Hello .. Now I will tell you my story .. I am an 18 year old girl and I had a serious relationship with a boy who is 21 .. So we were together for two years ... We had small quarrels and things like that, but because I wanted me to remain friends we decided it would be better to separate. I broke up, it took me about a month and my birthday came .. I invited him .. And this friend of mine in question too ... In the middle of the party my girlfriend started dating my ex .. And she knew very well that I still love him .. I decided to make her come to the kitchen with me to help me and talk to her and say that what she is doing is pretty nasty, but she had swallowed a solid amount of alcohol and obviously not at all she understood what I was talking about and kept pushing my ex-boyfriend ... I felt very naughty, but what else could I do ... After a while, about a week, maybe my girlfriend and I had arranged a meeting in a neighborhood cafe. When I went to the arranged place she was with him .. With the boy I love .. I was surprised, I entered the restaurant and sat down with them ..
She pulled me aside and told me that they decided to try if he would go between them .. Then I felt super bad, But what could I do ... I tried to limit my contact with them .. Because my girlfriend was happy with him ... And I could not stand the sight of hugging and kissing .. I was in a nasty pain ... My heart sank every time I saw them together ... I wanted to tell him how I felt about him, I wanted to admit to him how I still loved him ... One Saturday after about a month since they were When I left, I gathered courage and called him ... I told him how I was feeling ...
I told him how much I missed him ... but I was afraid to hear what he was going to say ... Wouldn't he laugh at me? So I quickly hung up my phone and turned it off .. After about an hour the doorbell rang ... he opened the door and the moment I looked him in the eye .. he smiled at me and I blushed .. He asks me if we can talk and of course I agreed .. He told me that his feelings did not subside and that he wanted to meet again ... For a moment I felt really happy, but for God's sake he was going with my best friend. .. I couldn't refuse him, but I didn't agree ...
I told him that we could get together, but we wouldn't tell my girlfriend for a while ... He told me that he would explain to her that he wanted to get together and he can't walk with both of us at the same time, but something like that happened ... I'm dating my ex-boyfriend, who is my best friend's boyfriend ... I wonder how to tell her? !? !! What to do? If anyone can advise me I would be very grateful :)
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You are not angry, but you have acted very hypocritically. 1st - you were separated when the other girl went with him. 2nd you suggested not to say anything to her. I'll tell you what the trick of the boy here is - he doesn't love any of you, he just fucks himself in a variety of ways - he likes you, he likes her - he fucks her in various ways. A very humiliating situation for you, because you offered yourself to him ... cheaply. Otherwise he doesn't respect you and doesn't love you - otherwise he wouldn't have gone with the other one. He just likes having two babes. Not bad. To him, he's a dude. In front of his friends he is probably the biggest dude, they are bursting with ridicule at you - the gums. However, your relationship has no future and you are 100% wasting your time. In the end, the man will meet a third person who will really love and will dump you both - both cheap, easy babes who offer themselves ... cheap ... and become a laughing stock. Understand that men don't like them in the long run - especially traitors and hypocrites, liars and similar women who don't respect themselves the most.
And when he meets the third, she will be as he was compared to the two previous ones. This is usually the case - the one who pretends to be a bully will sooner or later receive the dose of the same medicine that he has given to others who may have had feelings for him. The author, since he lacked the basic loyalty to at least get involved with someone other than your girlfriend, ask yourself what this ... "dude" is.
I don't see why you're so worried. She didn't bother going out when you still had feelings for him, did she? This is NOT a friend. There is a law in friendship that states that a girlfriend should never go out with another friend's ex. I don't think you're easy in this case since he's been with you before. It is redundant here. Say it directly. Say it together. And be careful with such girlfriends ... A relationship is made by two people, the bad thing is that many whores can't count.
my impression is that you don't know what you want: once you're separated, you have no right to be angry if there's a relationship with your girlfriend. Well, it's not pleasant, but you can't both be separated and have exclusive rights over it. you are either a couple or you are not. and the idea of reuniting with him is stupid. here I agree with 1 that he does not love either of you when he changes you with such ease. and indeed your act is unfair to her.
All three of you are not a commodity, but it happens when you are young.
If you had self-esteem, you wouldn't be in touch with either of them now.
IF HE LOVED YOU VERY MUCH, sheep! Go with both of you, and you still want to be with him? !! Dude IS FUCKING AWESOME WITH BOTH OF YOU AND HE'S IN THAT JOB WITH WHICH HE'S GOING TO BE! If he cared, he wouldn't play such double games. BURN YOUR MIND and dump it! Don't look for him anymore. - Edelweiss
I envy your "friend". Dude fucks two babes, and you both think he loves you ... why the hell can't I do the same ... obviously not everyone can.
Who can do it, can do it - dude. Take notes from this person and look for turkeys like the author and the girlfriend?
So-so ... That's how communes are created! ... :) A friend says that polygamy should be allowed, BUT ... provided that the man and the woman take the MOTHER-IN-LAW! Thus, with 3-4 mothers-in-law, the poor man will not have polygamy at all, and things will self-regulate!
From the Author ... To understand that I acted very stupidly when we got together with him .. But I feel really happy with him ...
People ... I don't understand you, honestly! One understands what he had only after losing it! Don't leave him!
Hello! I'd say they both don't deserve you. First of all, if your best friend cared about you, she wouldn't be dealing with the boy you love, because she has to be the person who understands you the most. Besides, if the boy had real feelings for you, he wouldn't make fun of you by having two relationships at the same time, and he wouldn't go out with your best friend at all while he still has feelings for you. In my opinion, it would be fairest to spend your relationship with both of them, because this situation would not lead to anything good and because they are unworthy.