Hi, I'm a 17-year-old girl, I'll be 18 soon. I want you to help me with a problem, I guess familiar to many girls, namely the first time. Let me start my story from the beginning ... my friend and I have been together for almost 3 years, he is 18 and we have talked about the first time many times, at the very beginning of our relationship, we have been talking about it for the first months. We thought to do it in the first year, but we constantly postponed so that we were both ready, and now I think I'm ready, too, but I'm afraid of it, I'm afraid to do it for the first time, because a lot of mine girlfriends tell me that it hurts a lot, that there is a lot of blood and it's unpleasant, others tell me that it didn't hurt much, but there was a lot of blood and vice versa ... I had all sorts of points of view, most of my girlfriends' experience . I have read on this topic a lot ... I am sexually literate and I know that pain and bleeding depend on the type of hymen and the abundance of the menstrual cycle, which in turn also depends on the type of membrane. I know what mine is - with one hole, but big and the abundance of my flow during my menstrual cycle is great, according to what I read it shouldn't hurt so much, but I can't believe everything on the Internet and I want your advice , whether from experience or not. I also don't refuse advice from boys about whether they are worried the first time, whether they are in pain and how they approach virgin girls. I tried a piece of advice given to me by a friend and it is to reach with my finger to see how wide it is and if I will feel pain ... I reached with one finger and it didn't hurt ... the space enveloped my finger as if it were just right. I did not confuse more, because I read that it is possible to open with your fingers, and I want my first time to be with a boy, after all, this is something that should be done with a person you trust and love. There is another detail - my boyfriend has also not had sex so far and told me that he is worried about hurting me in some way. Quite often I've encountered taunts from my classmates like "You're 17 and you haven't had sex, you're very crazy," but I don't think I'm crazy about my choice to wait, not do it. to account for one of the no longer virgin girls. Please give me advice on how not to hurt me so much, if it doesn't hurt at all, is it bad, but what if there is no blood? We will do it with a condom, because safety comes first! I will be happy if you share how it was with your first time boys and girls. Thank you in advance!
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These are the people today. Those who are virgins and have principles and self-respect are laughed at, and those who have sex with different people are very busy and developed. I want to tell you that I am a girl of 21 and a daughter, a virgin. Not because I don't give a damn and I haven't had the opportunity to do it, but because I haven't wanted or met a serious person to love and give myself to him. You've been with this boy for a long time, I'm glad you found love, give yourself to him. Each pain is different I guess. R 21
My first time was hasty, but it doesn't matter. There was no blood in me. The pain wasn't much, I narrowed my eyes for a moment, it hurt, and it was. He was a careful son of a bitch with a normal penis size (now I'm making a comparison when I got more experience). My personal advice to you is to be careful when choosing a condom, not to be embossed in any case! Do not hurry! Get as aroused as possible to be well moisturized and the pain is not so strong. When aroused, the pain decreases because of the adrenaline (personally tested!) So make sure you are aroused enough. If you are not and your anxiety overcomes, my advice is not to do so. Try another time. Congratulations on your patience and good luck! I wish you a lot of happiness, love and passion! ❤❤❤ M. C 19 F
The first time you both won't like it. It would be good if the first time is with a powerful, experienced. Not that your boy won't make it. The important thing is to be careful, not to hurry, because it will end with 2-3 pushes and you will not understand anything from your first time. You have to trust him, believe in him. They don't blame him if he doesn't succeed. There is another time.
Would you tell me this detail where you read it "pain and bleeding depend on the type of hymen and the abundance of the menstrual cycle, which in turn also depends on the type of membrane." The skin, and the skin! What have you filmed so much. Drink a glass of wine with friends, but no more to relax a bit. You will not bleed or hurt much. Thank God, many women have experienced it and many men have coped. The more you touch on this issue, the more you strain.
I don't know what to advise you, of course, the first time is important in a girl's life and the worry is great, but once you do, you will see that it is neither so scary nor disturbing. The important thing is not to be so afraid and not to worry, because in this way you will make things worse. Relax, you've been with your friend for a long time, you trust him, you love each other. Try to become completely natural, when you start do not think about anything, do not think about whether it will hurt you, how much blood there will be, etc., just enjoy that you are close to the person you love and you will have the opportunity to you experience this with him. Believe me, things will happen by themselves. Now about the opening itself, you yourself said everyone is different, so I can only talk about myself. There is pain, for example, for me the opening did not happen the first time, maybe it wasn't until the second or third time that he penetrated me completely. I was also 17. And as I said, there was pain, but it was not something very scary, completely bearable. I guess it depends on the boy too. As for the blood, I didn't have much, to say almost nothing, but my girlfriend, for example, had a lot, and the second time there was blood again, so everyone is different. I want to wish you success, I hope everything goes well :)
At the risk of being stigmatized as a pervert, stoned to death and burned at the stake ... I would advise you to start "backwards" - in other words - the first few times to do it in the ass. And only after you start to feel comfortable with each other and work more synchronously to move to the "main" part. Twice in my life I have slept with a virgin girl - the first time we drove directly and it was a complete tragedy. The second girl and I drove as described above. In the interest of truth, she offered it, I didn't find the hot water, it was a fur coat for the front - friends had frightened her. After a few times (and industrial quantities of lubricant) again, she decided she was ready for a front experience and it went pretty smoothly. If for the third time I happen to come across a virgin (unlikely) then I would certainly apply the same method (if she agrees of course). Whatever you decide - success!
I am a boy of 21 and until 6 months ago I was a virgin. I don't have a problem with my penis if anyone would think that, for beauty I don't like to brag and I can't define myself But according to the girls I'm quite beautiful and with a pretty body, since I was little I love sports and I'm quite athletic, to be honest in the eyes of the girls I am a typical "womanizer" for unknown reasons. Maybe that's why I've always come across the so-called "light girls", those who don't care how smart I am in my head and how beautiful I am, that's why I haven't had sex until now. I just feel what I like about them and I don't want to have a relationship with them, so I haven't had sex with them, I just can't take advantage of a girl and just go away. As I share this with my friends, I am constantly ridiculed for having become a monk. I was brought up not to do anything to someone that I wouldn't like if they did it to me, and that's how I proceed. I wouldn't like it if someone took advantage of me not only to have sex with anything and then leave, and that's exactly why I didn't do it myself, but all these girls and they are very really who have tried to be with me, they all saw muscles and faces, nothing but nothing else. I like how they look but I can't have anything to do with them just because of that, it's absurd for me. I met love a year ago, the girl was 20 and a virgin and to this day she does not believe that I have never had sex with anyone. It's absurd for someone to say it's a shame to be a virgin, girls and boys laughed at me a lot because I didn't hide it, when it came to sex when we were in company, I said directly, I am a virgin. Just relax everything will fall into place:) :) :) :) :)
Be sure to take a lubricant, preferably silicone-based. It is possible that you are not excited enough out of anxiety, but you need to be well moisturized. Drink a glass of wine. Do not get drunk in any case, just relax. Kisses, caresses and attention. Even if it doesn't work the first time, don't give up. If your skin is elastic, as it was with me, it will be easier and there will be no blood. You will feel discomfort, but be patient. If you have a more fleshy hymen, it will hurt more. That is what I have heard. Good luck, and no scary. Everyone has experienced it.