Hello! I want to share a story with you. It's about my best friend. We have known each other for 6 years. We were boyfriends for 2 years. We are best friends now, but there is a very big problem ... he is still in love with me! I don't love him and I really only feel him as a friend. We've talked about this a million times. In every way I showed him that I wanted nothing more than friendship, but he didn't understand. I think he suffers from a sense of ownership. We get along very well, he constantly gives me compliments and gifts, he wants us to be together all the time and that kills me. Not for anything else, but because when I tell him (he's my best friend after all) that I like another boy and it starts with the questions: "Aren't you going to have anything serious with him" , "Aren't you going to fall in love ?!" and things like that. And when I started dating other guys: "I know you very well, you will go with him now, you will forget about me and you will ignore me ..." ... I started to like him. I've neglected the guys I'm with because of him a thousand times ... so I don't lose my only true friend anyway. I don't know what to do anymore, but I can barely stand not to scold him and lose him. He gets along very well with my parents and they like him, so he comes home whenever he wants. Yes, but I also need a little personal space ... a little freedom. He doesn't date anyone but me. He has abandoned his best friends, with whom he has known since he was a child, and with whom they were once inseparable, so that he can constantly monitor what I do. He had a girlfriend, but he dumped her so he could spend more time with me. I do not understand?!!! This seems to be a disease state of his. Please help me ... I really don't know what to do !!!
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So, I can say that I am in a similar situation, to a girl, I have the same fears and hopes for her. I'll just say, don't waste it, you won't be able to remove what is left with swearing and cursing and be rude to him, he will love you again ...
Hi darling, You may consider him a friend, but he doesn't. To him, you are the woman he loves. It is very difficult to make a decision in such a situation, because you have friendly feelings and you share everything with him, and this hurts him a lot because he is not with you. You need to talk seriously and take a break from each other. And the fact that he is jealous of you will always be so and it is a lot - bad, maybe he will never change. It is unacceptable for men to tell them that you only want friendship, for them there is no such thing as long as they love. And you obviously give him hope that you will be with him, so the whole thing comes. If you cut him off and explain clearly that there can be no love between you, he will withdraw. There is no eternal friendship between a man and a woman, one side always falls in love. But with that attitude, he's preventing you from finding another person next to you, because you are constantly together and the other boys stop him. And you're worried about hurting him, I don't know. But do not neglect yourself because of him, unless of course you have feelings and you are deep inside you. And the words "But you will not fall in love" are real proof that he wants to be alone with you and will not allow you to love another as long as you allow him to do so. You tell him directly that he is suffocating you and whatever happens. Good luck :)))))))))))))))))))))))) You tell him directly that he is suffocating you and whatever happens. Good luck :)))))))))))))))))))))))) You tell him directly that he is suffocating you and whatever happens. Good luck :))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hi, I would advise you to think carefully about leaving this boy. As far as I understand, you have been boyfriends for 2 years, so you also have some feelings for him. It is very difficult for me to think that there is such a person in life who loves you so devotedly - take advantage of this advantage that you have. I wish you success :)
I have a real girlfriend, as well as you have a real friend of the opposite sex :) she used to like me a lot, over time I started to like her ... after a while I would offer her to leave, but still something stopped me and I I refused in the end ... I just told her that she is very sweet and somehow I can't be with her, but I feel her more like a sister :) to this day we are "brother" and "sister" and we share everything, though she still loves me and hasn't looked at another boy !!! I may have some feelings for her deep inside me, because she is very sweet, think about you not being like that, because if you feel something towards him and you delude yourself that it is not so you are VERY WRONGLY WRONG;) he is the man :) Good luck and you know best.
Well, it's just that he loves you.