My ex-husband stubbornly wants to make me his mistress. The woman we broke up with a month ago gave birth to a child. Obviously, things are not going well there or because of the baby they do not have time for sex. It was very painful and difficult for me to experience the separation and the dirt they both caused me. I was left alone with a minor, upset and very hurt. She gave birth to him without realizing that this man does not love or look after children. Under the pretext of seeing his child, and after a few walks to another city because of the little one's illness. He started making hints around me. To call me 100 times a day, he constantly says that he made a huge mistake. He keeps telling me what we did, how wonderful it was. How he felt great with us, somehow in place and very invigorating. How life brought surprises and that one day we would probably get together again. He makes me suggestions for the three of us to go on vacation, to spend time together.
This is everyday. In the beginning I said to myself, if we go for walks with him, we will spend time together. Let her now look after a child alone, just as I was alone with a baby, and they on vacation. It's just that it's starting to weigh on me more and more, to irritate me all this. I didn't sleep with him, I didn't allow myself intimacy. But he actually wants to weave in two looms. He is hiding us, he wants to make me an ex-wife of an ex-wife. And this is humiliating and very base. I once told him to take me to pick up a shipment, and he was silent, silent. After a second question, would he take me to the courier company with half a mouth, he told me that the woman in the office was a relative of his current wife and did not want trouble. But if I still held, he could stop in an alley and wait for me. I was angry and told him the child and I are no secrets and that I will go the next day to get them, but I will not be humiliated to go down to secret streets. He pursues me, he is even jealous. If I hadn't dared to catch someone, we were going to get together.
The only fun I have is that she's looking after the baby on her own now, and I'm having fun with him. That the wheel turned. But we are both losers, she is arrogant, proud to have always won the trophy. He has no idea what he is doing and that if I decide I will have an intimate relationship with him. But I can't cross that line, I know nothing good is waiting for me. That it will hurt me very badly, and it is humiliating to make me a mistress. I feel so sick inside, I want to break free. What should I do? I also want her to suffer, just as she made me unscrupulous, without caring that I was with a baby. Yes but he's terrible and only I know him,
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Well, get up, you will thank him so much that at the time he treated you like a rag and left you, you will brush his ego - what an irreplaceable man he is, when you are ready to be with him again. You do not humiliate his mistress, now wife, wife, you humiliate yourself! You show that you are the same as her when you do the same. You're even worse than the other one, because you don't have to be abandoned once, and you obviously want a second time (I don't believe you're so stupid as to think she'll be with you for life if you get together). It is strange that most abandoned women hate the rival, not the traitorous man. And you're happy to get revenge on her, but you don't think how to get revenge on him? If he hadn't been with her, he would have left you for another, you just connected your life with a gambler and a liar, that you have a child with him. Sorry, but that's the reality. My advice is - spit and pass. Do not open the same page again, which you closed with pain. Do not dig the same dirt. There is no greater revenge than indifference and oblivion. Show him that no one is for you and you don't care about him, don't look for him for anything, keep your child as far away from him as possible. And she will get her revenge on the other, without you getting dirty.
His job with this scoundrel, your ex-husband, is not to eat the bone, but he doesn't give it to anyone else. I'll tell you how I would act in your place - in no case would I be humiliated to become his mistress, but I will contact him and try to find out his new one. There must be compensation for the suffering you have experienced. Let her know that just as he cheated on you with her, so he will cheat on her. Make an effort to look perfect - let him splash with anger at what he missed. Get male friends or colleagues to call you on the phone when you're engaged to him — let him grieve and be jealous, he deserves it. Poison their lives as they poisoned yours, and only then beat his jester. Safe from geeks ....
Well, it will be humiliating, yes. I understand that deep down you want some kind of revenge for the betrayal, but in the end you will humiliate yourself again. Well, when he beats you up a second time, won't you feel even worse and more humiliating? Then who will you take revenge on, yourself? Come on, the first time you're tied up, but the second time you're tied to the same numbers, it's nonsense. The best revenge will be to be happy and forget everything, so as not to bother and think about how they feel. They have already made their choice, never look back again. Even if you find a decent man even better.
Get him out of your life! Your child can be seen with him, but you do not have to stay with him for more than 5 minutes. Dude wants the home coziness that he had sex where he catches 2 women to fight for him ... just a laugh, the gypsies in our country do not tolerate this. Author, I have a question for you - why do you want her to suffer? Did she break up your family? No! She didn't owe you anything - he broke it and now he's breaking theirs, trying to get back in bed. If he didn't want to sleep with you, he wouldn't do it, just as if he didn't want to sleep with her, he wouldn't break up your family. Stop blaming the other woman, it's your husbands' fault! And he must have told her that you were terrible and that she didn't believe him. My advice - start taking more care of you and your baby,
Hahahahahaha .... In this world to be an idiot and nasty garbage, there are so many people walking on your ass, eh .... Not only is it not right to be his mistress, but it is not bad totally to him you ignore. Even if you find someone else. I wonder about your mind, honestly.
You can only get free with distance. You will not be relieved if she also suffers because of you, you will only humiliate and punish yourself. Don't give him this power over yourself - to think about it, to suffer it ... Your attitude towards these people should be the following: if you see them falling on the road, you jump over and continue. Take care of your child, look after your life and fun and use your ex to take care of your child. When you go out - you drop it on him. But no, I can't, how can you! When he needs money for an excursion - to give. When he needs sneakers - to lead him to buy. But you and he finished when he put that job somewhere else and decided to leave. You had a chance, he didn't take advantage. Don't let it pull you back. Makes conversations short, meetings only to hand over and pick up the child. You don't have anything else in common (I hope you don't have total credit or anything like that). If you are going to drag your stomach out with your intestines. He himself has severed the bond between you, let him live now with the consequences of HIS decision.
The only one who is happy with what is happening is your ex-husband, and you and his other wife are very naive and simple with an apology to tie his numbers. I am convinced that the 3rd woman can turn on her little finger, as long as she has the same thinking as yours. You two don't have a future with him, but you didn't realize it, obviously after you gave birth to children and worshiped him. Instead of looking after your child and doing more pleasant things than men, you fall from hole to hole. Do not interfere in the upbringing of your child, all the shoulders fall on the mother, you can only ask him for money, but do not care and love.
Now is the time for cold revenge. Unwind with him, keep him away from your wife more often. But don't go so far as to be intimate with him, because that would be too much of a sacrifice on your part. His wife is probably very jealous. Make her doubt it. Family scandals will start and his new wife will make his life sad. For me, he is the big culprit to drag 2 women into such a situation, but she is not completely innocent, she probably knew about his situation and still did not refuse to ruin your family. Well, now it's coming back to her. If it's not you, it will. some other, so if you do not deal with it, sooner or later they will separate, because this person is not able to have a healthy family.
Of all the stories, I feel most sorry for the two children who are doomed to a broken family from an early age. In your place, I would tell the other woman what the gentleman in question is doing, because of the whole story, your children have suffered the most. It was neither you nor the other you have with him. If you're looking for another man, at least be careful next time. Keep in mind, however, that very few men would be inclined to look at another's child as their own. Women, don't get involved in sweet talk !!! My friend never hid me from anyone, not from family, not from friends, nor did he unravel me for anything. A man should be honest and protect you, not make women's stories.
Play it once, record a video or at least a sound, and then send it to the other. The question is whether you will then be able to refrain from knocking "just one more time" and thus carry out his plan.
He doesn't respect you, he doesn't respect the woman he's with right now. The same goes if you were just boyfriends, not spouses. It's ugly again, and it shows that your ex has no problem cheating, no matter who. He may have done the same while you were together. He wants to have a safe wife at home, and another for entertainment. You are the former, sweeter and forbidden to him, because he can no longer have you. He doesn't want to feel fucked up and lost, so he wants to try again. The problem is not in sex as sex, but in the fact that you are no longer available to it, and you are more interesting. Don't accept picking nuts from other women. This is over between you.
You're a big freak, honestly. If you don't have children, do all sorts of nonsense ... mostly he's a freak. This attitude is not serious, so you doom young minors who are not to blame for your messy relationship. In this case, you humiliate yourself and scratch his ego. Why do women think that someone cares about you. This is only until he finishes and then he will not sleep, he will sit with his wife again, and he probably doesn't care about her either. Are you so simple ... I don't know
I don't like the topic of fucking, so I will use the opportunity to ask women what exactly are you looking for in a man? I wonder if it is the penetration itself, there are already so many toys for penetration, even more sophisticated than the Macedonian man's sausage. If it is about human feelings and the warmth of the soul, how would the author submit to a person who threw her away like a rag? If it's about money, it sounds most logical to me, but I'm not convinced (isn't that true? And if it's about money, then all women are sold and made into saints !? Please help me know what the woman is looking for in the man, the insemination or the bodily pleasure that he can achieve in another way and more comfortably?
Fuck him, but ask him for money, supposedly for the child. Watch your interest in the child as well. The other woman doesn't interest you.
Let me guess - you got caught up with him because of the money, the "security" or as you call him there, the other one also pushed himself out of greed and now you are in this situation. This is now a love triangle or pentagon, if we include the children, it would be difficult to give meaningful advice.
I have no idea how the author can communicate with such a person. Come on, she was wrong, they had a baby and that's why they stayed together. But after the divorce, after he dumped her ??? Either it's some kind of masochism or they look like similarities.
Oh, I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are very angry about what happened and it's time to let go of the past. In my opinion, his new wife should not be a factor in your life at all. Even if she suffers, it will not erase your pain and will not help you in the present. The poor woman believed in a man who just wanted sex and fun. And she like you, do you understand correctly. She was bound by lies, she gave birth to a child and here we are. It turns out that she is now deceived. Do you realize what your ex-husband is doing? He just wants to be in love and play family, but not really be the head of the family. You gave birth to him and he found a mistress. His mistress became a woman, gave birth to him and is now looking for another. His babies are bothering him. How surprising? He does not sleep well, his wife is more interested in his child, sex decreases sharply. The baby interferes with his pleasures, because for him the baby is not happiness. I guarantee you that his new wife will get into your situation, but you don't have to play him mistress. Revenge will not help you, it will not make you a better person, it will not remove the ugly part of your marriage. Your child's father hasn't played yet, if you don't become his mistress, he'll find someone else. Some still tight young lady, who did not give birth with tears, did not breastfeed for months and did not get unpleasant stretch marks. You haven't come across a man who really is a man. You have come across a mollusk that enjoys itself and wants much more than the maximum from his wife, no matter who the woman is. Neither you are guilty, nor is his new wife guilty, nor will the next one be guilty. You have all been deceived. You can only be proud that you were the first and did not take on the role of mistress. There was no way to know that he will cheat on you. It's not like he cheated on you to know that he will cheat on you. His new wife was stupid and naive in this regard, but she will open her eyes someday. Fate knows its job, everything comes back, but you do not put sin on your heart by causing pain that has driven you crazy until recently.
The best and perhaps most difficult thing is to forgive that person. Forgive him for being a Merevean and unable to control his impulses, instincts and irresponsibility towards his child. Forgive him for not being a man, but for some disoriented and weak-minded nerd with a little respect for you. If you can forgive him and look at him as what he is, you will understand that he is already just one of the many garbage men in the world with whom there is no point in contacting, especially given that there are much better people in this world. alternatives, and you with a child 100% need more than wasting your time and judgment with revenge and humiliation. Break all ties with him, never see him. When the child grows up, explain to him that his biological father left you for another woman and did not want his child. In this way, he will probably feel rejected and will not be willing to contact him. Build your life.
If I were you, I would do exactly what neither of us would expect. First I will swallow my ego and sleep with it exactly once, positioning a camera and recording it. Then I'll just send the video to his current wife. This way you will play both and he will stay on the ground with two chairs. You will also shatter her illusion that she has outplayed you, because whoever digs into it falls alone.