Hello! I need your help! As you can see from the title, my daughter is pregnant. And he is only 15, after 3 months he turns 16. I don't even know how I could have allowed it. She has a boyfriend, which I also think is a little early. But you know that when you forbid something to your child, he begins to want it even more and does nonsense. And the boy is really good, he has a serious job and they understand each other well. And I know his parents, they are decent people ... But these things don't matter. The problem is that my daughter hid from me and the boy's parents that she was pregnant out of fear.
She didn't tell me on purpose so as not to make her have an abortion. He told me 1 week ago, but he is already 17 weeks old and it is too late for an abortion. Apparently the baby was wanted and they did everything on purpose. I'm very disappointed, but there's nothing I can do, the children put me in front of a fait accompli. Even if I hit and shout, I won't do anything. They will take care of the baby. They seem to want it a lot, but if they don't sleep for a few nights, I'll see them then. The advice I want from you is for my daughter's education. At the school she is in now, they have already found out that she is pregnant and told her to move to evening high school or on her own, but it takes 16 years for both of them and no one wants to make an exception. Please, without reproaches and insulting comments about my daughter 's age, etc ... Just please tell me if you have any idea how my daughter will finish this year, and the 10th grade will pass the SFO.
Thank you in advance for the advice I want from you is for my daughter's education. At the school she is in now, they have already found out that she is pregnant and they told her to move to evening high school or on her own, but it takes 16 years for both of them and no one wants to make an exception. Please, without reproaches and insulting comments about my daughter 's age, etc ... Just please tell me if you have any idea how my daughter will finish this year, and the 10th grade will pass the SFO. Thank you in advance for the advice I want from you is for my daughter's education.
At the school she is in now, they have already found out that she is pregnant and told her to move to evening high school or on her own, but it takes 16 years for both of them and no one wants to make an exception. Please, without reproaches and insulting comments about my daughter 's age, etc ... Just please tell me if you have any idea how my daughter will finish this year, and the 10th grade will pass the SFO. Thank you in advance for the advice I'm just asking you to tell me if you have any idea how my daughter will finish this year, and the 10th grade will go to the SFO. Thank you in advance for the advice I'm just asking you to tell me if you have any idea how my daughter will finish this year, and the 10th grade will go to the SFO. Thank you in advance for the advice
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Are you OK? It's too late for an abortion. So if it was earlier you would make her have an abortion, right? You think and talk about prohibitions, but in fact you had to talk to her about how to protect herself. She is afraid of you. If you get rid of your prejudices, you will take off a huge burden. Your daughter can continue as a private student. The child will be born, he will continue to study and everything will be fine. People will talk, big deal, scratch their tongue and ego on your back, big deal. Rejoice, better at 16 than at 40 and no children. He has a friend, it's too early, he will finish his education and everything will be fine. And don't put the stamp on her from now on, she won't sleep for a few nights and she'll see. I imagine what you're talking about. Find a video from True Stories, where a mother was constantly forging her little daughter and watching the baby. Eventually, her daughter abandoned her and left, doing a great job with the baby. I live abroad and here the state support such young mothers or live in shared housing with other mothers or alone nothing that they are 16 and no one points a finger at them. They get up and take the child to the nursery and continue learning and life goes on.
Are you number one? This is a child. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. It's a ruined life. And no, not because of human opinion. To the author, my opinion is that she should continue to go to school. Are they a document in which it is explicitly stated that she cannot attend school? There is one term left until the end of the school year to keep going. As a last resort, consult a lawyer. But I would insist he walk.
I calmly became a father at 16. I know what it is now I am expecting my 5th child soon. I am not a gypsy, but my wife is of Roma origin (we are both 27)
There are evening high schools in the big cities. Check with the Regional Inspectorate of Education where it is in your city. It is also possible SFO or other form of education regardless of age for good reasons. The school principal will explain what opportunities there are. Good luck. If you are told that there are no such things, you go to the Inspectorate, submit an application with your question officially, with an incoming number and within an efno week there will be an official answer.
What happened? Just say so and calm down. I am a mother and I understand very well that no mother will be delighted if her daughter gets pregnant at 15. But still the world is not over. There is always worse-incurable illness, death and other filth. And something wonderful happened to you - well, out of time, but when the shock subsides, things will fall into place. You say that these things do not matter - on the contrary, it is very important that The boy and the parents are literate people. You can't please. And every miracle in 3 days - they will talk, they will get bored and they will shut up. A light pregnancy for your daughter and everything will be fine.
In your place, I would just collect her things and apply to her boyfriend. If an abortion can be done, ok - consult a doctor and one day he will thank you. If they can't, let them take care of themselves as a family. I would help the child as much as a grandmother would help under normal conditions. In my opinion, when you want freedom and make such decisions, you have to take responsibility for them.
Well, the only thing you can do is make her grow up and understand what she's got herself into. Yes, you will help her with the baby, but let her main care be hers. It's good that at least her friend works, but he's not 16. That way he will be able to take care of her and the baby. However, no matter how young they are, they will have to become a family. I'm not saying to get married, but to live together and take care of the baby and the home. It will be very difficult for them, but if they can have children, then they must take responsibility for their actions.
I can't believe 15 years of planning a baby. It's really difficult for an adult, let alone a child, but for them it's more of a game. The father will help, it's nice to live together. Unfortunately, it is not known whether the father will whip himself when he sees the dawn. And what do the boy's parents think? He can study part-time.
There can be no option. An acquaintance of mine's daughter became pregnant at about the same age, during a brigade. (You can figure out for yourself when that was, actually before the '80s). Well, he has a high school education. So, since during communism there was an option for education in certain circumstances, it is almost impossible not to have it today. By the way, then the child's father did not want to hear about the baby and accordingly abandoned her. The daughter wanted to remove the baby, but my acquaintance (divorced) did not allow her to say a word. She gives birth to a boy. They raised him together. He became a very hard-working and responsible man, and to this day, he himself is a father (I think this happened when he was 22-23). So, my acquaintance, who is a few years younger than my mother, is a great-grandmother. My only advice is to support your child. During pregnancy and then with the baby. You have been through this yourself and you know very well what you have experienced. Putting it together is the fact that he is a teenager who is about to have postpartum depression ... just be there for her. Check the school for a pedagogical advisor. He should be aware of the forms of continuing education in such circumstances. But you should. The inspectorate is also an option for you.
Author, Do not rebuke your daughter. DO NOT force her to have an abortion. Help your daughter give birth to her baby. This child of hers is also your grandson, so DO NOT kill him! Don't even regret that your daughter got pregnant. You should be glad that your daughter has become a young mother and that she may have children. Abortion is the killing of an unborn but living child in the mother's womb! If you want your daughter to have an abortion - you put her in a terrible position - to be the killer of her own child (and your grandson), she herself will NOT forgive herself and she will NOT forgive you and she will HATE YOU for making her to have an abortion. There are also cases in which the woman / girl had an abortion to die after the intervention. Would you be happy if you had your daughter have an abortion and she had a scraped uterus? I hope, Author, to act sensibly and humanely - do not quarrel with your daughter, and help her give birth to her child, who is also your grandson. The bond between you and your daughter will be healthy when she gives birth to the child.
What's the problem with finishing 10th grade? Is there a legal ban? What did they explain to you?
Number 1 praise for your thoughts, number 2 failed life to some extent I can agree with you, but isn't it a failed life without children at 45 or 50. I myself gave birth at 17 and looked after my son without a husband, I do not regret any one day for having it. That's right, I devoted myself to him, studied him, helped him a lot to start in life. He is currently an IT specialist, happy with everything that did not happen to me. I am happy for him. What would happen if no one knew, every day I see angry and unhappy my acquaintances men and women of 40 45 without children and families, do not you think that they are very well without children? . So I can tell the author to finish her daughter in the evening and I also finished in the evening, plus she has a person next to her. Good luck and may everything develop wonderfully!
14, it is not normal for 16-17 children to do. First, you are small, then the other person is not stable. Let's be honest - such early pregnancies occur through carelessness and reluctance to use funds. And the other person has no guarantee that he will be next to her. He's just a biological father. Some men in their 20s and 30s don't want children, do they want in 16-17-18s? Author, you missed it a long time ago. I hope at least life doesn't sink anymore.
Number 15 you're right, it's not normal to do them, but they happen inadvertently, as happened to me, a cover-up man and knowing nothing, I just hoped I didn't regret it, even though my life wasn't easy. Now I understand very well, but too late !!! But I do not regret having my son.
Support your daughter! Let her give birth to the child.