From the title you understand what it is about and what my problem is. Please let the editors publish my story, which is very important to me. I am a 14-year-old girl studying at a language school, for which I worked hard last year. Ever since 5th grade, I have always been insulted and ridiculed by my classmates. I entered this high school, I expected that things would change, that I would have a different future, but here I was mistaken and very much so. Instead of a better future in which I feel calm and confident, I feel extremely weak and without a drop of self-confidence. I don't have friends, I'm alone during breaks, I don't have anyone to go out with on weekends and holidays, I haven't had a friend until now, I feel hellishly lonely at all. I have a feeling, that my ugly past will always haunt me and I will never be able to be myself and be like the other happy girls my age. I have goals, dreams, strong grades, I'm an excellent student, but I'm not a jerk. I like to write, read, do fashion, but I can't fit in my class. I don't want to move either, because as you already know, I worked hard to get here. Besides, as a child I changed 3 schools, and nothing has changed, it even got worse and worse for me. I'm not ugly, but I'm not one of the most beautiful. They often make fun of my appearance. In fact, I am short, with brown, straight medium-long hair, thin, without glasses, splints or the like. I think the problem comes only from my appearance. But I may be wrong. That's why I plan to make some changes with myself. My question is if I change my appearance, will the insults and ridicule stop or will this be a new reason for their ridicule? I can no longer withstand all this stress, especially since my lessons are long and difficult, and I am terribly confused. Please advise me what to do and how to proceed ..
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The most important thing for you right now is to find friends or at least people with whom you can communicate. This will give you the confidence you lack at the moment. You can find such people in interest clubs, sports clubs, dance clubs, music and art clubs, etc. In general, concentrate on finding an environment of acquaintances. These people will be your support, with the help of which you will perceive the rest of the world more positively. This will lead to a positive change in your behavior, which will cause a corresponding change in the behavior of others towards you.
Dear girl, I want to tell you that you should not be saddened by the situation you are in! Circumstances must motivate you to prove them wrong! You are smart - this gives you a big advantage over them. Show them that you can crush them with words ... there is nothing worse than that, believe me! If there is something you want to change, do it only for yourself and not for someone there who is hardly flawed. At this age it is normal for someone to be attacked ... unfortunately it is so in schools .. I really want to help you as much as I can and if you want a girlfriend I am there because I know what it's like to be alone ... there is no more difficult thing from this but it is not a shame to fall but to stand up and be so strong that everyone regrets their actions ... do not feel sorry for yourself but get inspired and become more confident, because you are a beautiful girl !!
And 8th grade I was alone without friends. The whole class hated me. There was no one to talk to, no one to go out with. I also got and still get excellent grades, but it seemed to irritate my former class even more. In the end I got tired and now I am another school, which is even better than the old one and I already have friends. I get along with almost the whole class. There is a mentalist in the class who hates all new students in the class, but mostly me. I don't know why and I don't care. Of the 28 people in the class, hating me is not a problem. I recommend you move to another school. I know you want to stay in this and I didn't want to move. The teachers liked me. Education was at a high level, but there are other good schools. I have already said that the new school is better than the old one. But you still have other options. Good luck. I apologize for any mistakes. I'm writing from the phone. You know how it is.
Hah, I'm in the same situation, I don't fit in either, they don't talk to me, I don't talk to them either, and honestly I like that, but not always. I also like being alone. I hate my new class. Except for 2-3 friends. My advice is just to be yourself, treat everyone as they deserve.
From the author: Thank you for the comments, you helped me a lot! I will be enrolling in some sport since the summer (now I'm really busy and I don't have time) and I will hope to find friends. I will try not to pay attention to them, but also to be confident and focus entirely on my lessons. I will try to be more confident and not give in so easily. Thank you again for your comments! :)
Why do you think the reason is in your appearance, what exactly? Many girls your age think that the attitude towards them, if negative, is due to appearance. However, this is rarely the case, except in some extreme situations. Yours doesn't look like that. Your problem is that you have low self-esteem, low self-esteem and the reason for this is not in your class again, but in the attitude of your parents towards you most likely. When you realize that everyone will never like you, that you are a quality person in yourself, things will start to adjust. Work on your self-esteem - you look normal, there are certainly things in your appearance that are not perfect, but also those that are nice. They are perfect in magazines after Photoshop. Do nothing about your appearance, but try to judge your behavior at school. People are not the same - you will not become a muffin, nor will you communicate with such people. Not all girls can be muffins in your class. Get closer to others who pass for traffic jams, but only in the eyes of the muffins. In five years you will graduate and then it will become clear who costs how much. Now it's easy to pretend to be open at the expense of someone else. So think about whether you can do anything at all and whether it makes sense. They don't live for someone else's approval. Like yourself the way you are, love yourself more, don't let people who aren't really better, aren't more beautiful, aren't smarter than you, crush you. Whether you feel nauseous and crushed depends only on you and how you react to what is happening around you. but only in the eyes of the muffins. In five years you will graduate and then it will become clear who costs how much. Now it's easy to pretend to be open at the expense of someone else. So think about whether you can do anything at all and whether it makes sense. They don't live for someone else's approval. Like yourself the way you are, love yourself more, don't let people who aren't really better, aren't more beautiful, aren't smarter than you, crush you. Whether you feel nauseous and crushed depends only on you and how you react to what is happening around you. but only in the eyes of the muffins. In five years you will graduate and then it will become clear who costs how much. Now it's easy to pretend to be open at the expense of someone else. So think about whether you can do anything at all and whether it makes sense. They don't live for someone else's approval. Like yourself the way you are, love yourself more, don't let people who aren't really better, aren't more beautiful, aren't smarter than you, crush you. Whether you feel nauseous and crushed depends only on you and how you react to what is happening around you. love yourself more, don't let people who aren't really better, who aren't more beautiful, who aren't smarter than you crush you. Whether you feel nauseous and crushed depends only on you and how you react to what is happening around you. love yourself more, don't let people who aren't really better, aren't more beautiful, aren't smarter than you crush you. Whether you feel nauseous and crushed depends only on you and how you react to what is happening around you.
You deserve to study at a prestigious school and you have to stand up for your rights. Be calm, balanced and do not show interest in threats, ridicule or attention to stupid remarks. Boldly raise the head of your classmates, lie down over the lessons and be yourself. Now you are forming yourself as a character and a person and don't let human complexes interfere with you, because your classmates have obviously decided that you will play the victim. Be strong, life is ahead of you and you will still be able to choose your environment, friends, hobbies, and even where to live and work. For starters, send greetings to anyone who decides to "feed" you with their stories. Soon their interest will wane, and you will discover how strong a person you really are.
Hello! As long as you all associate your problems with your appearance. The appearance of each person can change at any time, in countless different ways, but it depends only on you. In order to make fun of you and pick on you, I think the problem is somewhere in you. Think about whether your behavior or something else does not provoke them in any way. After all, if you can't make them stop one way or another, just become one of them. Personally, it happened to me, at first they made fun of me, made fun of me and a lot of other things, but I joined them and now I am a very good friend with all the people who harassed me for a reason or without ...
From the author to number 8: I don't think I'm provoking them with anything. I treat them nicely, I'm kind, I help them quite often, but things just don't work out. As for becoming one of them, it's not even up for discussion. I will never become a person who mocks others, I will never fall to the level that will happen. I just don't know how it happened to you, given that you were in my situation. So it's easier that way: to become one of them and crush the others for no reason, even though you know how they will feel.