Hello. I am 17 years old and for 8-9 years now my mother and brother and I have been constantly harassed by my father. He behaves as if he is the most important person at home, he makes us do whatever he wants and if we don't do it - he starts shouting, banging and punishing me and my brother. When I was younger he beat me and there were cases when I was with big wounds or I was afraid to look at him and contact him for days. He only complains, he is too lazy to do anything at home, he behaves hellishly impudently and I can't stand him anymore ... Because I want to avoid most questions I will say the following things - we have always behaved normally with him and we have tried to make him happy and surprise him often, but he still behaves like that ... He can't behave like that with me for grades or for something related to education and school, because I'm an excellent student, I am fighting for a scholarship, and he himself was not a very good student ... All this affects me and my behavior ... I close myself, I do not communicate with anyone, I want to be given more attention simply because I want to I have someone to share what weighs on me, and I do not have such a person because I am closed and do not communicate with many people. Please give me advice ... What to do ... I can't take it anymore ... I'm even starting to think about suicide and such nonsense that I used to avoid, but I'm already starting to think about whether this won't be the best option for me ... I totally despaired of all this and I just can't take it anymore .... to whom to share what weighs on me, and I do not have such a person, because I am closed and do not communicate with many people. Please give me advice ... What to do ... I can't take it anymore ... I'm even starting to think about suicide and such nonsense that I used to avoid, but I'm already starting to think about whether this won't be the best option for me ... I totally despaired of all this and I just can't take it anymore .... to whom to share what weighs on me, and I do not have such a person, because I am closed and do not communicate with many people. Please give me advice ... What to do ... I can't take it anymore ... I'm even starting to think about suicide and such nonsense that I used to avoid, but I'm already starting to think about whether this won't be the best option for me ... I totally despaired of all this and I just can't take it anymore ....
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Exclude all possible thoughts of suicide! Is it worth interrupting your life so early because of another person ?! What about your mother? She will hardly survive it if she has such a husband! When you turn 18, run to an apartment and away from it and you will get on your feet.
Most likely your father has a mental disorder. I suspect he is a borderline person, read in google. You find a job when you turn 18 and go out with a friend.
You are almost an adult. In a year you can move out and take your life in your hands. It will be very difficult for you, but in such a toxic environment you will not survive long without an extremely negative impact on your psyche. I find another way out of the situation. You are three, he is one. Talk to your mother, tell her everything you wrote here. Give this woman a little courage to remove a stressful person from the life of all three of you and give you a chance to live normally again. Listen to her point of view.
I am already 31 and I have endured all this years from my father. He hurts a lot in my life, he has stressed me out and he is very nasty at the moment, he does bad things against my mother, he calls my sister at work to expose her, telling lies. In general, he is a very naughty person and I am ashamed of him .... There is nothing we can do, he has a share in the house and he feels great. We take all the bills and feed him. I live elsewhere, but I'm constantly afraid of what's going on at home and I'm coming back. Export is not a solution. If anyone can share what to do against this type of nasty and brazen insolence, please share. But beware, there are such trials in life. You know, there are many such cases.
Writes the person who started the topic. Getting out is not as easy as you think and say it with such ease, and it is not so ... First, I am one of those more closed people and I have tried to work. I worked in the summer but didn't last more than a month. I realized I was still too young. In addition, I intend to pursue higher education. If I start working and studying at the same time will not last mentally ... Or I may think so, because I worked in Sunny Beach and there I guess you know that it is very hard and maybe it will be easier for me if I find a job elsewhere . And for the fact that I can tell my mother to do something about it, there is no way ... I've already tried and she says she doesn't want to, because either she tells me that she's not a tamer, or she can't, because for example he will and scolded her and she just doesn't want / doesn't care ... All this affects me terribly ... I constantly need to share my emotions, and when I start doing it, I start to think that I am bothering people with my problems, and they have their own to deal with ... No I know ... I feel like I've despaired on such a high level ... that I just don't see any solution in this anymore ... I wonder if I'm the problem and should I do something ... writing here now it calms me down a bit because I share everything and only the one who cares about my story / problem reads it. I don't even know why I wrote here at the beginning in the hope that someone would give me an idea to fix this situation, knowing that no ... If someone wants to talk about it in person and has the same problem or just wants to communicate with me you can to add me to a game I play - league of legends. I play in EUNE and my name is Lux Daddy. I say my name there, realizing that not everyone plays this game or, for example, there are people older than me and they are not interested in these things. These people think radically differently from me because they have lived longer than me and have already gone through similar trials, if that makes sense and I just won't get along with them. I hope they understand me. With people my age or at least with the same interests, I think I would get along easier and yes ... Those who do not play can always continue to answer here.
And why does your mother tolerate it? Can't you see how he's been behaving for so long? Either kick him out or get rid of him .... What keeps you so? Everything has its limits. He has personal problems and blames them on you.
Author: It doesn't work. My mother is still with him because of his money. If it wasn't for him, we wouldn't have what we have now ... The house is his and if we leave there will be nowhere to go ... She won't be able to handle these things on her own.