Hello, dear people. I am very glad that I found a site where I can share my shameful story (events), because lately really strange things are happening. For 5 years I have had two best friends in my class with whom we are inseparable. One of them caught a girlfriend a few months ago and is with her most of the time (she's from our class too), which brought me closer to the other. If I haven't mentioned, I'm a 17-year-old boy. So the friend in question and I had made up gay jokes and we kept talking like we were taking offense or pretending to be a couple, but that's because we're always kidding and we're crazy. It was a lot of fun at first, but then things got not only annoying but awkward. I mentioned that I don't like it, but he doesn't stop. Here - I will tell you what things he does, for example, that make me nervous ... We sit together on the same bench. I had a presentation and got up to read it, I was very worried and nervous. When I finished, I was still worried and just wanted to sit down. He assumed that he had placed his hand, or rather his middle finger, over my chair, and as I went to sit down, I literally strung myself on his finger. The whole class burst out laughing, so did he, and I was furious. It was humiliating, awkward, and most of all, unpleasant for me. Then I raised a scandal in front of his teacher and class and we quarreled, because this is not his first such act. Constantly, as if joking, he hits me on the ass or grabs my crotch. He pretended to rape me and such things, and mostly this happens in front of people, which is offensive to me, because I'm still a man, I have dignity, and these jokes have crossed the line. He definitely doesn't do it for attention, he does it for fun, but lately I've been thinking, that he is either gay, or bisexual, or hypersexual, and full of everything. He has done many things for me, one of the few people who have been with me in difficult times and helped me, but I can't stand his behavior. Right in the face I asked him if he was gay, he told me there was no such thing, but I think there is. My other friend and I have had boyfriends and we even know each other personally, and they are still from distant cities, we never see them, we have not seen common photos and we have not heard them talking on the phone and so far we have always trusted him, but now I have begun to tie things together and to doubt more and more. After that sitting incident, I moved in with another boy. As I moved, he still asked me why I was doing it, and I told him everything. He simply replied that the problem was not in him, but in me, because I have changed, I have become a rusk without a sense of humor. Me? Well, maybe I'm tired of my classmates thinking of me being gay because of him, feeling ashamed of girls and humiliating me as a man ??? I don't know what to do, please post my story and give advice. I don't want to leave him as a friend because he never left me, but these jokes are more than unbearable to me! Have you had similar cases and what would you do in my place? but these jokes are more than unbearable to me! Have you had similar cases and what would you do in my place? but these jokes are more than unbearable to me! Have you had similar cases and what would you do in my place?
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And happen to have something under your nose called a mouth that serves to say some things you think?
Well, as you described him, I think maybe he's gay. Therefore, act with it a little more tactfully. Tell him you don't have a problem if he's gay, but that you're straight and you don't like this type of "mite". Also tell him that his friendship is important to you, but the other must stop. That is, be firm about the gossip (may be his secret wishes) but tactful about the other. See in other topics how difficult, lonely and scary it is for them to share with relatives and friends. They always think they will be rejected or misunderstood.
Hello to you too :) You have the full right to move to another rank. I personally think that his jokes have gone beyond normal. The fact that he was with you in difficult times is great, there are not many such people. I also think he has gone too far. True, this is a nasty situation, but there is a reason for everything. I think he can really be gay, think about it ... What boy would do things like that? Either he was drunk or he was gay ... And he's just afraid to admit it .... Everything in the circle of the joke is perceived as normal, but such things are just totally clear ... But after reading all this I am completely sure of 2 things: -He is gay, and he took the jokes as hints that you were feeling something for him. And use the jokes to, you respond in some way. In short, he makes hints to you .... -Your friendly jokes have gone beyond normal and he hasn't even realized what he's doing at all. He drools too much, which makes him frivolous ... And if he is frivolous, do you think that you want such a person to be by your side ??? .... What you need to do in my opinion is: Be serious with him, stop these jokes for a short time. And watch out, watch what he does. He has to realize for himself that what he is doing is not right and he definitely has to think about how you feel. Just make him realize himself, and apologize to you .. I wish you success :) ф 14 watch what he does. He has to realize for himself that what he is doing is not right and he definitely has to think about how you feel. Just make him realize himself, and apologize to you .. I wish you success :) ф 14 watch what he does. He has to realize for himself that what he is doing is not right and he definitely has to think about how you feel. Just make him realize himself, and apologize to you .. I wish you success :) ф 14
Are you serious? He's probably not gay, he just has a flat sense of humor, and you work too hard. Do you have plums in your mouth or what? You tell him you don't like it that much. "I don't want to leave him as a friend, because he never left me, but these jokes are more than unbearable to me!" Pf ...
Author: But didn't you understand that I tried to talk to him many times, even things almost got into a fight, but he doesn't understand! His excuse is always that I have lost my previous sense of humor. For him, the opinion of others is not important, but for me it is, because I still want to keep my dignity at least in front of the girls! Anyway, thank you ... And for being gay - he always denies, I've been very tolerant, but he always denies. I don't know anymore.