Hello! I'm a 14-year-old girl and something happened to me last week that I never expected from my best friend. Let's start the story from the beginning. Last week on Wednesday we decided that he could sleep in us and the next day we could go straight to school together. We had already recovered and had just gone to bed, and I applied a peach balm to Nivea's lips. She saw me and asked if she could try it too and I gave it to her and she said she liked it very much. Then we went to bed and the next day we recovered and went to school, leaving her things with us. After school, we went back to her to pick up her things and send her away and I told her I would be back now because I went to the toilet. After a while, I called her so she could pour me water from a bottle to wash my hands because near our street the pipes are changing and we and the neighbors have no water. After I washed we went back to the room and she didn't tell me anything and she just fixed things up and we went out. About 2 days later, when it happened, a friend and I were training and she came to see us.
After training, we went on a swing to a bus stop in the city to wait for our other friend to catch the flight. Shortly afterward, she left, and my best friend and I were left alone and other children came, and there was nothing to talk about. At one point, suddenly my best friend said to me, "Look what my mom bought me," and she started taking a bandage and stickers out of her bag and took out a little Nivea cream and said, "My mom bought it if I fell to apply it." him ". It wasn't until a few days later that I realized that the flint was mine because mine, which my ex-best friend who gave it to me years ago has disappeared. Then he took out my lip balm and said "-Aunt gave me a lip balm .. Look, even here I got it a little dirty" and started rubbing a small stain that was from me and I immediately recognized it, but I pretended of struck. She opened it most brazenly and placed it on her lips in front of me. A few days later I wrote to her that the balm and the cream were gone and I pretended to be hit, that I didn't know it was her, to see what she would tell me and she said "Please", which sounds pretty fake to me. I am writing to you here because I want advice on what to do. To raise the issue with her again, that they have disappeared from me or when she is not looking to just take them from her. Most will probably say. I will not make an elephant out of a fly, but it is very nasty for your best friend to steal something from you, and you trust her the most. PS I can't have lost them or put them anywhere else, because I have a big 3-story on the dresser like a tower for things and I keep all my lip balms on top and I don't put them anywhere else except there, and Nivea's flint stands at the bottom in front of the tower and I don't touch it at all, because it has a sentimental value to me.
Answers 11
You have a very bad girlfriend in quotes. You have two choices: ask her to confess and apologize a lot, and never let her betrayal happen again. Second choice - you are beating and joking from now on, if you have judged that she has done nasty things before, maybe small but other nasty things towards you.
Do not cut for cream. And without that, its shelf life is from 6 months to 1 year. These things are consumables and you should not become attached to them. It's like sticking to toilet paper. If you're sure she took them and didn't lose them somewhere (you need to check), just think of it as the price of realizing how good your best friend is. Sharing everything with someone is a very tempting idea, but sooner or later it leads to disappointments. Matter of time. And last but not least - hygiene. Lipsticks, ointments and all sorts of things are like a toothbrush and a comb. For personal use only. They should not be shared and used with other people because they can easily transmit diseases (herpes is one such virus and cannot be cured).
Your girlfriend may be a kleptomaniac, although they usually return what they stole on their own. Apparently you have better things and there is no one to buy them for her and she may have envied them. I would not argue in your place, I will have one thing in mind and I will not invite her home, and I will keep my hands from her.
The fact that you haven't said anything to her at the moment speaks ill of you. A person with a strong character and self-confidence would not be silent. Apparently you are afraid of her or you really want to be in her environment, to the extent that you have suffered - robbed. If you forgive her, this will be just the beginning. And no, it's not a trifle. Better not hang out with her.
In my opinion, the best thing is to take her out of your circle of friends. No scandals, no quarrels, a flint is just not worth the nerves, just separate from it. Don't go out with her alone, don't talk to her unnecessarily at school or outside of it, don't call her and don't contact her on social media. If she asks you why, just tell her you don't want to talk to her - tell her directly and put an end to the conversation without explaining why. If she is a person on the spot, she will immediately feel it, and if she has a conscience, she will apologize to you. Then you can still be friends, but if you pretend to be hit and so on, why should you? Why is she such a friend of yours? This is not a friendship.
Fortunately, it didn't happen to me, but I guess it sucks. My mother told me that as a student she lived in a dormitory and there were 3-5 girls in the room. And several times she saw how one of her roommates most brazenly put on her clothes and put on earrings and bracelets. She didn't even hide, my mother stood like a blast, and after she started using her things regularly, my mother got tired and moved out. I wouldn't say anything to this "girlfriend" of yours in your place. Whatever you tell her, you will gain nothing. Don't invite her to your house anymore and don't deal with her at all. You will find a new friend. He's stealing your lip balm today. He will steal your money tomorrow, and another day your boyfriend may steal it from you. Such thieves are not worthy of friendship.
Disgusting. In your place, I just wouldn't invite this girl home anymore. Yes, the balm is not worth much, but the very fact that she allows herself to steal and even worse to lie in your eyes that she received it as a gift, says what a person she is. Namely, a person who should not to believe. Because today is something small, but tomorrow it can steal something expensive! And even if you don't, because you want to be best friends with such a person? With a man you can't trust. That's why you don't invite her anymore, nor do you go to them. And try to keep her away from you. If you don't want drama and quarrels, don't tell her anything outright, but the next time she invites you somewhere, think of a reason not to go. And so, in time, if you refuse it several times, it will stop calling you and inviting you. And you found a new girlfriend. I just don't understand what would have happened if she had asked you to give them to her? Or at least had she admitted to taking them? She would apologize, give them back to you and forgive her, like a friend, but now it just doesn't make sense, because as I said, it's not just about the cream and the balm, but about lying to you most brazenly in the eyes. .
Haha, your girlfriend and she are one. Ask for things immediately, seek your rights! You don't care if it's flint or patch - if necessary, threaten a court by telling her you have evidence and she will be accused of theft. It may seem naive, so it can happen. Or better yet, return fire with fire. You stole something from her too. This is how the world works. If she's your best friend, but she stole something from you and used it sadistically in front of you, she may have something. He looks like a poorly functioning sociopath to me. Friends don't just steal like that. Again - for me the best tactic to get back what you want is to threaten and retaliate. But only if you're really sure she stole your thing. Otherwise, everything would have been in vain. You know how it is in the world - You crush or they crush you.
10 - She's wearing a blouse and some earrings, big deal. Author, either speak directly or does not make sense. The girl may not have money, she may have felt sorry for her. Don't lose a friend because of 1 Nivea cream.
As they have already written, she envied you because there was no one to buy such things for her, and she took them. And for yours and for her good, do not keep silent. Tell her that you know very well that she took them from you, that you know your things, that she will return them to you or that you will no longer be friends.
Thanks for your comments! When I read them, I already thought about not inviting her to us at all, as you say. A cream is nothing, but now that a cream has been stolen, tomorrow it can steal my money. Nothing is known about what she is capable of. Some of you said she might have no money and be jealous of me, but her family is even richer than mine. She has everything and her parents have not deprived her of anything, but I have no idea why she does so to steal from her best friend. Apparently only I think of her as such, and she doesn't think of me as any ... - The author