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My Ex Is Harassing Me

By valevale19 July 14, 2020 9 answers Last updated July 14, 2020

Hello, everyone. A desperate 23-year-old girl is writing to you. I will try to be brief.

My ex-boyfriend is harassing me. He follows me, waits for me, makes fake profiles to contact me, writes to my friends and whatnot. Before he started doing this nonsense, we were in a normal relationship, but apparently, when I saw that I had no feelings for him, I became furious. Apart from the above, I have rumored that I cheated on my current friend with him, but in fact, there is no such thing.

I tell you things from above, but the situation is quite delicate and at the moment my boyfriend and I have big conflicts because my ex is such a fox and he knows very well how to turn things against me. I want to strangle him, but I know I shouldn't react aggressively because I'm a big, mature man. But in any way to explain to him that I have no feelings for him and to leave me alone will still hurt him and I am afraid he will continue to make me dirty with anger because, as you can see, he is obsessed with me and will not leave me. find. I do not know what to do. I ask for your advice. Thanks.

Answers 9

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camie____ answered · July 14, 2020
Email him in order to extract any threats from him. When he goes to follow you, find witnesses and give signals to 112. If they are registered, then you will want a document that there is such a signal. Collect threatening text messages, if you have any. At every crack - you file a complaint with the police. Then, with all the evidence, you go to a lawyer and file a case for domestic violence and a restraining order. And keep in mind that the term is 1 month and its last crack. In case of any violation of the restraining order, you call the police. He will be sent to prison if he does not stand aside.
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harleyslut6969 answered · July 14, 2020
Very familiar situation. Years ago, I had an affair with a man, and when it ended, he started behaving exactly the way you described him - following me, waiting for me, making fake profiles on sites he knows I visit, telling all sorts of lies about me. I talked to him dozens of times and asked him to stop and leave me alone - he denied - it was not him, he did nothing to harm me, and my acquaintances told me that it was from his mouth that they heard another nonsense about me. . And what helped me - complete ignorance. I stopped paying any attention to him. I told my friends emphatically - to choose whether to trust me or him. And he stopped. He saw that his idiocy did not resonate, got tired and stopped. Apparently, while I was looking for him to talk to, he still had some hope that he could influence me, but when it became clear to him that I no longer cared about him, he just gave up.
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byngdtx answered · July 14, 2020
Can't your friend talk to him and startle him? I think he should protect you.
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maripaz_vega answered · July 14, 2020
"Before he started doing this nonsense, we were in a normal relationship, but apparently when I saw that I had no feelings left for him, I was furious." Author, women's feelings end only in one case - when you catch up with another! It seems perfectly normal for him to be "furious." Did you cheat on him with the current one?
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extasis_couple answered · July 14, 2020
Just another one who can't accept that you're not together anymore. Apparently he thought you would burn with desire to return, but when that didn't happen, he became angry and took revenge. When you're not his, he wants to tarnish your life. Complex work. Your friend should trust you and protect you in the situation. If things continue, really think about protection from the law. Cyberbullying and harassment are not a joke.
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bopeep19 answered · July 14, 2020
To number 3: My friend fought with him and beat him, but no use. thank you all
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uncut1326 answered · July 15, 2020
It is made of felt. He wants to see you.
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nector_of_the_gods answered · July 15, 2020
Author, once you end a relationship with someone, no more contact with that person. It may be rough, but that's life. A normal relationship with an ex is just like that - you have no contacts and points of contact, and everyone looks after their own lives. It may be rude to pass by and cross yourself out, but there is no other way out. Yes, you can't stop someone from looking for you from other people's profiles and spitting, but you can set clear boundaries for him, that it's all over. There is no friendship with a former such film. They wrote to me too, and I blocked. It's good to have a friend, at least to protect you. If you explain yourself to him, if you spare his feelings, he will be even more impudent. Contact his relatives, friends, and the police in particular.
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sampokett answered · July 15, 2020
it's a terrible thing for psychopaths, they don't have any feelings and moral scruples, they are complete freaks, until they kill each other and put them in prison, there is no escape or until they find a new victim, that is, a girlfriend.
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