Hello, I am 17 years old and I live with both my parents, we go on trips, on vacations, in a word, at first glance we are a very nice family. Dad's job is related to trade, ie we have our own shop where Daddy works and is completely dedicated to his work. Because our store is open from 10 to 20 in the evening during the week and I don't see him all day, but the store doesn't work only 2 days a week and then we spend time with the whole family together. But in the last 4, 5 years, Daddy has often started to be late with the excuses that he still has work to do, he has to go to the warehouse, or refuel, go to the store to shop, etc., and instead of coming home at 9 p.m. returns at 22, 23 hours. Mom and I are waiting for him for dinner, but he is not there and so we stay waiting. I've talked to my mom on this topic that sometimes my dad really gets late because he closes the store later and has a job, but I'm worried about something else. I think he's going to another woman. Mother and she think the same that she goes to another, I talked to her why not divorce or something but she does not want to divorce because I would suffer. I love him very much but what makes us cheat hurts me a lot. Help me and give me advice what to do?
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I understand how you feel, my parents also break my heart by screaming. Yes, it is very likely that your father will go to another woman, but almost no one leaves his family for a lover. Maybe he's missing something in your marriage to your mother, or he's just been misled temporarily. Divorce is a difficult procedure, mostly emotionally, I think it may not get there. I think your mother should sit down and have a very frank conversation with your father.
At the age of 17 he is almost an adult man, and you speak like a two-year-old "mom, mom, dad, dad, mom". Tighten it up and instead of interfering with "mom and dad" think about how you will perform and you will find a girlfriend.
At 17 and that boy, what about "daddy" ??
Hello number 2 and 3 people want advice not to make fun of
I'm number 2 and my advice, as I wrote, is not to get involved in things that are not his job. It is unacceptable for his mother to comment with him that the father is cheating - he is her son, not her best friend. Such problems should be solved only between the parents, without interfering and adjusting the children, without being placed between the hammer and the anvil and without them being forced to solve problems that are not theirs. We don't know why the father cheats in the end - he's probably missing something. Looking at the delayed maturation of the author and the childish way he speaks, I can assume that he slept with mom and dad in the bedroom, that his mom has him as a second man and did not pay attention to her real husband at all. She taught her son to be emotionally dependent and prevented his separation and formation as an independent person with his own individuality. To run away - for himself, to mature, and because he does not have to solve problems between his parents.
Why are you making fun of the boy? And what about saying mom and dad? !! And my 17-year-old daughter tells me cheats, mommy. When you do not want and cannot give advice, shut up and respect the feelings and pain of others!
And you number 6, apart from the fact that we also understood that you can't accept that your daughter has grown up or you want to prevent this from happening, will you give any advice?