Hello woman I'm 42 three years ago we got together to live with my friend. We are both from different religions, but that doesn't stop us from getting along perfectly. The problem is with the father-in-law who constantly gets on my nerves and thinks that I am his maid, he is even waiting for me to cut bread for him. My husband and I constantly have a voice in our family problems. Not to mention that he is a big gossip, everything that is heard at home is taken outside. We live in the countryside and it's .... I talked to my husband about these problems, he gave him a remark, but then he did what he wanted. Please advice I don't want to be a maid.
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Well, after 3 years, your cohabitation model has already been established. A little later you remembered to assert yourself and rebel. Now the only way out is to be absolutely categorical. To react as soon as his father tries to interfere in your conversations - to tell him that these are your things and you will decide them yourself and either leave the room or politely ask him to leave you alone. Your husband will also have to be adamant in taking your side. Everything you don't think is right to do at home - you just stop doing it. If he gets something dirty and doesn't clean up after himself - you leave him like that and he is later reminded that he did it and it is his duty. If he sits and waits for you to cut his bread - not only do not cut it, but next time do not serve him bread - let him take it himself. You can also directly refuse to talk to him anymore,
Just sit down and agree with your husband what you want. If you don't want to be confused, he's the person to tell her. Be firm and set boundaries. For example, if she has a habit of coming uninvited, lock and do not open it. If she's trying to tell you who's going to do what, your husband might say something like, "Thank you for the advice, share the housework with my father as you wish, but at home we decide." Parents go as far as their own children allow. If you live together, it is best to move out.
Tell him clearly that you are not a servant. If you are going to do something, if you are going to help, it will be in good faith. Be sure to talk to your husband. Tell him that such behavior on the part of your father-in-law will affect the relationship between you in the long run and may ruin it.
Why do you live with him? Go to your home. If you do not have - accommodation.
I'm sorry, but you will be. Do you have eighth grade? Of course not - you will naturally be a maid, what else can you be, as at 42, your level is a second grader.
Once you are in his house your service staff. You earn rent for a home with services. Good, bad, this is the situation. You want independence without being independent, you remember that there is no way.
From the author! Please no insults please! To number 5 and 7, please without insults. YES I have more than 8th grade.
Well, don't cut bread for him, to starve to death if he wants to. To see how it will turn out and cut. If he asks, you hand him the bread, point to the knife, and ask, "You know where the breadboard is?"
of 5 This is not an insult, but a fact. You are illiterate, respected, but you are pretentious. Not only will you cut the bread of the old man, but you will also wash his feet. I am convinced that you are unemployed, do not have your own home and are mired in quick loans, as is your lover. Kiss your grandfather's hand, be grateful that he took you home and squeeze your rags.
I counted 22 mistakes in the 8 sentences of the topic, the supposed 8th grade is quite a high level for the author. So many mistakes and third graders do not make in such a small text! Author, if you do not have an education, if you do not have a high-paying job and you do not have your own home, you have to endure the claims of the one who provided you with a roof.
You don't write whose home you went to live in? If it belongs to the father-in-law in question and you are not satisfied, there is no way to evict him. And it is best to separate - if you do not have the opportunity for your own home, accommodation. You will not serve him there.
From the author. TO number 11. When I read what you wrote, I think you are illiterate if you attack a person like that. I'm not unemployed, you can dream of my profession. . I don't have a lover and I don't know a man about you. You miss the first seven years!
"Comments that are written illiterately, in Latin or capital letters will not be added!" - from the rules of the site. If strictly observed, many scriptures would not see the light of day. Everyone can make a mistake, yes, sometimes in a hurry not to hit a key, but poor literacy is very clear. Given that there are dozens of variants for spelling in Bulgarian, it is not justified to put texts with ten errors in three sentences. Do not be angry when they show you the mistakes, but try to avoid them, the spelling says a lot about the new person.
Author, you are offended, but you have a mistake in the title - not the father-in-law, but the father-in-law, with a full article. This is taught at an elementary level.
Author, if you have a dream job of ours, why did you come under someone else's roof? Why not buy your own home where there will be no one to cut bread for?
I'm number 7 and I haven't written insults. If you take it that way, I'm not at all surprised that you don't get along with the person in whose home you live. I wonder, however, what this dream profession will be, without education, without elementary literacy, without upbringing and without any connection to reality. I am a primary school teacher, you have 24 mistakes in your text, the children in the second grade write more competently and they know what this "miracle" punctuation is.
I don't know if the story is true, but it is written so illiterately. You can't put a comma and confuse the location, and you write it. You don't have a basic spelling culture, so first learn to write and then complain.
Author, it's easy. Get out, you will be independent and you will do whatever you want. Only then will you become a real family.