grows up, you will have paid for your home.
Hello, I hope to be useful to you, because we have in common in our stories and I will briefly tell you my case. My husband is from a big city, where I came to study and stayed. I have lived in dormitories for 6 years, he lived with them. When we met, he came to me in the first week. We got along and decided to get married. Then I met his family. And they suggested - come and live here, and we will go to the village. Yes, but I didn't tie up. I told them that I didn't want to live with my own parents, let alone be offended, but that every frog should know its goal, as they say. The wedding is over, instead of them moving out, as promised, they started the song again - come here, we will not disturb you, you will save on rent. Yes, but I'm not yesterday and these do not pass me by. In the end, I thought you couldn't get your life in order, waiting for someone to do something for you, someone to change something, and you to go on your way. I couldn't be mad at 60-year-olds for wanting to look after their retirement and rest in their own home. Well, it became clear to me that they would not move out, it became clear to them that we would not go to them and so on. Now we have taken out a mortgage loan and while the repairs are going on, we will go to their apartment so as not to pay any installments or rent. I will experience it in a month or two. I'm not pregnant yet. She did not confuse my name, because I am very sensitive on this topic and I will not allow it. I am a Leo sign and I do not have 5-6. Well, don't bother and ruin your marriage for other people, be it your husband's parents. Live your life, not someone else's. I know that the times are hard, that it is difficult for everyone, not everyone can withdraw BGN 400-500 for a contribution to the bank. But even if you live this way, it still doesn't work. When the baby appears, will it be easier, will it change? There are people who, seeing that someone is better than them in soul, crush him mentally. If it was some dust and you didn't care about her, it wouldn't be like that, you'd fuck her and take her fear. But obviously you want to be good and diplomatic, for which I congratulate you. Tell her "mother", ask her about everything, win her over to your side, calm down a bit, don't quarrel with your husband, let him see that you are making some effort, and he is doing it the way you want. Make sure you make the decisions and he thinks he made them. Believe me, it works. The art of manipulating. I do not recommend the option of paying part of the amount for the apartment - so you will both pay a loan and you will look at them as they get older. It is better to take out a loan and buy yours or move out. And most importantly - your husband must protect you, you carry his child and must be careful, not to quarrel over nonsense. These are very specific relationships, each case is as similar as it is different, but there are options. The important thing is that your husband is on your side. Good luck :)
I agree with everything you wrote, 6 / I am not the author /, but "mother" ... I am firmly against that, anyone can be a father, there is only one mother.
The mother-in-law is always worse off than the daughter-in-law. She has always been and will be worse. Get out and run away, someone had said: give an ultimatum to your husband!
Get out soon
The choice is yours, either old or new. If you want both, you have to be a great manipulator and psychologist to be able to get the good out of both of you. I notice in the story you have quite high requirements, not to go to the rooms !!! Your husband had to give you an explanation why you are staying !!! you talked to your mother-in-law about prescribing !!! And what do you offer in return for pregnancy! You think that the mother-in-law is obliged to offer her apartment empty, to prescribe it to you, why?
Hello! I am the author. Thank you all for the comments so I understand whether I think the right way or out of resentment I think selfishly. Do you think that I do not want my own home but my husband has two loans and gives BGN 200 per month to banks and works for BGN 500 I have maternity BGN 300 and a loan of BGN 100 per month, how can I buy a home? And the child has already been born, and how much money for him? My mother-in-law really can't support herself here, at least with him, fuck me. I talked to my husband and told him or talked to my mother to stop pretending to be interesting or luggage and not be there. He says I can't stand it either, but where to go to the village to yours I don't want accommodation, there is no money as it irritates you my mother makes remarks and will leave them by March.And I say well until March, but next winter again? Can't it be that if I talk to his mother I will grab her by the rags and make trouble so that my nerves are strained and I'm impatient. To let me vacuum in 8 in the morning when both the child and I are sleeping, there is a knock on the door, my husband is shouting, come, mom, sit here next to me on the sofa, here is your place. his sister let's get out for a while, me and I will come to you what do you think? And that's just a small part of everything. Abe horror is here and I do not know where to run but I told my husband that we have no work there and most I'll probably raise money for a place to stay.To run my vacuum cleaners at 8 in the morning when the child and I are sleeping knock on the door, shout at my husband, come, mom, sit here next to me on the couch, here is your place. We go to visit his sister to get out for a while, me and I will come what do you think? And this is only a small part of everything. Abe horror is here and I do not know where to run but I told my husband that we do not have work there and will most likely raise money for accommodation.To run my vacuum cleaners at 8 in the morning when the child and I are sleeping knock on the door, shout at my husband, come, mom, sit here next to me on the couch, here is your place. We go to visit his sister to get out for a while, me and I will come what do you think? And this is only a small part of everything. Abe horror is here and I do not know where to run but I told my husband that we do not have work there and will most likely raise money for accommodation.Abe is terrified here and I don't know where to run to, but I also told my husband that we don't have a job there and I will probably raise money for accommodation.Abe is terrified here and I don't know where to run to, but I also told my husband that we don't have a job there and I will probably raise money for accommodation.
In my opinion, the grandmother does it on purpose, because her son got up early to go to work, to earn a living, to take care of the family good, and you are lying after him, so she is angry with you. If you live with her / in his old way / you have to behave like your daughter-in-law / in his old way /. Getting up in the morning, making breakfast for your husband, sending him away, cleaning the house while the child sleeps. In the evening, when your baby wakes up to get up so that your husband can rest / he works / and for you it is a job for that you take motherhood. If she sees that you are taking care of your family, as she adds, she will not let you be harassed, she may move to the village permanently, she just wants to make sure that you meet her requirements for a "good wife". You'll be fine when you realize that no one has to keep quiet at 8 in the morning, that everyone who has decided to buy a home has the right to choose when to start a vacuum cleaner. The baby is not bothered by the vacuum cleaner and she is aware that with two raised children, babies adapt very easily to the conditions and can sleep even in a disco, as long as they are asleep.
I WOULD LIKE TO GIVE ONE TIP: if you want to ruin your life, get a mother's son. A friend of mine lost 10 years of her best youth to fight for the heart of her chosen one and in the end he stayed with his mother and she with her finger in her mouth.
That's what happened to my family. Me, my sister, my mother and my father. My mother left the family precisely because of scandals, and my grandmother-mother-in-law did the same things without knocking, a cheeky woman. I was 19 - now I'm 23. It's long to tell but so far. A boy of 23