My Father Does Not Accept My Husband

   Don't ask him at all. You just go with your husband. If he wants to see you. If he doesn't want to, then you don't see each other. You invite your mother to you and that's it. You have the right to make all decisions regarding your personal life, as well as your father - in yours. As he does not want "sons-in-law", he will not see his daughter. I had such a problem with my mother. I think she is jealous of me and does not want to love anyone but her. He hated my first husband from the beginning. After I divorced, he instantly became "golden" in her eyes and I "guilty" (although he asked for a divorce), and as soon as I started a new relationship, she hated my second husband again. I do not care! If he wants us to have a relationship, he has to respect my choice, and that is to live with that person. What does "does not want sons-in-law" mean? ? That you make your father sleep with them? But he really has the right not to want you to take them to his home. Well, you won't lead them, but you won't walk either. Do you know how fast he will squat ?! Sensing that he is losing his daughter in this way, he will turn the plate immediately. My mother began to feel that she had no one else to rely on, and if she continued to poison me, we would be completely separated, and now she has changed her policy. Tomorrow I can divorce again and get married again, it's my job. If she wants to like my husband, if she wants to dislike him, that's her job. we will be completely apart and now it has changed its policy. Tomorrow I can divorce again and get married again, it's my job. If she wants to like my husband, if she wants to dislike him, that's her job. we will be completely apart and now it has changed its policy. Tomorrow I can divorce again and get married again, it's my job. If she wants to like my husband, if she wants to dislike him, that's her job.

   The family you create with your husband should always come first. If your father doesn't accept it, that's his problem. With such humiliating behavior towards my husband, "mother and father" will not see my eyes. I don't take your father's behavior for granted. It is not dictated by love. If he loves you, he will respect your choice. You are not a small child to ask for permission to divorce or approval of who to be with afterwards. If he wants to see you, so does your husband. If he does not want, good health. I would not tolerate even a second for my father to behave in a similar pig way with my husband, and for me to go and kiss his hand. He doesn't even care if you're happy. What kind of father is this and does he deserve respect? When you show him that he understands that he has either accepted him or forgets that he has a daughter, your relationship may improve. If not,

   So, woman, you have the means to raise two beautiful and big children, to divorce a man / men who do not get up and have not made you happy, but you do not have such things to oppose your father. Tighten it. Most likely, he had an old belief that divorced women are easy, yes. My mother also has 3 divorces, she has her own self-esteem and that of people who know her. Keep your head up. In the next holidays, invite the family to your home, do not leave it, because that will ruin your relationship. to love yours, but they have each other, you have it. They will leave, he will stay. Talk to your father and tell him that he either accepts him or he will not see his grandchildren, threaten him with something. Tell him you're big and it's your choice. Men become thinner with age upside down;)

   What can people advise you, your father has principles and does not want to violate them. He was really fed up with sons-in-law, once, a second time, until when, he despaired of his daughter. If you do not learn from your mistakes, what is he guilty of, do not harass the man, leave him alone, I speak from the position of a man!

   You are abnormal. How are you going to dump your husband so you can run to comply with yours, who don't accept him? The family is now you and him, not you and your parents. It's simple - they don't respect him, so they don't respect you either. From where to where will they interfere with you in this way, and you will run obediently to please them? It's funny - a 40-year-old woman, not daring to stand up for herself, to act like a kid and tremble, what will her father say? Stop playing their whistle. Say that either you will go to visit with your husband, as it should be and they will treat him with respect, or they will not see you at all. Your father allows himself this because he sees that you are listening to him and his number passes - you had to grit your teeth and set a clear boundary.

   She left him. How can you choose your father over your husband ... Let him calm down. I wouldn't leave my husband on holiday because of my parents, no matter what. Even though they are my parents and I am extremely grateful for everything they have done for me, I would not allow that!

   It is difficult for a father to accept that my daughter is a prostitute. I'm not saying you're necessarily like that, but obviously in his eyes. The older generations do not accept divorce as normal, and you have 2 behind you. He obviously thinks that you are not choosing your men correctly and you will not stop at number 3.

   Mom and Dad have functions up to 18-20 years. I have never understood people who tolerate any kind of relationship that would not be from random people just because someone is their blood. People are people, no matter what your story is. If someone behaves like a lunatic and has bad feelings ... then the person is cut off from life. Your happiness depends only on yourself, not on side factors ... Bro.

   I'll tell you what you look like in his eyes, and you count on it. I'm not saying he's right or wrong, I'll keep my opinion to myself. You look like a whore. Think about it - you get married, have children, get divorced. Come on once it can happen to anyone. You divorce again for the second time, maintaining a parallel relationship with a third party before the divorce. Well, there is hardly a father who would be delighted. Especially if he is a more patriarchal type. Every parent even when the children are small, he dreams they are happy, successful, have a healthy family, children and I'm sure he has made a lot of sacrifices in this regard. He dreamed of getting married, being serious, faithful, being together all your life, supporting each other, being faithful, raising your children in a pleasant and healthy environment, and you getting a divorce, then a new one, then cheating on him with a third , you divorce, then you live with your lover. This has already come to him more. He must have wondered where he went wrong in his upbringing, he must have felt disappointed and exposed. And at the thought that this one is very likely not to be the last, the fourth one will not be able to bear it and just from now on he does not consider it necessary to harass and expose himself to meet the next one, and he himself is disappointed that instead of sitting on your ass and looking after your family and children, you change them like handkerchiefs. What if you bring him a fifth after the fourth, should he accept them all and call them a son-in-law? That's what your father thinks, and you judge for yourself how much there is and how much there is no reason. I doubt you understand it, because in your eyes you are looking for happiness. However, I also doubt that he will ever soften, because you turned his whole life upside down (in his eyes), the most precious and dear to him man has disappointed him, his dreams of an exemplary daughter and the good upbringing for which he has sacrificed, all things that for him are a great part of his meaning of life, have gone in the trash. A patriarchal man can never be the same after 3 marriages (cohabitation) of his daughter. You are obviously more modern and you will never understand what is in his soul. From your main point maybe it will be the same if your daughter becomes a cheap highway prostitute. I'm not saying that you are like that, but that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels failed as a parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. for which he sacrificed, all the things that for him are a big part of his meaning of life, went in the trash. A patriarchal man can never be the same after 3 marriages (cohabitations) of his daughter. You are obviously more modern and you will never understand what is in his soul. From your main point maybe it will be the same if your daughter becomes a cheap highway prostitute. I'm not saying that you are like that, but that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels like a failed parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. for which he sacrificed, all the things that for him are a big part of his meaning of life, went in the trash. A patriarchal man can never be the same after 3 marriages (cohabitation) of his daughter. You are obviously more modern and you will never understand what is in his soul. From your main point maybe it will be the same if your daughter becomes a cheap highway prostitute. I'm not saying that you are like that, but that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels failed as a parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. A patriarchal man can never be the same after 3 marriages (cohabitations) of his daughter. You are obviously more modern and you will never understand what is in his soul. From your main point maybe it will be the same if your daughter becomes a cheap highway prostitute. I'm not saying that you are like that, but that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels failed as a parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. A patriarchal man can never be the same after 3 marriages (cohabitations) of his daughter. You are obviously more modern and you will never understand what is in his soul. From your main point maybe it will be the same if your daughter becomes a cheap highway prostitute. I'm not saying that you are like that, but that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels failed as a parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. and that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels like a failed parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within. and that you look more or less like that in his eyes and he feels like a failed parent and very disappointed and offended by your behavior. If he is from a small town, he 100% feels it as a stain on family honor and probably thinks that the neighbors behind his back are mocking him and this is eating away at him from within.

   After all, did your father share exactly why he didn't like it? Think about what moment since you found out you had a new man you reacted sharply.

   Invite them to the holidays, if your father is alone, at least you will be with your mother and husband.

   To number 10. Thank you for your point of view. I think I realized these things because I was trying to see the situation from his head. However, the fact that I realized them does not make me happier. There are some things I don't understand. How is it possible to just chill with your kids and do just that for such things? I would never do that to my sons - make them split up and almost put them in front of a choice - me or your wife. I think the main role of the parent is to support. I myself am currently building such a relationship of trust and understanding with my children ... relationships that I missed. To know that they love me in spite of everything and accept me with all the flaws ... and do not live with any ideal idea of ​​what I should be.

   You also live with a perfect idea of ​​how things should happen. Try to accept them. People don't have to like each other because you like them individually. Your father has not given up on you. Your husband has not given up on you. What to say to the children of divorced parents. And they want to be with the two on a holiday, but whatever. To be safe and sound.

   Very correct, number 17. Everyone asks why the other wants to score within his ideas, and it is not felt that this is how he puts the other into his own. It is very clear to me that neither the father will understand the daughter, nor the daughter the father. Everyone is right for themselves.

   17, there is no problem with the different ideas, but with the fact that you impose them on others. And to make your daughter come to see you with a broken leg by train or bus, because you don't like a child you haven't seen ... Is this paternal behavior worthy of respect?

   You have to think about yourself and your children. The parents are up to date. Your father must be my age, 65-70. What nonsense about divorce immorality is written here? It is very clear that you will not live with an inappropriate man! Your father is actually to blame for your wrong choices. The daughters follow the example of their father. If he does not accept you with the new partner, break up with him and let him know the reason. He will soften, and if he does not soften, then he does not love you and you have no obligation to love and like him. I married a man 24 years older, my mother didn't like him and I didn't communicate with her for three years. Then he tried to patch, but the torn one was torn. I did not forgive her and now 25 years later I do not regret it.

   There is a wisdom - choose for yourself: to be right or to be happy. I also don't understand this distorted parental love. Happy children, happy parents.

   19 - The daughter is not worthy, you want the father to be like that.

   It is also possible that I am trying to get my father into my notion of normalcy. But this is the only case in which I do it. And all their lives they try to model me according to their ideas. Do you know what drives me crazy? That my father doesn't seem to want to find peace on his own. Realistically - he has two living and healthy daughters, great grandchildren, his own home, which is a decent income. He has told me many times that he admires my ability to cope with life on my own and to adapt. I consider myself generally a happy person - I have achieved quite a lot on my own. My children are decent and I have excellent communication with them and their fathers. And the only thing my father can't understand and forgive me about is the relationship with the men in my life. He can't swallow my philosophy that when a relationship ends emotionally, I won't be a woman, who cheat and push just to keep their family "in front of people." I've never loved these whore stories. Apparently this is a quality unworthy of respect according to my father. I am not told about how once as a child I suddenly returned from school to pick up a forgotten notebook (my mother was on the first shift and my father was resting after duty) and right at the door I passed an unknown woman who came out of our apartment with low-brimmed hat and bowed head. I never raised the issue, although even at the age of 12 it was not difficult for me to feel. This is the moral I spit on. It's hard for me, but I won't compromise anymore. I am not a criminal, nor is the person next to me. I will be happy to read more posts. I realized that I was relieved to share this burden. I am not told about how once as a child I suddenly returned from school to pick up a forgotten notebook (my mother was on the first shift and my father was resting after duty) and right at the door I passed an unknown woman who came out of our apartment with low-brimmed hat and bowed head. I never raised the issue, although even at the age of 12 it was not difficult for me to feel. This is the moral I spit on. It's hard for me, but I won't compromise anymore. I am not a criminal, nor is the person next to me. I will be happy to read more posts. I realized that I was relieved to share this burden. I am not told about how once as a child I suddenly returned from school to pick up a forgotten notebook (my mother was on the first shift and my father was resting after duty) and right at the door I passed an unknown woman who came out of our apartment with low-brimmed hat and bowed head. I never raised the issue, although even at the age of 12 it was not difficult for me to feel. This is the moral I spit on. It's hard for me, but I won't compromise anymore. I am not a criminal, nor is the person next to me. I will be happy to read more posts. I realized that I was relieved to share this burden. I never raised the issue, although even at the age of 12 it was not difficult for me to feel. This is the moral I spit on. It's hard for me, but I won't compromise anymore. I am not a criminal, nor is the person next to me. I will be happy to read more posts. I realized that I was relieved to share this burden. I never raised the issue, although even at the age of 12 it was not difficult for me to feel. This is the moral I spit on. It's hard for me, but I won't compromise anymore. I am not a criminal, nor is the person next to me. I will be happy to read more posts. I realized that I was relieved to share this burden.

   23, but it is not good for your father to be unfaithful, but it is also not good for you to change men like handkerchiefs. If by "emotionally ended relationship" you mean butterflies in the stomach, then you have not understood anything about family and relationships and that is where your problems come from. In order to officially change three men, I guess this is more or less your idea of ​​a relationship, but it's not. butterflies or "emotion". The very fact that you use the word "emotion" instead of "feelings" is indicative that you do not accept them as something long-term and something that needs to be built, but on some temporary almost fun and need. I don't want to blame you, I want to tell you that in addition to infidelity (putting on rags) and changing like handkerchiefs, there is a third option. Now I remember him saying that your newest husband was a foreigner. Maybe that added fuel to the fire. In a sense, he is obviously more conservative, and as such he may also have a problem, especially if he is a Muslim, a Negro or something. You know that in Bulgaria such people are not liked so much, especially for sons-in-law.

   Up to 24. I don't understand you. Do you want to make me a light woman or what? Even if I changed men like handkerchiefs .. :) Before my current husband, who by the way is Greek, I had exactly two more men. My first marriage was a student love, but after the signature he started cheating on me, which happened to him after the child was born and I would make fun of him. My second husband and I lived for 10 years. The main reason I was cold to him was that he did not accept my son from his first marriage. At the very beginning, he hypocritically pretended to accept him, but when his son was born, he completely changed his attitude. Over time, we have come a long way. And that's all. What handkerchiefs what five levs? While I looked after my children, studied and worked, my colleagues changed ten lovers ... but they stayed with the official halves and "worthy" daughters of their fathers. I have not cheated on anyone.

   Number 20. Thanks!

   Abe 19, who are you to administer justice, who is worthy and who is not ?! It is easiest here anonymous to make the world water. Only you know what kind of goods you are.

   To the author. Let us clarify some things: As far as I understand, your children do not live with you, but with their fathers, right? If your children live with you, how do they perceive your third husband? Finally, from the fact that you yourself say that you are emotionally relatively quickly oversaturated with your partners, I seriously ask you: how much time do you spend with your third husband? You hardly think you will be with him for the rest of your life.

   Author, stop looking for your father's approval. You are not 5 years old. Stop going to them alone. If they want to see you, let them command you, but there will also be the man you love and live with. If they treat him badly, then they treat you badly because they don't respect your choice, don't love you, and don't want you to be happy. Then you break contact. You have two children, two divorces behind you, and you can't say NO to mom and dad ... And you're not a whore. It is very clear that you will not sit with someone with whom you are not happy. And three men is not much at all.

   25, you are not easy, and you lack understanding of relationships and that is where your divorces come from. It's very likely you won't have one because of your father's infidelity, but you've obviously stumbled to the other extreme. I doubt the third is your last. And it's only a matter of time before you feel that the relationship is "emotionally over." It's not bad if you like it that way, but it's a pity for the children, because it will certainly affect them as adults.

   Up to 27 out of 19 - this is not the administration of justice, but asking a question for reflection. Who is what, what is, from one question you can not understand. Why jump right away? You made the woman a whore because she slept with 3 official men without cheating, but you can't say a word about her father, right? Can't we discuss what his behavior as a parent is towards his daughter and whether it is normal? And since I know what I am and I am not ashamed, I will tell you that I would never make my child come with a broken leg by bus or train to please his parental stubbornness and selfishness. I would never tell her how and with whom to live, because I have raised a complete person with my feelings, thoughts and desires and I have no right to confuse or make her seek my approval for everything, as if she were a small child. Who is her father to make her live with a man? with whom is she unhappy? Who is her father to set the tone for her in family life when he himself is cheating? Is this a moral person? How much does he care what people say when these same people watch him send his whore away from them? He disrespects her mother and apparently believes that his daughter should suffer the same disrespectful behavior. Or it's just one of those fathers who doesn't accept that their daughters have grown up and don't need them. This is his problem, and he passes it on to his daughter-in-law, causing her to suffer and punishing her for seeking her happiness. I will say again - I would break contact with him for a second. I'm tired of selfish parents committing themselves to poisoning their children instead of supporting them. that he himself is cheating? Is this a moral person? How much does he care what people say when these same people watch him send a whore away from them? He disrespects her mother and apparently believes that his daughter should suffer the same disrespectful behavior. Or it's just one of those fathers who doesn't accept that their daughters have grown up and don't need them. This is his problem, and he passes it on to his daughter-in-law, causing her to suffer and punishing her for seeking her happiness. I will say again - I would break contact with him for a second. I'm tired of selfish parents who are committed to poisoning their children instead of supporting them. that he himself is cheating? Is this a moral person? How much does he care what people say when these same people watch him send his whore away from them? He disrespects her mother and apparently believes that his daughter should suffer the same disrespectful behavior. Or it's just one of those fathers who doesn't accept that their daughters have grown up and don't need them. This is his problem, and he passes it on to his daughter-in-law, causing her to suffer and punishing her for seeking her happiness. I will say again - I would break contact with him for a second. I'm tired of selfish parents who are committed to poisoning their children instead of supporting them. Or it's just one of those fathers who doesn't accept that their daughters have grown up and don't need them. This is his problem, and he passes it on to his daughter-in-law, causing her to suffer and punishing her for seeking her happiness. I will say again - I would break contact with him for a second. I'm tired of selfish parents who dedicate themselves to poisoning their children instead of supporting them. Or it's just one of the fathers who doesn't accept that their daughters have grown up and don't need them. This is his problem, and he passes it on to his daughter-in-law, causing her to suffer and punishing her for seeking her happiness. I will say again - I would break contact with him for a second. I'm tired of selfish parents who dedicate themselves to poisoning their children instead of supporting them.

   Up to 28. My children are big. One is a student and lives separately, and the other is in high school and is with us. My husband has a wonderful relationship with them, they accept him and in this respect things are very good. As for the expression "emotional exhaustion" ... I used it because that's how it came to me. In a comment above, I explained why my relationship with my two exes failed - with the first one, whom I married at 18, because he was cheating on me systematically, and with the second one, because from the moment our child was born, he started behaving. bad with my son from my first marriage. I am not one of those women who fall in love ... With the person I am currently with, I feel happy, loved and valued ... I do not like big words, nor do I believe in "eternal" love. But this relationship is special because we are both mature people who have made enough mistakes,

   To 32. Come on, stop for a moment and don't pass the ball to the father. 28 years ago, when she was 12, she saw a woman wrapped in a hood coming out of them, which means a father, and he fucked this woman. Only God knows what it was, maybe a child's imagination. And my sister, after her divorce, blew men like sickles, and our father warned her not to come with men anymore. It is unpleasant for him to see her every time with a different one. Well, if we kill him - an old man.

   No, 34, no one makes the father change his mind. Just because he doesn't respect his daughter's choice, he won't see her either. You can't disrespect your child, but at the same time expect respect from him :).

   from number 10/24 33, author, if it is as you say and it is the whole truth, I agree that you are not light and irresponsible and you have divorced twice quite reasonably. But of course, my opinion is not important, but that of your father. It is normal for you to be in pain, he is still your father, no matter how much they say here not to seek his approval. I don't know, maybe you should explain to him that you're not easy, that you didn't want to squeeze your rags or cheat, and that you didn't happen to men. Because I think in his eyes you are light and irresponsible and that's why he feels hurt. Because really 2 divorces, 2 marriages, children from different men, a third man somehow does not sound good and I first thought you were another whore, but if so, as you say, I tend to change my mind. Maybe he should look at things that way, too. If he doesn't understand, just come to town with him, stay at a hotel and if he wants to see you, there is, if not - see only your mother. Maybe it will have a better effect, I know.

   One piece of advice to the author - don't tell them why you got divorced. Your job. Most of the "moralists" here broke more shit than you before they got married again. And who knows how much after that. Three men are a little even. Thank you for not splitting basma into garbage. Because they split, they want you to be in the pot with them;). And your question was different. What to do in this situation? The answer is simple - the next time mom and dad want you to visit them, tell them that you either go with your husband without comment, or just do not go. If they seem to agree, but after you go, your father behaves badly, again the same - you will not walk, if they behave like that and you really do not walk. You are a big woman, with two children - either they accept or they forget that they have a daughter. As long as the old man's tricks are over, he will not stop playing them and will not "accept sons-in-law". Another question is why do you need his permission or approval at all, and who was he to accept and decide who you will sleep with? You think about your father's point of view. And your husband's? The village father-in-law did not accept him without even knowing him. There is no one but you in this country. He treats you well. He loves you and accepts your child from another. You are happy. And what does he get in return? Daddy doesn't like you, but he's my daddy, he doesn't respect me, I have to respect him, so bye, I'm going to see him, and you stay here like a leper. Instead of defending him and advocating for your choice, you play the old man's whistle. To tell you about me, this is a humiliation and I would dump you in a second. I don't want to attack you. You are a strong woman. You can say NO to your adulterous husband, you can say NO to someone who doesn't respect your child, but you can't say NO to Daddy. It's time for you and that's why before you were told NO.

   Up to 36. I have no reason to save the truth, yet here it is anonymous, and the goal is to get advice and help. As for talking to my father, I've tried several times to explain ... he doesn't want to hear me. Children were most important, I was selfish. Well, I couldn't stand it, I got divorced, but why did I need another man, a Greek? !! I could look after my children and go with someone, but so ... discreetly, without people seeing me. These are my father's thoughts. Starting these topics and always ending with a quarrel and then anger for months. I'm crazy about this "what people will say" and this dual morality. I will take into account the opinions of several people here who advised me to be tougher and not to give up. Those who criticize me for leaving my husband alone on holidays are right ....

   37, thanks! I will do so, no matter how hard it is for me, because the last thing I want is to upset him. But as my eldest son said on this occasion - mom, he is upset.

   Your son is absolutely right. If he is normal, he will want you to be happy, he will not poison you with such nonsense. Your father just doesn't want you to have a husband because he doesn't accept that you've grown up and it's okay to start your own family - divorce or people aren't a problem. His arguments are ridiculous. And what will people say if you bring uncles for sex and sit alone the rest of the time. Is being a whore just for sex better? He deliberately plays these theaters because his numbers are running out and he wants to be alone. If you continue not to impose any limits on him and to explain yourself to him, you will really be left alone, as he wants, believe me. Then he will be happy, but you will be extremely unhappy. What kind of father wants someone to go and fuck his daughter "discreetly" and then be alone, at his disposal, without having to put up with sons-in-law? Hey people croaked. To look after his wife and not to interfere in another's family. He had a wife and children. Why don't you have a husband? Really put things on edge and tell him either you accept my husband or you forget you have a daughter and a point. 100% will have some fairs, he will get "sick", he will manipulate you with a sense of guilt and duty, but if you are firm, he will be forced to comply and respect. What did he do to interfere in your personal relationships?

   What does it mean to upset him? Doing anything different from what he tells you? Have a husband? Divorce when you are not respected and you are not loved? He is upset by his demands on you, believing that he has the right to dictate your life. This is his problem. He has no such right and it is high time he accepted it. It is high time for you to stop seeking his approval, to put your husband first, and to stop your father's disrespectful behavior, as you did with your ex. Either he accepts that you have a man and behaves humanely, or he forgets about you. Be firm.

   Who knows how much nonsense you have seen and now what a greasy brazier you have caught for a man (amazing why beautiful Bulgarian women run into disgusting braziers from foreign countries, it is obviously a distortion). If he has any stricter rules about how you should behave in a relationship, and you are obviously making the wrong choice after the wrong choice, the person just raised his hands and it is completely normal and I understand it.

   How can you not be ashamed, author, of blaming your father? And you, the other great specialists, came out. What if your daughters went to change men every few years and drag them home, what would you think? Come on! Author, maintain a normal relationship with your father without forcing your new Greek husband on him. Your father loves you, and you're not 20 years old to bother. With this Greek, God knows how much you will earn, I hope it is true love, and if it is not, you will lose it, but your father will remain your father and you will go to him again. How old are you to introduce your lovers to your father, if he had a child from him anyway, but now in this situation I see no point in wasting nerves. You are not right! Go to your house, hug your father and tell him that you love him and you will respect his decision. And he, if he changes his mind - welcome.

   42, who is her father to impose his norms and choose a man for her old age? Why wait for Daddy to approve of her men?

   Alooo, 42, I'm taking it easy! Are there any admins here? Aren't there rules, why are such comments allowed? When you can't give adequate advice, why do you pour your anger and negativity on people who don't even know what they look like? !! And I had never read a more ridiculous comment. Her father had strict norms ... Well, to have them. If you think it's normal to interfere in your children's privacy and impose "norms", you risk being left alone.

   Up to 42 by the Author. It's not worth wasting my time replying to such an ugly comment, but just to let you know that I'm not a whore or a muffin waiting for someone to watch and feed her to let them tell me how to be. I live life. I have been working since I was 18, I have supported myself at the university, everything I have achieved, I have achieved it ALONE! I have never asked permission from anyone for anything, I do not owe anything to anyone and I have not done anything bad to anyone! I try to be on good terms with my loved ones and if I share here, it is because I want to see if there is anyone with a similar problem and how it works.

   I'm # 20. You have two big children and according to my calculations you are 42-44 years old. Your father is my age, I am 67. In our time there was enough emancipation and divorce for your father to claim. His claims are an expression of lack of parental love and desire for control and domination. I have children and their decisions are made by themselves, and the consequences are borne. I don't interfere with them and I don't expect them to spend the holidays with me. Call, congratulations and when possible a coffee with pasta or dinner together necessarily outside my home in neutral territory. My husband is already old and any home visits make him tired, I have to take care of him as he took care of my children when they were small and needed money. Parents are up to date, their understandings / morality / upbringing and education are different, we raise their children and find their partners. We remain with our choice of companion in life. If it doesn't work, you change it and move on, I became a widow with small children and I am a poorly paid teacher. The second time I met my mother-in-law's classmate and a good man. She supported me, my mother did not.

My second husband raised my children and they respect him and on holidays they call him especially personally, with one we live in one city, with the other in different continents. It is a very vicious practice in Bulgaria to give binding instructions to children and to consider it good. No, it's not. Everyone makes their own choices and decisions. I give advice, also unsolicited, according to my understanding and knowledge of the modern world, but the choices are theirs. The consequences too. The second time I met my mother-in-law's classmate and a good man. She supported me, my mother did not. My second husband raised my children and they respect him and on holidays they call him especially in person, with one we live in one city, with the other in different continents. It is a very vicious practice in Bulgaria to give binding instructions to children and to consider it as good. No, it's not. Everyone makes their own choices and decisions. I give advice, also unsolicited, according to my understanding and knowledge of the modern world, but the choices are theirs. The consequences too. The second time I met my mother-in-law's classmate and a good man. She supported me, my mother did not. My second husband raised my children and they respect him and on holidays they call him especially personally, with one we live in one city, with the other in different continents. It is a very vicious practice in Bulgaria to give binding instructions to children and to consider it good. No, it's not. Everyone makes their own choices and decisions. I give advice, also unsolicited, according to my understanding and knowledge of the modern world, but the choices are theirs. The consequences too. It is a very vicious practice in Bulgaria to give binding instructions to children and to consider it good. No, it's not. Everyone makes their own choices and decisions. I give advice, also unsolicited, according to my understanding and knowledge of the modern world, but the choices are theirs. The consequences too. It is a very vicious practice in Bulgaria to give binding instructions to children and to consider it as good. No, it's not. Everyone makes their own choices and decisions. I give advice, also unsolicited, according to my understanding and knowledge of the modern world, but the choices are theirs. The consequences too.

   Author, what we do is cut off contact with relatives who do not respect us, including our parents.

   43, hide somewhere. What about elementary and rural thinking? Parents are up to date and have no right to dictate your life, as well as to interfere with you, not to respect you, but to expect respect. And for the record - your parents are up to date. One day you won't have them, and if you walk on your father's ass, you won't have anyone to cry with one day.

   42.43 ... hopefully the moralists too! Only you know how moral you are, as well as everyone here who is very indignant that a woman is looking for happiness. God knows what your families are like, but you sit down to read a horse and judge. It is not the author who becomes a child, but the father! The woman explained to you that she has been living with this man for years, you are talking about a "lover"! Are you okay ?? It's not the job of parents to tell their children how to live, stick it in the pumpkins. But would this be her last husband! What if she broke up with him too? If, if ... if it smells! I will change as many men as he wants. Maybe - change! Life is one. You number 43, for example, are you sure that the next day you will be alive and well? I do not! One does not know how much one is destined for, so let him live his life without listening to anyone! Author, try to talk to your father again, and if he cuts you off again,

   Up to 47 (20) by the Author - thank you for the words. I already manage to gather and organize my thoughts and I am calmer.

   So, so the author teaches you well. Get rid of your father, get him out of your life, because he was old, idiot and crazy, and he doesn't understand you. Act, crush and you will be happy .....

   I am 20/42. I read the topic to my grandfather at the age of 91. He was amazed at the desire to visit in person and spend the holidays together. We no longer live in one town and face-to-face meetings are a luxury, but he communicates with our grandchildren in Australia every day via Skype. We've never seen them live, he won't last the flight there, I won't leave him alone, I love him. They can't afford that much money for 6 round trip tickets. My son / us came two years ago to work in Paris UNESCO and came to Sofia for 3 hours. So much, we love him, but life has changed, we communicate on the Internet. Sometimes he helps us with money if we need it. He accepted my little children as his / we don't have ours / and they call him father and still consult with him and respect his opinion. I didn't have to balance between the children and the second husband. My mother treated him very badly, insulted him, tried to set me against him. I was very tormented by grief and adversity, poverty and family quarrels over my father's inheritance. I met him as a lawyer in a division case, my mother-in-law took me. Take care of me, the children and somehow the world got better, brighter and the children from the orphanage started asking about it. For a month or two we got together and never parted. It never crossed my mind to listen to the claims of my mother and relatives.

When I had problems and I was wondering how we would make a living, they were gone, when a man showed up, they had claims. Then my views on relatives, friends and relationships with them became clearer. By deeds, and by words it is known! deprivation and family quarrels over inheritance from my father. I met him as a lawyer in a division case, my mother-in-law took me. Take care of me, the children and somehow the world got better, brighter and the children from the orphanage started asking about it. For a month or two we got together and never parted. It never crossed my mind to listen to the claims of my mother and relatives. When I had problems and I was wondering how we would make a living, they were gone, when a man showed up, they had claims. Then my views on relatives, friends and relationships with them became clearer. By deeds, and by words it is known! deprivation and family quarrels over inheritance from my father. I met him as a lawyer in a division case, my mother-in-law took me. Take care of me, the children and somehow the world got better, brighter and the children from the orphanage started asking about it. For a month or two we got together and never parted. It never crossed my mind to listen to the claims of my mother and relatives. When I had problems and I was wondering how we would make a living, they weren't there, when a man showed up, they made claims. Then my views on relatives, friends and relationships with them became clearer. By deeds, and by words it is known! It never crossed my mind to listen to the claims of my mother and relatives. When I had problems and I was wondering how we would make a living, they were gone, when a man showed up, they had claims. Then my views on relatives, friends and relationships with them became clearer. By deeds, and by words it is known! It never crossed my mind to listen to the claims of my mother and relatives. When I had problems and I was wondering how we would make a living, they were gone, when a man showed up, they had claims. Then my views on relatives, friends and relationships with them became clearer. By deeds, and by words it is known!

   Again, I'm 20, 42, 53 ... Up to # 52 My peers are neither old nor crazy! Some men measure themselves with a different yardstick (mistress can, everything else too!), But for the daughter ... Aww, what will people say, the same ones who don't really care about anything, just grind the talk like gum. Everyone is born alone, lives among people, but only with those who love and love him! Everything else is hypocrisy and falsehood. No one has the right to ask for more than he gives. We have relatives by obligation, not because we are friends and sympathizers with them. So many crimes take place between relatives, they freeze for an inch of land and BGN 1,000. EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HAPPINESS, regardless of whether the relatives like it!

   # 52 the girl writes here precisely because she wants to communicate NORMALLY with her father, only he has become childish and makes her choose - either he or her husband! This is not the behavior of a person who loves! That's what I think. What do you suggest? To abandon her husband and four-year relationship and go and live with her father to please him? Tighten it up a bit!