Hello You already understand my problem from the title. The situation is as follows: I have been a very good friend of a girl for a year. Indeed, she is one of my closest friends I will ever have. He supports me a hell of a lot. It helps me even more. She did things for me that made me cry. But, there always seems to be a "but". Everything was going very well, but I've been running out of money for about 6 months. Sometimes small amounts like 10-20 stotinki, but it also happened 10 levs. Most often my money disappears at school. When I first told her I was missing money, she told me she was missing money too. Then there were a few more times when, after sharing it with her, she told me she missed it. One day I invited her to join us. I had to take a bath and went to the bathroom, but I had forgotten something and went back to the room. Guess what I found. She standing over my purse, with ten leva in hand. When I saw her, she was startled and started muttering things like "your money will fall and you will lose it, take it away". It seemed strange to me then, but I told myself it was possible and went to the bathroom again. Yes, I'm an idiot. I know. But I had complete confidence in this girl, and it never occurred to me that she could do such a thing. That's why I accepted it as something normal and soon forgot it. I kept running out of money at school. Today 20 stotinki, tomorrow 50 and I no longer want to think about how much money they took from me. Nor who did it. Before my mother was a night shift and during the day she slept. I dressed in the bathroom because my girlfriend was in my room so we wouldn't make any noise in the living room, which is close to the bedroom. My mother got up to drink water and heard someone running from the living room to my room. When she came in, she saw my friend putting something in her jacket pocket. A few days later, I told her I suspected her, and she told me to stop going out with her. I kept blaming, along with her, a classmate. We constantly watched him to see if he would step on the wrong foot, and if that happened we would betray him to our lady. But it turned out that while I was waiting for the wolf in front of the henhouse, I locked the fox inside without counting the hens. And they kept shrinking, and I wondered where the hole was. He recently came home again. I had left my bag with her purse inside. I left the room for no more than three minutes and came back, opened my purse and instead of 10 leva, I saw only 5 inside. I was literally dizzy. I was so sick I had to sit down. I sat and kept looking at the open purse, wondering where it came from. She noticed this and was a little startled. I didn't know what to do. I was so angry, but also five times more disappointed. I thought of asking her "Why !", shouting at her, raising a scandal, but somehow I just didn't have the strength. Even if I had asked her, she would have answered that she did not know what it was about. He would not admit it. And who would? Once you have the weakness to steal, you don't have the strength to admit ... We left us, I tried to look normal, but everything brought me back to this purse and her guilty look. I hated her because I felt guilty. Yes, I feel guilty. That I saw her. I thought, again, that I was mistaken. That I did not put 10 leva, but only 5. I denied. The days passed and I got used to the idea that I put only 5 leva. We were at school and I wanted to go to the toilet. I asked her to hold my bag and jacket, in which I had 2 levs and yellow pennies. When I put on my jacket again, only the yellow pennies were left. This time I was determined to shout at her. I had just opened my mouth and two girls entered the toilet. I didn't want to raise a scandal in front of them and at school, so that I wouldn't end up taking it. But more and more I think I have to tell her. But I have to be 100000% sure. And I'm not even after all this. What do you think? Is this her? If so, how do I tell her? But I have to be 100000% sure. And I'm not even after all this. What do you think? Is this her? If so, how do I tell her? But I have to be 100000% sure. And I'm not even after all this. What do you think? Is this her? If so, how do I tell her?
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You immediately stop hanging out with this person, then go to the parents with yours and explain to them what their daughter is doing to take action. You raise the issue in front of your class, as well as in front of the principal, you tell everyone in the class what kind of product it is to protect themselves from it. Today you may be different tomorrow. Years ago I was friends with a girl from the neighborhood 3-4 years younger than me. The moment I learned that he was stealing and almost dragged me into trouble with my girlfriend, I stopped hanging out with her. Then she was 7 and she was 11. And only that she stole from the shops, but at that fragile age she lied and wrote. Then, at the age of 14, he stopped going to school and became a whore, changing his girlfriends like handkerchiefs. I don't think what it's like today, it's almost 23 years old. Cut this one and that's it, but you also made it impossible for other people not to get hurt.
Why don't you give her another 10 chances? So you invite her inside you and test her - you throw money somewhere so that she sees them and you check later. If they aren't there, then she just took them. But you saw her steal and you still don't believe your ears ... I don't know if you're good or naive, but people like your "girlfriend" never change, and over time they get worse. Get rid of her while there's still time.
First, that this money is not yours, but yours. People work hard to provide you with everything you need in your pocket, which is FOR YOU, not for your "best friend". Aren't you sorry? Instead of the money they give you to be for you and spend it for your needs, you continue to hang out with this girl and literally give her this money, and you know very well that she takes it. There is no need to feel guilty if you shout at her, because this is not an act of a valuable person. Even if she has problems, instead of telling you, she decided to steal. Far from these people. If I'm on you, I'll slap her in the mouth.
This is her condition, but I forgot her name, but she has it and she doesn't feel or feel guilty, it's normal for her.
Number 1 was I wanted to say smoked about the girl I gave as an example.
She may be a kleptomaniac if even the yellow pennies matter to her. He has been proven to steal. Sometimes he will expose you to strangers and you will be suspected of theft. Stay away from such people.
No more inviting home. No money at school without supervision! You gradually ignore her and make friends with another girl. It is clear to you that he is stealing from you, do not deny it anymore, because in this way you are running away from the problem, instead of solving it. Distinguish yourself from her. If she asks you why, say that she knows very well why, without giving her any more explanations. And what is her social status? I mean, does her family also provide food?
One day call her at your place again, put for example BGN 5 in the purse and many more pennies in a prominent place, put your phone in a secret place and take a picture of her, go to the toilet to have time to take them. So you will have proof in front of everyone. Then show her the video and tell her to give them back to you and come up with something like that. ❤️. Success Needless to say, you should then stop dating
Thanks to everyone for the comments. Before they let us go on vacation, we quarreled with her about something else and she shouted at me in front of the whole class that I was "Garbage and I have to be treated in a clinic!" .. this overflowed the glass and I haven't looked for it since. Up to number 7 - her financial situation, according to her and my observation, is at a fairly high level. In less than half a year he changed two telephones, both high-class ones of over BGN 1,200, a few months ago he explained to me how they had sold a house for a few thousand and finally leaned on my BGN 10.
Up to Number 4 It's called kleptomania
It's good that it's your fault knowing that she's stealing, don't leave money with her! Tell her that you understand, tell her that it's not good for her to steal, let alone tell you that you will continue to be friends, but if she stops stealing! And keep your money with you, be careful more!