Hello :) I am a 23 year old girl and I have no friends. There are many reasons, I have always been more closed, shy, it is difficult for me to make friends ... It is lonely, I need friends to go out with, to share. My question to you is do you know any easier ways to find friends? For example, groups in which I could enroll, related to hobbies, common interests? Or maybe online sites where one can find friends to meet live later? I would be very grateful for ideas, my dream is to have a best friend :)
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Hello, when you are more closed, it is quite difficult to find friends, I am painfully familiar, I have 2 girlfriends who use me a lot, no matter what happens, make up your mind! Never let them crush and crush you, just more closed people crush like that. And over time you will find friends, for example at work, you can also meet a boy, from there with his friends, for everything there is time you are still 23, for everything there is time do not despair, and do not let they crush !! In 5-10 years you will even have children.
A good option is to enroll in group classes. It was folk dances, zumba. Maybe a sport like tennis. It is easy to make friends there. But don't force things. Be natural and positive. Smile often, be kind, but not in a cheeky way. You can make a compliment for example for manicure, clothes, hairstyle. And from there to start a conversation. You can ask, for example, to be recommended a manicurist or hairdresser and you will talk about typically feminine, common topics. Relax, you have nothing to worry about.
There is no such thing. He has real friends, just friends and acquaintances. With the last two types you kill time and sometimes you say interesting things, and the first type is created with time and an atypical understanding between you. I'm sure you'll make friends, just don't despair. Yes, there are many possible social groups that you can join without much effort. Clubs / courses of interest, new ventures, sports, forums - all of these give you the opportunity to make contacts. In practice, you have to look for a social environment in which to settle. I don't believe you're going to talk to strangers for no reason, so you have to sign up somewhere. You go with a cheerful smile, greet a stranger, reach out and introduce yourself. Choose someone who seems a little lonely to you, you will probably be of the same breed. You still have some interests, follow them and there you will come across other people with the same hobby. Don't worry about sharing small facts about yourself, it often breaks the ice. When you behave more freely, others will begin to do so. Communication is a two-way process. If you find someone you like, just talk to him. As long as he answers you, you will be able to find common ground. I used to be a little lonely and my life seemed boring, so I started developing my hobbies. Some of them online, and others quite real. In this way I met wonderful people who helped me become a little more expressive. People are not bad, do not worry, but speak boldly. Look at things more clearly, do not delve into problems and shortcomings. Human relationships are a bit complicated, sometimes there are misunderstandings, but do not stare at them, but try to have a good time with company.
You think like a child. I was surprised that you are 23 years old. My sister and I went out to live with our boyfriends at that age and we had a job and we managed on our own and we didn't think about nonsense ...