Hello! I hope my story will be published, because a lot of my problems remained unresolved because they were not published. And so - I'm 16, girl. From a very young age, my father did not show that he loved me - he always insulted me and hardly spoke to me except insults. I have never heard the words "I love you" from him, he has never hugged me and I gave up doing it 6 years ago. He and his mother divorced three years ago. I stayed with her, and he continued his life as if nothing had happened. He has a girlfriend, goes to sea with her and her child, and he didn't take me anywhere. She's a bad person, I don't want her, so I asked him on my birthday to just go out, but he didn't agree. So I just decided to forget about him, because he's just an irresponsible piece of junk who has done nothing for me. I can't even cry anymore, I used to disappoint me. I wonder why he created me in the first place.
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Everything comes back sooner or later, so don't bother. You are not the only one in such a situation. Say fuck it and be happy.
Being stupid shouldn't make you sad at all. Reading your story, I see part of mine and from experience I can tell you that maybe he is doing you a favor, that he does not want to be in your life. This type of person would not be an example. The other thing is that sooner or later he will look for you (and I didn't believe it would happen), but you won't be interested in him at all anymore.
You know, these cases are quite common. I understand you very well. I am 13 and adopted. I really hate to say it. I can't take it, even though I've known it since I was 6 years old. My foster parents are very kind and my father always hugs me, but there seems to be a gap inside me. They told me that my biological parents did not want me. My mother was 20 and my father was 38. It was overnight sex and when he found out she was pregnant he left her. Her family did not support her and had to leave me. At least you have a mother who loves you, so be grateful for the little you have.
Sad. I can't give you advice, but I can predict your future. The lack of fatherly love will prompt you to make countless mistakes, most of which will be with boys, but if you are lucky and determined you will grow up and be a very strong person.
Don't be rubbish. Neither strangers nor their own garbage. Such a trauma would push you into the abyss. If you look at it, it will pull you down, and if you jump to the stars, sooner or later they will grab your hand. Your father is rubbish, that's clear. Use it as an example of what not to be. Choose your friends wisely. Don't try to drown your pain with alcohol or drugs. If you feel pain, try to overcome it. There are many methods, such as meditation. Live in the pain, fight it and conquer it.
It's the same with me, but I'm a man of 24. Since last year, the relationship with my father has not been normal. Although he realized that I would not come to visit him, let him be angry to find out where his mistake is. I was left without a father anyway, but it's for my own good. He wasn't a good man anyway.
What is your father for - he insults you, ignores you and is obviously stupid and elementary. You are a gift from God to your parents, and the fact that one does not deserve you and does not appreciate you is his problem. You'd better be without him in these facts, accept that it's as if he's dead, rejoice that you have a mother who loves you and help her. Don't ask for love that you deserve at birth !!! And always be honest with him. Say what you think about his attitude and express your resentment clearly. Do not hide it and do not despair. Treat him as he treats you. And tell him the truth in his eyes if he gets upset. You are a person and a person above all, respect and love yourself, look after your other relatives, friends, love at a later stage. You do not depend on his love, nor did you need such an attitude. The problem is entirely his, that he gives up the love of his child and does not give it, not yours. He will pay and he will understand his mistake, but this is his choice. Take it as a bad example for a partner and be very careful who you give your heart to.