Hello, I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 35. He is constantly on dating sites, several times I make fake profiles to provoke him and there was always an invitation from him for coffee ... I told him that it was me, and he said he deliberately provoked me because he doubted the authenticity of the profile. He shows that he loves me otherwise, I love him too, together after a year and a half, but these chats of his on dating sites drive me crazy. Tell me if I have the right to be jealous or if this is nonsense on my part, I really don't know, I still don't know how to behave in a longer relationship.
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Another terribly common phenomenon. I don't know why they do it! To raise their self-esteem ?? But don't you remember that there is a high probability that he will meet these girls and cheat on you? And to what he told you - that he thought it was you ... yes! Are you really bonding ??
Hello! I don't want to disappoint you, but I think they "make a monkey". I wouldn't take his word for it, honestly! I know you want everything to be just killing free time, but the chances of that are slim. Men are elementary in this respect and when they meet in the chat someone more beautiful than their chick, that even if she is curled up for meetings and the like, she goes! I think you should start fishing with different guys on such sites, but they should be much cooler (in your case, younger, that is, your peers), so that we can see how yours will react then, will he still have fun ... And you yourself will raise your self-esteem with one or two ideas when they start writing you various sweets and "inviting you for a drink" :))) My advice is mainly not to bother For stupid reasons! If his actions hurt you, you feel uncomfortable, so give him an ultimatum - you or the chatter. If he chooses the latter, I don't need to tell you what to do from there, do I? Finally, I will say that my friend deleted his accounts on similar sites, as well as mine, and now we have no problems of "virtual" kind. :))) Do not forget, however, that it requires an honest conversation in which to clarify your views points. Success!
I think he's cheating on you .....
Your friend is complex. On dating sites, 90% of users are men who, for some reason, have decided to find free sex there. The rest are check-ins who create fake profiles to get hold of an intimate photograph of women or couples. For their part, the women on these sites, if they are adults, are looking for their peers, and their couples are tired of harassing men alone and include all kinds of filters and antispam. This is, in short, the reality in BG dating systems. Your friend is another 35-year-old man who has an unexperienced youth and prefers to waste his time hoping to kill a minor girl. Don't worry! To them, he is already a grandfather. I have an acquaintance who is still listed among the young girls and is 35, but drives a Porsche and has something to impress them. Yours will stay with you until you decide. He understands perfectly well that it will be difficult to lie to another 18-19 year old boyfriend with a good appearance. Don't expect it to change. What he is doing is rather harmless. If he had money, he would go to one of the 4-5 elite clubs where he would quickly find what he was looking for, because young girls go there for this very purpose, but they also have a flawless calculator with whom to leave. He knows this very well and therefore lies down in front of the computer. Apart from wasting your time instead of making money or setting it aside for you, it is almost certain that nothing else will happen. If he had money, he would go to one of the 4-5 elite clubs where he would quickly find what he was looking for, because young girls go there for this very purpose, but they also have a flawless calculator with whom to leave. He knows this very well and therefore lies down in front of the computer. Apart from wasting your time instead of making money or setting it aside for you, it is almost certain that nothing else will happen. If he had money, he would go to one of the 4-5 elite clubs where he would quickly find what he was looking for, because young girls go there for this very purpose, but they also have a flawless calculator with whom to leave. He knows this very well and therefore lies down in front of the computer. Apart from wasting your time instead of making money or setting it aside for you, it is almost certain that nothing else will happen.
I'm not tying up, I told him to find out his reaction ... and we met him on the internet ...
I think he's cheating on you, he's looking for entertainment.
Leave this one! Not to mention he's old to you, just another generation. Success!
The difference in age is not a little big? I would not bet on such a relationship, because it has no future for family life. Start rummaging in the chat demonstratively as he does and if a gram does not start to be jealous then he is with you only because of the fucking :) Find someone your age in the chat :) Good luck :))
I agree with 8. If he doesn't react when you start going online again and chatting with others .... I currently have a relationship with someone younger than me. At first, everyone didn't take things seriously, and he and I went back and forth alone. Lately, however, I feel that I have no desire to go somewhere without him and for a meeting with another - I have more and more desire. It's the same with him - he refuses to go out with friends and sits at home. We do not live together and because we often work in different cities we talk a lot on the phone. So I wanted to tell you that even if you are not always together when the person has no serious intentions, he does not stop looking for something better. My relationship is a year old and yours has been around for a long time and there is still no stability. Think about it. It's not normal.
Get rid of it, it will never change, because it's too late. This is a disease condition, and has already been proven by world doctors. Psychological problem. The real men are in the pubs and not in front of the computer ......
Number 10. The real men were in the pubs!?! The sad Bulgarian reality ... could have sounded even funny if it wasn't sad.
In my opinion ..it's rotten ..and I think he's cutting something or scratching nonsense behind your back ...
Hey, realize it !!! Apparently you need a little shoulder, darling, if he cares about you and loves you, then he has no job on these sites! Just find another one!
From the author: I told him that I was not happy to see him on these sites, and he immediately deleted his profiles, said that he was just wasting his time there because he is out of work at the moment, and he loved me and did not care. other women .... I can't believe you deleted your profiles from there!
Ok, trust is important. He doesn't bother with unnecessary doubts, once he has deleted his profiles, then he sticks to you and doesn't want to lose you. Not that he can't make others ... It's stupid that he lied to you, that he doubted that it was you - a stupid explanation, he's just cool to take off babes, I just hope he didn't do anything else with them. Enjoy your relationship and don't think about it anymore. I hope it doesn't really happen again.
I have the same problem ... But he says that he had friends in the chat with whom he had no other connection, neither Skype nor FB ... He tells me that he loves me .. Is it a problem for me that I doubt ... No Is trust the most important thing in a relationship? Should I trust him that there is nothing wrong with what he does? Its terrible :(
Please? In the 21st century, there is no other connection than a dating site? Run away from them ... it's like alcoholism - an addiction you can't escape.
And I am in such a relationship. I broke his passwords and watched for months what he was doing. I feel sick honestly. I broke up with him, and he came to pray for me, and I bent the idiot. It was only good for about a month / These days I catch him entering through his brother's profile he thinks I'm a duck pass. He also made a new Skype. He's already got ignored. I don't pick up his phone and I won't pick it up. To break your head! It's good that I understand computers. Not worth it! it is insulting to himself and to the love he claims to feel!
Dear girl, I fully support number 10, and also some other opinions. You are young, what are you doing with this uncle? He will never stop, even as a family. I'm sure. My friend lives with a man like this: she was in front of the computer in one room, and the man in the other, again in front of the computer, was watching "naked asses". Find a boy your age and then you will understand the difference. This uncle won't even be able to do it in 10 years. You do not need it. Get rid of it! Give your tenderness, time, love to another who will appreciate it and respond with the same. You shouldn't be on these sites at all if you have a link. Make sure you don't have coffee after sex. To try harder. If he doesn't want to, he cares so much about you. I will follow the end of the story. Success!
A small correction: not to have sex after just one coffee. Require a walk, a visit to the theater, a movie, a salad with a drink and only then sex. If he has a lot ... then he has no feelings and only uses them. Good luck!!!
You are obviously very ugly, my dear Todoro
21, aren't you extremely limited ..
Hi, I have the same problem. My friend and I have been together for almost a year and I caught him entering similar sites! When I asked him why he was going in there and what he was looking for, he accused me of being petty. He says that he loves me, but he keeps coming in ... Before me he was with another girl for 4 years and he registered in 5-6 dating sites and visited them for years ... and that's how we met. I wonder if it's not some kind of addiction? !! addiction? I feel offended in this way, it's all the same, I'm not the only one who satisfies him. I hold on to it and try to understand it .. Please advise me what to do? He eats me from the inside and I keep watching him, I don't know how long he will last?
I had such a relationship for 3 years. He never gives up. So think about it. If you can be with someone who is just looking at how to cheat on you and tells you that he loves you or you can live without him. He doesn't think he can change. Maybe there is a lot of free time right now. There would be a period in which there will not be and will not waste so much time on the sites .. Even then do not calm down. He has not given up. * urvenlaka is for life.
If you find out that he has an account on a dating site, save yourself as soon as possible. It is insulting and humiliating for such a man's partner to tolerate him harassing and harassing other women on various sites, while at the same time convincing her that there is nothing serious or disturbing. Even if he doesn't, the very fact that instead of using his time for his partner, he prefers to spend it in dumps with strangers from substandard sites, is eloquent. And such men are never left with only one site - then there is a second, third ... And it is not only these sites - they also go on Facebook, Skype with several profiles - one "official" for people and others - for recruitment of women found on the sites. I wasted a lot of time trying to make one realize that. I finally got tired and dropped it. This is a mania, complexity and disease in one. They compensate for the shortcomings in reality by pretending in the virtual to be what they are not.
Make him a child and your filth is tied in a towel. Lydia - 59 years old.
And 2 weeks ago I ended up with a girl addicted to diamonds, it's a disease, mania, like gambling and .. there are no fixes in May. Everyone decides for themselves, but ... I personally can't have a serious relationship with such a person.
You better let him rummage through dating sites, and you get rid of him, not because he goes on dating sites, but because your difference is 16 years ... Don't ruin your life with such a jerk. That when you turn 30 and he turns 45, let's see how you will lift it for him ... And you will come in and complain that it didn't work for him and what to do, to cheat, etc. I'm surprised from such girls ... To go with some grandparents at the age of 40, and the girl is not even 20 years old .... The work is bad ... A boy of 20 years.
from 25 :) Thank you for the pricing tips, you are very right. I tried everything, I spoke openly, I prayed, I tried to understand him ... I even asked him what exactly he lacks in order to visit dating sites? !! He replied that he did not visit and even swore .. ha ha ... and he drove me crazy that I was talking nonsense ... T. k I have found him all the dating sites I constantly see him enter ..., it's just funny ... But one thing I realized is really addictive .. I only have one thing left to do, to write to him from a fake profile so that there is black and white proof of the end. Girls and I advise you to stay away from such people .. it's a disease!
I do not know what to say. I met a man from a similar site, both married. Four years of relationship, I broke up my family, it kept his, thanks to his laughing wife. How many times have I asked him to get off this site, and he's not the only one. He does not want and does not want. He goes out for coffee with women, he tells me when he decides. We are 200 km away. Remember what we are talking about. He keeps telling me that there is no room for pressure on my part, but I don't believe it. How many fake profiles I've made and "caught" him, the tactics are the same, he says he's married, but he doesn't say he has a relationship and so on indefinitely. He is already 45, I am 42. We broke up on my own initiative, for this very reason - the virtual. We haven't been together for 3 years, I have another virtual-real connection and he (the former) is still in these sites. What is the conclusion - I do not know. Let everyone do it themselves.
How familiar! Because of such sites, my husband lost me. In a sense, we are not divorced yet, but he just lost me spiritually, because instead of being with me, he prefers to hang out on such sites. Well, I don't care anymore! He just doesn't know what he lost!
Twa with the virtual relationship without sex has always made me laugh. It turns out here that women almost do not have men with whom they write on the Internet. and I went with a freak like the one above. she wanted to look at my correspondence, and I couldn't look at her. women you are very impudent creatures not to say people so as not to offend people. The impression with the Porsche was like a confession = we women know that we are pro ... ki
When 5 years ago I caught my husband hanging out on such a site .... I created a profile and I invited him as my friend and accepted the friendship of another 20-30 men. My picture was only on my face, no nudity. Two or three days passed and he thought I had calmed down. When I didn't want to go to bed he asked me why? '-to pay attention to his friends I told. He thought I was joking. When a month passed, I decided that it was enough for me to lie to the men on the site and show my face. But before I deleted the profile, I invited my husband. To see what kind of men he competes with and to see that if I want I can change him for quite decent and quite young men. He was very upset. For so many years, what others my husband failed to do, he did himself. How many men twisted around me ... And even though mine isn't pretty, even though we had a lot of problems, I never thought of being with anyone else. Until my husband opened that forbidden door. It was only a matter of time now. I was silent, not mentioning his abomination. Toliova was insulting to me. And the other found me. For 5 years he courted me lightly and persistently. I have a lover yes. I have a favorite. And the one I live with ... he pushed me into his arms. To be alive and healthy, let the rubbish hang on these sites. And do you know what kind of men you will find when your gossip starts? To be alive and healthy, let the rubbish hang on these sites. And do you know what kind of men you will find when your gossip starts? To be alive and healthy, let the rubbish hang on these sites. And do you know what kind of men you will find when your gossip starts?