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My Boyfriend Humiliates Me

By jcpants July 12, 2020 10 answers Last updated July 12, 2020

Hello, after another night I felt helpless and alone, I decided to write here if I could get some advice. The story is as follows - I have a friend, we have been together for almost 8 months, and we have known each other for more than a year. Our relationship is very good, but I don't know what happens sometimes and he suddenly starts to make me a problem with every single thing. In the beginning, we had some annoyances that went normally, but over time things started to get rough.

 

Whenever we were alone, everything was great, but if you get together with your friends, you somehow become a different person and behave horribly for a while and then calm down and so on all the time. He never insulted me directly, but on New Year's he drank a little more than normal, started doing nonsense and I caught him and we left and from there I told him that I would not go with him to sleep with them and started with the scandals and the curses that had not been there before. Anyway, he apologized the next day, promised not to repeat himself, but he was an asshole and what not. Over time, he became more and more incensed by each thing, repeating to me that he did not believe me, and after a few days he explained to me in love, cursed me, they loved me, and after a scandal that was provoked by the fact that I liked a picture of a boy, he humiliated me very cruelly, called me the ugliest words like k *** a, etc.

 

He broke up with me and I don't really know what to do, because I'm tired of everyone I have offended him because I love him very much. He constantly grumbles that I refused him sex or whatever, he calls me k *** a, which definitely offends me because he was my first and maybe that's how he wants to manipulate me. I love him very much, I see that he loves me too, but I can't understand what this aggression is due to and how to act - whether to fight for him or not because I don't know how far he can go, despite that I love him very much. I am asking you for advice because I am very confused and if anyone has been in a similar situation if they can help me.

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babygirlalice20 answered · July 12, 2020
If he loved you, he would never raise his voice, let alone insult you. Beat the cattle jester in the fastest way and save yourself. Bulgarians are terrible freaks. Not all, but most. And, no, he doesn't love you. You are comfortable with him and he takes advantage of your love, although I don't see what you love so much about this one. If I were you, I would have kicked him the first time I raised my voice. Remember, as long as there are obedient lambs, there will be morons playing shepherds. I'm sorry if I offended you, but it's true. Run away for a second from this bastard and never turn around! In time you will thank yourself.
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illinoisbigdick answered · July 12, 2020
You are a masochist, you obviously like this attitude if you still tolerate it.
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utubeguy5 answered · July 12, 2020
Your friend has a psychological problem. Maybe it's bipolar disorder, maybe it's something else. But sudden mood swings do not bode well. The other option is to simply pretend that he "loves" you part of the time, knowing that like most naive women, this will confuse you and keep you with him. Eventually, he should seek help, but you don't have to stay tied up during that time. It is not right for a person to tolerate such humiliation and behavior towards himself. It is good to have love, but with limits, because beyond that it becomes a fixed idea.
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lukas23x answered · July 12, 2020
Run until it's too late. I don't know where you dig these bastards from, but that's not normal. After a year or two, just look at you.
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girl_trans_trios answered · July 12, 2020
Fight for! You women are dying for drama and a battle for feelings, for someone who is obviously in a mess for you. A self-respecting woman will NEVER let someone call her a "whore" and then go and kiss him on the cheek. But you are small, time will pass, you will learn ... and maybe not ...
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turklokumu1 answered · July 12, 2020
I'm sorry, but what exactly are you considering fighting for? For a person who humiliates, curses and restricts you? ... Well, think again! I will tell you as a person who has boiled and boiled in this life. Your friend has problems with trust, every time something doesn't go the way he wants it to because he doesn't trust you, he will have nervous breakdowns. If he drinks badly, all his problems come to the surface and pour out on you like a bucket of slop. When there is an audience - again bad, he gains speed, they may applaud him. Normal people do not feel the need to crush others. Normal people do not want to be in a relationship in which they are humiliated. Gather your mind while it's time, with this gentleman you have no future.
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cockster12345 answered · July 13, 2020
I wouldn't fight for a man who humiliates himself to call any woman a whore. How old are you with your boyfriend? There is sometimes jealousy, as well as many other feelings in a relationship - we can be angry, something has happened, the death of a loved one, miscarriage in a woman, intrigue from false friends - the list is endless ... The question is how we react. It's not very ok that he called you that and I would justify it if he saw you with someone in a mold and it was a one-off and he was out of his skin. But let it be a trend - no, no. No way. This is the attitude and worldview of a peculiar type of men, to whom women are always their whores, and guilty. Such middle-aged men get drunk and / or remain eternal bachelors because they are not suitable for serious relationships. Now many young boys have this thinking, they do not know how it spoils their relationship with potentially decent girls.
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rffrye answered · July 13, 2020
Just talk calmly. Make him appreciate your love and show that he can easily lose you, even if you have to separate for a week or two .... Trust me, if he loves you he will take note. I'm already doing this 5m and it's awful ... Without her
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sweetystrawberry answered · July 13, 2020
I'm going to go so far as to kill you, or at least beat you up obviously. What exactly do you love about him? He insults you because he wants to. Then he apologizes hypocritically because he knows that no one else can tolerate him and use him for sex. How can you deal with this garbage at all, even children, you won't wonder how to leave it to him. Your mother has to slap you two times to make you aware.
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mrbiiigdick answered · July 14, 2020
Drop it immediately! It starts like that, something makes him nervous and shouts at you, then he starts calling you regularly, finally you caused him to hit you ... And until you feel like you're "subscribed" to the emergency, because in a week, every two with them, her with a cracked cheekbone, her with a cracked rib, her whole bruised, but otherwise the next day he "is very sorry", buys you gifts, flowers, apologizes, promises that "it will not happen again" and so on. until a few days later, when the slaps start again. And then again an apology and gifts ... Don't enter this vicious circle! Getting out is very difficult! In time, your self-confidence will be so crushed that you will now seriously believe that it is your fault, that you are a bad friend, that you are not trying and he is right, and finally, if you are lucky in years to come, you will find the strength to escape. ruined nerves and health. And if you don't have ... :(
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