When I met my boyfriend, he was living with his boyfriend and his boyfriend in an apartment. At first they were the two of them, then the friend appeared to live with her. They in one room, mine in the other. Common areas such as living room, kitchen, bathroom and toilet are used without problems. They shop together, cook, etc. When I met them, I was impressed that this girl was very free with the two boys. They knew my friend from childhood. I felt very strange, because mostly the three of them talked to each other, I rarely got involved. All their common memories. This girl was always in command, always behaving like the woman in the house, and she wouldn't let me help with anything. Once my friend had to write a CV, update it for his new job. He didn't ask me, and this girl did it all for him. She found a template for him on the Internet, helped him with the text, took a picture of it, took it out on a printer. I found out last about everything, because I didn't even know that he needed a new SV. And then my friend shows me everything, I even found mistakes here and there. If I knew he would need help with that, and if he had told me, I would have helped him. But he told her. Another thing - he pays his bills when he asks her. He and I had gone out once, and we were sitting down for coffee. Okay, but this girl called him to come home to fry potatoes. He started arguing with me that we were leaving because she was waiting for him. I was handed out of the restaurant because she called again. He told me that the four of us had agreed to have dinner while they both cooked. A kind of surprise. That is, I was not familiar with, or involved in any way in, this arrangement. When I insisted on making at least the salad, it cut me off, and spun around the kitchen again. It is not true how I fell for their family idylls and the audacity of this girl that she does not comply with me, or that her roommate went out with her friend. I also lived with friends as a student, but each had a separate life, and we were not always together. I asked him if he had anything to do with this girl in the past, he denied, they were just good friends. It was strange to me all this behavior of the alpha woman in the house, and how she commanded the two boys. Like my friend, he listened to her. At one point she had become very unpleasant to me already, and he told me that I did not understand their friendship. I tried to fit into their environment, but I couldn't. For example, we talked, but nothing closer and friendly, just general talk. Anyway, she got pregnant by her boyfriend, the other boy, and mine moved out, because it would not be comfortable three and a baby in one apartment. Move to a room near us. I calmed down because I don't see this girl that often. How do you perceive your girlfriends' girlfriends? And they you?
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For me, there is no real friendship between a man and a woman. My friend has no girlfriends to date.
They were friends with privileges, for sure. I would stay so close to a boy only then, but if I had a girlfriend I would back off. She's obviously a cheeky bastard, but yours isn't a commodity either, unless she puts it in place. You chose a shoddy man, the girl is not to blame.
I think you're overplaying a little. If only the two of them were in the same apartment, ok, but if he's with his boyfriend, I think you're just jealous in vain. Once she lives there, of course she will be the hostess at home and take care of these things, and since it's a surprise, it's not right to get involved, it's still mostly for you, they can eat together and be sure to do every day. Also remember that she is there before you and I do not want to say it, but it is very likely that she is after you. If they are friends from their childhood, I think it is right to respect their relationship and not to interfere in any rude way, nor to show any kind of jealousy, because it will embarrass you in front of your partner. Men are just organized and run away from intrigue and drama. It doesn't say how long you've been together, but it's obviously not much since you haven't taken the step of living together. When that happens or you become his wife, you can react that way. Until then, do not create unnecessary dramas, no one likes someone to enter his life and start managing it. I would not tolerate someone talking badly about my friends or being annoyed by them. The best option, in my opinion, is to make friends with the girl. You haven't been involved in the conversations and you feel weird because they're close to each other, and you're new to the "company," which needs to be fixed by signing in, not by attacking "its members." Don't react first, choose your battles. In this case, you can't win, and you can't get up and separate them, you don't want to be one of those crazy women who separates their halves from everyone else, do you? Sooner or later he will start thinking about these things and I do not know what the outcome will be. And remember ... only insecure people get annoyed that way. You have value and once he has chosen you, he obviously likes your virtues and qualities, do not belittle yourself in his eyes. Success!
This topic is of interest to me as well.
My friend had one such "best friend" with whom he admitted to me that they had been together in the past but now he certainly doesn't like her in any way or anything, until after a year of relationship (which went great, we have no problems had) I accepted this friendship of theirs because I saw and knew that he really cared for me and loved only me, until one day I looked at his phone out of curiosity just, I did not suspect him. He had written to her regularly, everything about me and told, intimate photos ... everything. I left him and now I know I will never make the same mistake. There can be no friendship between a man and a woman alone.
To number 3 by the author It irritates me that the girl in question did not take into account the fact that her boyfriend already has a girlfriend, but continues to treat him as if he were alone. I also lived with friends in dormitories, but I did not interfere in their relationships, and as they took their boyfriends, I knew that I should not intrude on them, that we could not be together all the time. So, friendship is friendship, but I don't see myself calling a friend to come home because I need to, given that I know she's out with her boyfriend. If it is very urgent - yes. When a person has been alone for a while, his friends get used to it, it is normal. They get used to being the one without a partner and always available. But when he starts dating someone, and not for a week or two, they have to take into account at least a little bit that he might not come home tonight, for example, or that his plans will change. That I have me as a human being, and that I have an opinion, and not this girl to decide how to spend the evening, for example, and the four of us should be together. I knew, not to be handed out of the cafe so without explanation, even in the car he told me why. I agree with some of your opinion. But not by having to close my eyes to certain things and keep quiet so as not to anger or frighten him. Friends are friends, but some things are not very normal. I didn't say a bad word about her in front of him, I just asked if they ever had anything in common. And I, like the above opinions, do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, it seems very false to me. and the four of us must be together. I was also annoyed that he didn't share with me, at least if I knew, and not to hand me out of the cafe without explanation, even in the car he told me why. I agree with some of your opinion. But not by having to close my eyes to certain things and keep quiet so as not to anger or frighten him. Friends are friends, but some things are not very normal. I didn't say a bad word about her in front of him, I just asked if they ever had anything in common. And I, like the above opinions, do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, it seems very false to me. and the four of us must be together. I was also annoyed that he didn't share with me, at least if I knew, and not to hand me out of the cafe without explanation, even in the car he told me why. I agree with some of your opinion. But not by having to close my eyes to certain things and keep quiet so as not to anger or frighten him. Friends are friends, but some things are not very normal. I didn't say a bad word about her in front of him, I just asked if they ever had anything in common. And I, like the above opinions, do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, it seems very false to me. so as not to anger or frighten him. Friends are friends, but some things are not very normal. I didn't say a bad word about her in front of him, I just asked if they ever had anything in common. And I, like the above opinions, do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, it seems very false to me. so as not to anger or frighten him. Friends are friends, but some things are not very normal. I didn't say a bad word about her in front of him, I just asked if they ever had anything in common. And I, like the above opinions, do not believe in friendship between a man and a woman, it seems very false to me.
This girl's friend and your boy are "badzhans" as they say. He probably slept with her while you were together. Or he wants to sleep with her. In any case, this boy cares more about the other girl than you do, so there's no point in continuing your relationship.