Before I knew it, the thought that my best friend might be gay had crossed my mind, but it had never lasted. He is totally against gays and any such hint, even a joke, offends him. Some time ago I came across quite intimate chats with another boy. There is no doubt about his homosexuality now. That's all I can think about. I can't believe it. I'm afraid to talk to him about it because I ended up in his personal space. I don't want to lose him as a friend. I'm scared. What should I do Please give advice! Girl, 17 years old.
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Why do you have to do something? Leave the man alone to live his life and do not enter someone's personal space anymore.
Ha, another proof that the most outspoken opponents of homosexuality are actually gay. You better stay and try not to think so much. You're a girl after all, so what. If he was a boy and your best friend had turned out to be gay, then he's naughty already. : D
What does it matter who sleeps with whom? It's like someone writing "Finish! My best friend isn't a lesbian." There is nothing strange in this, he is your friend and his sexual orientation has nothing to do. Or did you just hide some feelings and now you are disappointed? Leave the man alone, because if you press him before he is ready to tell you, you will lose him forever.
Well, he doesn't do anything and doesn't dig into his personal things anymore. We live in the 21st century and it is a pity that there is still homophobia. If he's your best friend, I don't see what can change in your attitude toward him. Friends are accepted as they are. This is his life and he will decide with whom to spend it.
Why do you need to talk to him about this? And where did the idiotic thought that you would lose him as a friend come from? Female curiosity bothers you to intrigue, doesn't it? learn tact and shut your mouth about it unless he makes you, and just be his friend without digging into his chats anymore. Being gay is his personal business, if you don't like that fact - no one is forcing you to be his friend.
Your boyfriend's condition is called internalized homophobia. He disapproves of his own sexuality and keeps it a secret. The reason for this is the environment in which he finds himself, the way he was brought up and the role of the father in his family. This is very important when considering his disclosure as a homosexual. It is believed that one of the reasons for this type of homophobia is sexism, according to which a woman is subordinate to a man and serves to satisfy. In this case, we are talking about the role in sex, not gender. Generally speaking, this is a problem that must be solved by himself. Keep in mind that this is difficult and will most likely require the intervention of a psychologist. By no means reveal the secret if you think he is hiding it .. However, show him that you already know it .. Do not interfere with the chat, just tell him that you guess.
Very ironically, but recently I became convinced that what a person denies the most is exactly what is in his head / heart. He is still the same person, nothing is different. Your best friend stays that way, he just likes boys, not girls. Well, and !? Nothing. If it was me, I would probably have opened the topic much earlier ... as I explained above, if he denies so much, then there is something rotten. However, once you have entered his personal space, it is probably better to remain silent. Nobody likes to be interfered with where they shouldn't be. He's not ready to admit it yet, or he's ashamed ... and who said he couldn't fuck the other boy? !! He really either really hates gays and messes with them, or he really is, but he's ashamed to admit it. Whatever it is, when it's ready, he'll tell you. For now, show him that you are next to him and that he can share absolutely everything with you. And when he started spitting on homosexuals, he explained to him in the most humane way that this was not a factor that should cause confusion in the population.
Homosexuals are those who like the opposite sex, heterosexuals are those who like the same sex. On the subject ... you better not talk to him right away about this, because as you yourself said, you entered his personal space and he can insult you severely. My advice is that when he is ready he will tell you ... don't hurry! shadyyy
Have you heard that gay friends are the best. Honestly, if you know English, go to youtube and watch some videos and you will understand. For example, I want to have a gay friend. You are lucky. : Д
I just don't know how to describe what I read. And what if he's gay? "I'm scared" Eee, you'll say he's a werewolf, that you're scared ... Leave the man, this is his life! There is nothing to talk about. So he decided, and if he doesn't change his mind, no one else will.