There was a time, two years ago, a girl who waited for the prince to appear and be happy. The prince appeared, I fell madly in love and we started a relationship. We decided to try abroad and came here. There was a hell here that I don't know if I'm used to, but maybe I came to terms with. We work unskilled work, especially me, I work for very little money. We have enough to experience. This has been the case for almost two years. In the beginning, we had a lot of problems with him because of the money, because he kept lying to me that his money was being delayed. Later I realized that he either played them or lent them and so on at times. I decided I couldn't do that and left him. He apologizes, explains and I forgave him because I really love him and I believed maybe I still believe that he will change. Since last year, there has been a big change in his attitude and finances, perhaps as a result of the long conversations I had with him. But at the moment we still do not have and are entirely at my expense, this time the reason is that the employer had problems and delayed payment.
Nothing new for me, I know he's lying to me, I lost faith in him. Would you say why you are with him? I don't know love or habit or addiction I can't say. If I'm not there, I don't know what would have happened, I save his skin so many times, but sometimes he acts like he doesn't appreciate it. I almost have to endure it. in general, the problems with money and its nepukism make me think and I start to wonder. Why is he with me? For the certainty that if I'm late I'm on my way. Or because he is attached and loves me. In a fit of rage I told him that if he was rich and capable, he would not be with me, but with another type of woman. That is, I am an ordinary working woman. I'm not ugly or unsupported, but I'm not anything wow. That is, I have no money to pamper myself to get a manicure, to paint at a hairdresser. I support myself as much as I can, take care of the home, etc. I'm not saying that he doesn't show me love and respect or that he doesn't give anything for the home, but it's as if I'm the one who supports everything and keeps it as tight as he can. I just wonder if he was better and calmer, would he be with me or just with me, because I give him a sense of security and stability.
I just have the feeling that I have these masculine qualities that I have always wanted the man to have and I always quarrel with him because he is irresponsible and I try to almost re-educate him. I know it's not right, I'm not his mother, but I can't reconcile, that he doesn't worry as much as I do and isn't enthusiastic about saving to achieve goals, he just talks. I'm just tired of misery and poverty. I don't want to be rich, I want to have enough and not worry so much, but I want him to take on his responsibilities as a man as head of the family. I want to get out of this cycle. I would like to read your opinions and advice, thank you in advance. For the record, I am a woman of 28, he is 30. thank you in advance. For the record, I am a woman of 28, he is 30. thank you in advance. For the record, I am a woman of 28, he is 30.
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Say that they are slowing it down for you too, they kept half of it for you. And even if they delay it, he takes it. I think it's so easy for him.
when I read the title, I imagined a completely different story :-) Here things are clear - the person next to you is irresponsible. He may love you, but somehow I can't imagine such a person being the head of a family and supporting his wife and child while she is a mother. However, you can't live like this all your life and work a low-skilled job, you have to think about the future, collect some savings for a home, business, child or whatever you decide there. With such an irresponsible person, this seems like a difficult job. Think about whether you can count on him. And what would it be like if he had more money, don't bother :-) It doesn't matter
It is clear to you that he is lying to you. He will never stop or if he stops he will be for now. Once you have children, I will not leave money for them, but will lose them. From now on you rely on you. I think love is blind and as long as you love it you will suffer. Is that why you went abroad, to be constantly in poverty, and he to play mosquito? And that's how life goes. Step back from him and look for a decent man. When he sees money, he gives it somewhere. Ask him how much he has saved in two years. People have said wolves change their fur, but not temperament. It has not changed at all and will not change. F28
My opinion is that from now on with the next men in your life to proceed like this - the moment they open their beaks for money, to run. This is a pretty clear indication of what you are to such men. For the current one, it's very clear - it will milk you while you last. If you think he cares about you, you have been deeply deceived Learn to judge people and your actions For example, I would never feed a man on any occasion As I support myself, so a man must endure and to handle Everything else is a base interest
I don't think he will ever become human. My husband and I met when he was 26 years old. He was a thousand times calmer and more serious. Responsible, if you will. Here in the description I do not see a man for a relationship. I think it will bother you for a long time, but such was your luck. If you have the strength, leave him and look for a normal boy. If not, fight to change it, but ... why don't I believe it will change, it's style.
Start a new life. As long as you are patient, you do not deserve it. He just doesn't appreciate you, run, save yourself, think for yourself. You will find happiness. Good luck and smart. Let him break his head.
4, you will see when you give birth to 1-2 children (if at all ... because I remember a lot) whether you will not need "feeding" ... And men with what we are worse or worse than you, that yes do you feed We often look after our children almost alone. That is why it is this demographic catastrophe (FACT!) - because of reasoning like yours.